# WeDeepen: full text for language models > Plain-text version of wedeepen.com's core pages, blog, answer pages, and podcast episode summaries. Generated from the live site's HTML; the linked pages are the source of truth. Index: https://wedeepen.com/llms.txt --- ## WeDeepen | Relationship Coaching Community & Retreats URL: https://wedeepen.com/ ## Get better at love, one week at a time. Start with WeDeepen’s $99/month membership. It’s an expert-led community for getting better at how you date, communicate, handle conflict, build intimacy, and connect. Become a Member · $99/month What’s included Join today. Come Tuesday at 7pm ET. As Seen In ### WeDeepen Membership at a glance #### Weekly sessions Masterminds, relationship workshops, bonding & integration #### Private community Circle discussions + Ask the Experts #### Real-world practice Weekly Sunday Dares by text + email Whether you’re dating, building something new, or keeping a long love alive, the skills underneath are the same. ### Love has a much messier learning curve than most things we get good at. We develop skills in work, health, and sport through learning, practice, and feedback. Love is usually left to experience. WeDeepen gives you a place to build the skill of love deliberately, including learning to tell the difference between: Chemistry versus alignment A rough patch versus a repeating pattern Healthy compromise versus losing yourself A real concern versus an old fear getting triggered ### Build the skills that make love easier to navigate. - 01 Choose relationships that fit the life you actually want. - 02 Recognize patterns before you repeat them with someone new. - 03 Get clearer on where you stand and what you want. - 04 Speak up sooner about needs, boundaries, and expectations. - 05 Have hard conversations without losing the connection. - 06 Repair conflict before hurt turns into distance. - 07 Keep intimacy, attraction, and play alive over time. - 08 Build trust that can handle change, mistakes, and uncertainty. ### What’s included in your membership #### Weekly live sessions Every Tuesday at 7pm ET. A rotating mix of ways to learn, practice, and integrate. - Love Masterminds built around real relationship questions and situations. - Sessions with professionals across dating, intimacy, communication, and relationships. - Bonding exercises with other members. - Integration Sessions to unpack what you’re learning and experiencing. #### Private member community A place to keep the conversation going between sessions. - Ask the Experts Q&A with WeDeepen’s relationship professionals. - Private discussions inside Circle. - Bring up dating, sex, intimacy, conflict, attraction, or anything else you’re working through. - Connect with members, compare perspectives, and share useful resources. #### Weekly practice + recordings Ways to stay involved even when you’re outside a session. - A new Sunday Dare delivered by text and email each week. - Playful social and connection challenges to try in real life. - Recordings of every Love Mastermind from the time you join forward. - Access to the membership calendar so you can see what’s coming up. Start anytime Join today. Come Tuesday at 7pm ET. Live every Tuesday at 7:00 PM Eastern, 6:00 PM Central, 5:00 PM Mountain, 4:00 PM Pacific. Next new member orientation is Monday, October 5 . $99 a month is nothing next to what getting it wrong costs: years of your life, bad dates, divorce, starting over. Monthly $99 /month Cancel anytime. Become a Member Best value Annual $990 /year Two months free. Billed once a year. Plus $800 credit toward one Love Immersion retreat * Join for the Year *The $800 Love Immersion credit is for the first 20 annual members, is valid for one retreat during your membership year and can’t be combined with any other discount or offer. Details in the FAQ . ★★★★★ 5.0 Google Reviews “The love masterminding has been life-changing. I finally understand my identity and can actually step into it. The support, the connections, the community: it reset who I am.” Bo L., Member Questions? Read the FAQ → ### This month inside the membership. Every Tuesday at 7pm ET: Love Masterminds with the faculty, alternating with Integration Sessions where you practice what you learned. Plus a New Member Orientation to get you started. Here’s what’s next. Loading the calendar… See the full calendar → Become a Member · $99/month ### Meet the Faculty WeDeepen brings together expert guides across dating, sex, communication, attachment, intimacy, and the nervous system, giving you a wider range of ideas and approaches to explore in your own life. #### Christina Weber Love Strategist & Founder #### Annie Lalla Cartographer of Love #### Yossef Sagi Intimacy & Embodied Partnership #### Ariana Hall Deep Transformation & Clarity #### Jordan Bowditch Polarity, Masculinity & Magnetic Pull #### Dana Arielle Feminine Embodiment #### Ken Page, LCSW Author of Deeper Dating → Meet the Full Faculty Explore the full roster Where we get to meet in person ### Love Immersion Three days. Six world-class coaches. Hot-seat work that’s honest, precise, and impossible to fake your way through. 70% of participants come back. Couples leave closer. Singles leave clearer. Everyone leaves changed. Next Date October 17–19, 2026 Location Austin, TX Investment $2,995 per person Format 3 days, in person Annual members get an $800 credit toward one Love Immersion * Reserve My Seat Ask About Love Immersion ### Real People. Real Moments. What happens inside WeDeepen: connection, laughter, breakthroughs. See Photo Galleries → ### What Members Say ★★★★★ 5.0 Google Reviews ★★★★★ The love masterminding has been life-changing. I finally understand my identity and can actually step into it. The support, the connections, the community: it reset who I am. B Bo L. Retired Entrepreneur & Love Club Member ★★★★★ Being with the people I'd been learning with on Zoom was incredible. The Love Club gives me foundation. The immersions bring it all to life. P Phil G. CPA from Miami, Member & Love Immersion Participant ★★★★★ The quality of the coaches is unmatched. Christina brings in high-level professionals you end up wanting to keep working with. That level of expertise isn't easy to find. K Krista & Thomas Couple of 15 Years & Love Immersion Participants ★★★★★ The hot seats were 10/10, and not just mine. I learned just as much watching other people. I'd never experienced anything like that. The whole container felt magical. J Joshua W. Austin Entrepreneur & Love Immersion Participant ★★★★★ Being in a room with people who want to grow was priceless. The connections didn't stop after the weekend. We remain in touch and genuinely support each other's growth. K Karolina & John Austin Couple & Love Immersion Participants ★★★★★ Seeing everyone as 'the one' changed my life. Christina said it once during the immersion, and it opened my heart in a way I'll never forget. M Mo M. WeDeepen Summit at OMEGA Participant Read More Reviews → Core framework ### The Four Pillars of a Conscious Relationship The core framework we live by, across WeDeepen, Love Immersion, and Love Club. 1 #### Prioritize Growth No attachment to outcome. Growth comes first. 2 #### Own Your Own Sh*t Take responsibility for your wounds and reactions. 3 #### All Feelings Are Welcome No internal process is condemned. 4 #### Practice Love In every moment, with every person. Read the Four Pillars → Meet the founder ### Christina Weber Christina has spent over a decade researching, curating, and designing the most potent experiences in the love industry. She started in 2014 hosting Underground Unattached dating events in New York City, and built WeDeepen, Love Immersion, and Love Club as the first place that brings the whole field together. She also hosts Mastering Love , the WeDeepen podcast: 180+ conversations on dating, desire, conflict, and staying in love. Spotify Apple Podcasts YouTube Read Christina’s story → Browse all episodes → Frequently asked questions ### About the WeDeepen $99 membership No. WeDeepen is for people who are dating, partnered, between relationships, or simply interested in improving the skills that lead to a better love life. Partners are welcome to join together; each person joins with their own membership. Sessions run every Tuesday for 90 minutes at 7:00 PM Eastern (6:00 PM Central, 5:00 PM Mountain, 4:00 PM Pacific). Love Masterminds and Integration Sessions alternate, so there is a live session every week. You can join anytime and come to the very next Tuesday. New Member Orientation runs monthly; the next one is Monday, October 5 . It’s a welcome, not a prerequisite. Love Mastermind dates September 15 September 29 October 13 October 27 November 10 November 24 December 8 December 22 Integration Sessions fall on the Tuesdays in between. Dates continue into 2027, and the member calendar always shows what is next. No. Join today and come to this Tuesday’s session. Orientation runs once a month (next one: Monday, October 5 ) and is there to help you meet the community and get your bearings, whenever it fits your calendar. You can join live when it works for you, use the community as questions come up, and catch Love Mastermind recordings from the time you join forward. There is no single way you have to participate. Different situations call for different lenses. You will learn from a range of approaches without being asked to commit to one way of thinking about love. Sessions are virtual. The private community and Ask the Experts discussions are inside Circle. Sunday Dares arrive by text and email, sent from the WeDeepen number to members only. Every Love Mastermind is recorded from the time you join forward, so you can catch it later from anywhere. Integration Sessions are practice, so they are live only. A new dare arrives every Sunday, designed to bring more play, spontaneity, and social courage into your week. Some stretch you a little, others are simply fun, but each one gives you a reason to try something different and keep connection active outside the screen. The membership is weekly and online: the place most people start and the foundation everything else builds on. Love Immersion is three days in person in Austin with the full faculty, sold separately at $2,995. Annual members get $800 toward one. The first 20 annual members get an $800 credit toward one Love Immersion retreat, the three-day in-person intensive in Austin ($2,995). The credit is valid for one retreat during your membership year, can’t be combined with any other discount or offer, and isn’t redeemable for cash. To use it, reach out and we’ll send you your code. Yes, you can cancel anytime on your own inside the Circle community. Your membership stays active through the end of the period you have already paid for, and payments already made are not refunded. Monthly: cancel and you won’t be charged again. Annual: $990 is paid once for the year (two months free, plus the $800 Love Immersion credit above). To avoid being charged for another year, cancel before your renewal date. The WeDeepen Membership is $99 a month, or $990 a year (two months free). You can cancel anytime. The Membership ($99/month) is weekly live online sessions, a private community, and Sunday Dares. Love Club ($9,997/year) is WeDeepen’s inner circle: it includes everything in the Membership, plus Friday Office Hours with Christina Weber, Annie Lalla’s 12-week program, Couples Council, and more. No. WeDeepen is relationship education and coaching, not therapy. WeDeepen Membership $99 /month Or $990 a year $800 credit toward one Love Immersion retreat, first 20 annual members * Weekly live masterminds, bonding, and integration Expert-led sessions on relationships and intimacy Private Circle discussions + Ask the Experts Sunday Dares delivered by text and email Recordings of Love Masterminds held after you join Join Now Cancel anytime. Join today, come Tuesday at 7pm ET. ### Make love a lifelong practice. Keep learning from expert guides, testing what you learn, and developing how you date, communicate, connect, and love. Every Tuesday. Join today, come Tuesday. Become a Member · $99/month Attend Love Immersion Drop a Line Have a question or want to connect? Reach out. --- ## About WeDeepen & Founder Christina Weber URL: https://wedeepen.com/about/ About WeDeepen ## Good at everything. Except this. You built a career, a life, a body you take care of. Love is the one thing no one trained you for. WeDeepen is where accomplished people finally learn it, with world-class faculty and a community doing the same. WeDeepen was founded by Christina Weber, who has produced dating, relationship, and intimacy events since 2014 (starting with Underground Unattached in New York City), reaching more than 40,000 people. She hosts the Mastering Love podcast, formerly Deepen with Christina. Founder · CEO ### Christina Weber Christina Weber is the founder of WeDeepen and a relationship coach who has spent more than a decade studying what makes love work. Her gift is bringing together exceptional people, ideas, and experiences. Since producing her first dating event in New York City in 2014, Christina has curated and produced dating, relationship, and intimacy events and festivals reaching more than 40,000 people, while building a network of leading voices across relationships, intimacy, personal development, and human connection. She is an ICF-certified coach trained at iPEC and the host of Mastering Love with Christina Weber , with more than 180 episodes exploring how we become better at love. Her work has appeared on the cover of LA Magazine , Peacock’s Ex-Rated with Andy Cohen, Real Time with Bill Maher , and on stages and at institutions including Omega Institute. Before WeDeepen, Christina built a career in sales and entrepreneurship and brought her talent for gathering people to philanthropy. Her initiative Feminine Weapon has raised more than $100,000 for children experiencing abuse, poverty, and trafficking. Today, through WeDeepen, Christina is bringing together the teachers, practices, experiences, and community she believes can change the way we learn love. Her premise is simple: Love is a skill. We can get extraordinarily good at it. Managing Partner ### René Besson For more than thirty years, René Besson produced film and television across independent and studio environments, with credits including The Expendables , The Mechanic , Stone , Righteous Kill , Trespass , Ordinary Love , and Driven , working with talent including Robert De Niro, Al Pacino, Nicole Kidman, Liam Neeson, Sylvester Stallone, Jason Statham, and Michael Caine. Producing taught René how to see the whole system: people, resources, timing, emotion, and execution, and get them moving in the same direction. He first came to WeDeepen as an advisor, helping Christina think about how to tell its story. René often returned to Roger Ebert’s description of movies as “a machine that generates empathy.” One day, Christina offered a reframe: Replace “movies” with “WeDeepen.” It clicked. Film lets us experience another person’s perspective through observation. René saw that WeDeepen could create empathy through participation, giving people a place to meet, be vulnerable, practice something new, and build relationships that continue beyond the experience. He came in to help tell the story of WeDeepen. He found himself becoming part of his next big one. Today, René works alongside Christina to turn the vision into an executable system, leading strategy, operations, business development, partnerships, storytelling, and fundraising support. ### How WeDeepen Began It started in 2014, in New York City. Christina was hosting Underground Unattached , gathering smart, accomplished single people in one room, believing that proximity plus quality would lead to love. For two years she watched. The right people were in the room. But the room wasn’t enough. Pressure. Expectations. The nervous energy people walked in with. Christina began to realize that finding the right person was only part of the equation. People also needed to learn how to create and sustain great relationships. Then couples started showing up asking: What about us? Christina went looking for answers and discovered an entire industry dedicated to love as a learnable skill: relationship educators, coaches, therapists, researchers, somatic practitioners, intimacy teachers, and frameworks most people never knew existed. She went deep. Got trained. Studied with the best. And eventually asked the question that would become WeDeepen: Why isn’t there one trusted place that brings the best of this together? So she built it. Today, WeDeepen is a curated ecosystem for relationship education and human connection. More than 40,000 people have participated in the experiences Christina began creating over a decade ago. The premise remains simple: Love is a skill. You can study it. Practice it. And become extraordinary at it. The backstory, straight from Christina ### WeDeepen with GUIDANCE Eight values that shape how we show up: with each other, with our members, and with ourselves. #### G rowth comes first You believe in feeling a sense of purpose, and that purpose is growth. Individual growth. Collective growth. The kind of growth that makes the world a better place. #### U noffendable Anger is extraordinarily easy. It's our default setting. Love is challenging. Love is a miracle. You grow in love. #### I ntuitive flow When operating from the soul level, you flow. #### D esire to receive for the sake of sharing There is no enjoying the possession of anything valuable unless you have ones to share it with. You give to enjoy the shared life. #### A ccepts change Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. You can change. #### N urture, self-discovery & freewill Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. You trust your life journey and the lessons it's teaching you. No one will care for you better than you. #### C uriosity & thoughtful discourse It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept and celebrate those differences. You lead with curiosity. #### E ssentially, our wholeness depends on relationships The quality of my life is determined by the quality of my relationships. You love thy neighbor. ### Start Here Three ways to participate in WeDeepen, each one deeper than the last. $99/month #### WeDeepen Membership The front door to WeDeepen. Weekly live sessions with leading love and relationship experts, Q&As, integration, and a private community of people actively studying and practicing love. Become a Member → 3 Days in Austin #### Love Immersion Go from learning about love to experiencing the work in your body and relationships. Three immersive days with Christina and rotating faculty designed to change how you relate to yourself and others. Explore Love Immersion → The Deepest Level #### Love Club The deepest level of WeDeepen. A high-touch community for people who want to make mastery of love, relationship, and connection an ongoing part of how they live. Discover Love Club → ### Want to work together? Become a member, book a private session, or send us a note. Become a Member Book a Session Contact Us --- ## Love Club | Private Relationship Mastermind by WeDeepen URL: https://wedeepen.com/love-club/ Love Club ## Play Full Out. Reminder: you are love. You were born to love. Most people never learn how to live that in relationship. You will. Love Club is WeDeepen’s inner circle, $9,997 a year. It includes everything in the WeDeepen Membership, plus Friday Office Hours with Christina Weber, Annie Lalla’s 12-week program, Couples Council, and more. Explore Membership See what’s inside Why Love Club Exists ### You optimize your health. You build wealth. You care about growth. So why does love still feel harder than it should? You can be self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and wildly successful in every other area, and still get tangled in love. Not because you’re doing it wrong. Because love is where your nervous system, your history, your attachment patterns, and your longing all collide. You can’t out-think that collision. You move through it with insight, reflection, and real relational practice, supported by people who can see what you can’t. The best relationships aren’t accidents. They’re trained for. Like athletes preparing for greatness, the people who thrive in love study, practice, and refine their skills with support. Love Club is that training ground: the arena where you focus on your love life with the same intention you bring to everything else that matters. The Science of Desire ### When are you most drawn to your partner? The answer is also how you experience love with yourself. Esther Perel asked thousands of people. The pattern is strikingly consistent, and it maps directly to self-love. Love Club is designed around all six truths. Desire for your partner ##### When you’re apart and reunite Never too close, never too far. Distance restores imagination. You miss them, and desire floods back. ##### When you see them radiant and confident On stage, in their element, lit up by something. You see them through new eyes. Attraction reignites. ##### When you complete something together A shared project. A challenge faced as a team. Co-creation deepens the bond beyond familiarity. The self-love parallel ##### When you forget who you are, and remember You lose yourself in the noise of life. Then a quiet moment brings you home. You fall back in love with yourself. ##### When you overcome an obstacle You expand your range, face a fear, accomplish something that stretches you. You see yourself with in a new way. ##### When you create with others Being in community. Making things happen together. Contributing to something larger than yourself. This is Love Club. The Science Underneath ### Your nervous system has a range. Love Club expands it. A bandwidth for how much pleasure, intimacy, connection, and aliveness you can hold. Most of us operate at a narrow slice of ours, not because we’re broken, but because no one ever stretched it. The old thinking “Magic happens outside your comfort zone.” A dated view. It implies you have to leave yourself behind to grow. The Love Club view Magic happens when you expand your range. You don’t leave your comfort zone. You widen it. Your nervous system learns to hold more pleasure, more truth, more intimacy. Nothing is left behind; everything is expanded. Membership ### The Inner Circle One year of advanced training, coaching, community, matchmaking, partner practice, and a three-day Love Immersion, with direct access to Christina Weber. Annual #### Love Club $9,997 /year - ✓ Friday Office Hours with Christina Weber. Your hour every week to bring the situation you are actually in and leave with a move. Fridays, 12 PM Central. - ✓ Learn How to Be in Love with Annie Lalla. Twelve weeks on conflict, jealousy, projection, and designing the relationship you actually want. Thursdays, 6 PM Central, starting early October. - ✓ Couples Council. Bring your partner once a month and work directly with each other through guided practice, so you understand each other more deeply and get better at being partners. Second Sundays, 6 PM Central. - ✓ Collaborative Matchmaking. Leading matchmakers and dating event producers open their databases and events to you, and you host Dating Salons that widen your own field. First Sundays, 6 PM Central. - ✓ One Love Immersion credit ($2,995). Three days in Austin with the full faculty that do in a weekend what years of effort only circle around. Transferable to a partner; rolls forward a year if unused. - ✓ Member-only invites and inner circle perks. Tickets to WeDeepen In-Person, guest passes, special experiences, and a hand in what WeDeepen becomes next. - ✓ A private Love Club community. The people you are learning alongside, between sessions, all year. - ✓ Everything in the WeDeepen Membership. Masterminds, integration sessions, and Sunday Dares: a live session every week. Join Love Club Partner Duo · $500 Off Each Come together. Register with a partner, whether a significant other, friend, or business partner, and you both get $500 off . Email Us to Register Not sure it’s the right fit? Book a call. What's Included ### Every Benefit, Explained #### Direct Access ##### Friday Office Hours with Christina Weber Every Friday · 1 PM ET / 12 PM CT / 11 AM PT Weekly drop-in sessions with Christina. Bring a question, a situation you are navigating, or listen in on what others are working through. This is the room where the theory meets your actual week. #### The Programs ##### Learn How to Be in Love with Annie Lalla 12 weeks · Thursdays 6 PM CT · Starts early October A group coaching program on conflict, jealousy, projection, and how to design the relationship you actually want, with one of the most respected relationship coaches working today. ##### Couples Council Monthly · Second Sundays 6 PM CT · Starts October 11 Bring your partner. Guided conversations and exercises you do with each other, so you understand each other more deeply and become even better partners. ##### Collaborative Matchmaking Monthly · First Sundays 6 PM CT · Starts October 4 Meet leading matchmakers and dating event producers, get into their databases and events, make introductions, and host Dating Salons that expand your network and your chances of an aligned, loving relationship. #### The Retreat ##### One Love Immersion Credit $2,995 value · Transferable · Rolls forward Attend one three-day Love Immersion during your membership year, taught by the full WeDeepen faculty. Three days in Austin where the field does in a weekend what years of effort only circle around. Give it to a partner, or carry it forward one more year if you don’t use it. #### The Circle ##### Member-Only Invites & Inner Circle Perks Priority invitations and member-only opportunities: tickets to WeDeepen In-Person, guest passes, special experiences, and a hand in WeDeepen’s continued evolution. ##### A Private Love Club Community A private Circle space exclusively for Love Club members. Stay connected between sessions, share what’s happening in your love life, ask for support, and deepen with the people you’re learning alongside. ##### Everything in the WeDeepen Membership A live session every week A live session every Tuesday: Love Masterminds alternating with Integration Sessions where you practice what you learned, and a Sunday Dare by text each week. The foundation is included. Who It’s For ### Three audiences. One shared truth: you want more. #### The Long-Term Couple “We love each other. But something’s missing.” Together 5–25 years. Stable, but stagnant. You’ve lost the spark, the novelty, the charge. You’re scared you’re becoming roommates, or strangers. Date nights aren’t enough. You need something that actually expands the relationship. #### The Sapiosexual “I need my mind seduced before my body follows.” Intellectually hungry. Drawn to depth, edge, conversation that makes you think. You’re already in the personal-growth world but haven’t found a space that goes deep on love and the erotic. You read Esther Perel. You listen to podcasts. You want the embodied version. #### The Awakened Solo “I’m done with surface-level dating.” Sick of apps. Sick of small talk. You want to understand your own desire, attachment, and erotic identity before choosing a partner. You want a network with depth, not another industry event disguised as connection. Positioning ### What Love Club is, and isn’t. Love Club is - → An expansion of your range - → A place where the erotic is welcomed - → For people who crave intellectual depth and embodied experience - → A curated network led by the world’s most daring practitioners - → Safe enough to be dangerous Love Club is not - × Another coaching platform with affirmations - × Therapy-lite or a support group - × A dating service or matchmaking platform - × Content you could find on a podcast - × For people who want to stay small Your Teachers ### Led by a World-Class Faculty Hand-picked by Christina. Each with a distinct specialty. Each extraordinary. Christina Jordan Ariana Annie Yossef Dana Meet the Faculty From Members ### What Love Club Feels Like ★★★★★ The love masterminding has been life-changing. I finally understand my identity and can actually step into it. Bo L. Retired Entrepreneur & Love Club Member ★★★★★ The hot seats were 10/10, and not just mine. I learned just as much watching other people. Joshua W. Austin Entrepreneur & Love Immersion Participant ★★★★★ The quality of the coaches is unmatched. Christina brings in high-level professionals you end up wanting to keep working with. Krista & Thomas Couple of 15 Years ★★★★★ The Love Club gives me foundation. The immersions bring it all to life. Phil G. CPA from Miami Read more reviews → Questions ### Frequently Asked The WeDeepen Membership is the foundation: a live session every Tuesday (Love Masterminds alternating with Integration Sessions), Sunday Dares, and the member community. Love Club includes all of that and adds the inner circle: Friday Office Hours with Christina Weber , Annie Lalla’s 12-week program, Couples Council, Collaborative Matchmaking, a Love Immersion credit with the full faculty, and member-only invites and perks. Masterminds and integration sessions alternate, so there is a live session every week. Friday Office Hours with Christina run every Friday at 12 PM Central. Annie Lalla’s program meets Thursdays at 6 PM Central for 12 weeks. Couples Council is the second Sunday of the month and Collaborative Matchmaking the first Sunday, both at 6 PM Central. Everything is recorded. Every session is recorded and archived inside the private community. The live experience is richer, especially the hot-seat coaching, but members absolutely get value from replays and from the community in between. Full refund within 14 days of purchase. After 14 days, all sales are final. Membership is non-transferable, but your Love Immersion credit is: give it to a partner, or it rolls forward one year if unused. Yes. Love Immersion tickets are sold individually at $2,995 per person. If you are planning to attend even one, the credit is already inside Love Club, alongside the full year of programs, office hours, and the community. Both. The community is roughly half solo and half partnered. Some partners join together; some join individually. Couples Council is built for partners, Collaborative Matchmaking for people looking, and everything else applies to every relationship status, because extraordinary love starts with how you relate to yourself. Yes. Register with a partner and you both get $500 off . And “partner” is broad on purpose: your significant other, a close friend, a business partner, a sibling, anyone you want to grow alongside. Growth sticks when someone’s in it with you. Email team@wedeepen.com to register together. Yes. Email team@wedeepen.com and we’ll move you over. The Arena ### Love isn’t a side quest. It’s the arena that shapes everything that matters most. You train for your career. You train for your body. Train for this. Love Club is where you focus on your love life with the same intention, alongside people who champion your evolution. Join Love Club · $9,997 a year Payment plans available via Karma at checkout. 14-day refund policy. --- ## Love Immersion VIII | October 17–19, 2026 | WeDeepen URL: https://wedeepen.com/love-immersion/october-2026/ “I didn’t think I belonged. But within a day, I felt flooded with love. I felt home.” – Eva Mullen ## Love Immersion VIII: Mastermind Your Love Life WeDeepen Featured On A three-day private retreat where you study, practice, and deepen love. Work with world-class coaches to uncover patterns, open more fully, and experience powerful breakthroughs. Come solo or come together. Reserve My Spot October 17–19, 2026 · Austin, TX WeDeepen Featured On Love Immersion VIII · October 17–19, 2026 ### What You’ll Experience Masterminding the most important aspect of your life: love. Three days of powerful coaching, authentic connection, play, and breakthroughs that upgrade how you love. 01 #### Hot Seat Coaching Your love goals, with two relationship experts. 02 #### Workshops & Guidance Interactive exercises for clearer, more connected relationships. 03 #### Play & Connection Truth or Dare, games, laughter, and surprises. 04 #### Shared Meals Nourishing food, easy conversation, and genuine connection. 05 #### Beautiful Plant Ceremony Healing, upward spiraling and a guided journey to greater aliveness. 06 #### Integration & Community Reflection, graduation, and support beyond the weekend. Sign Me Up ### Three days to meet the parts of you that emerge when love gets real. Most of us reach adulthood with years of education and almost none in love. We inherit a few examples, follow chemistry, learn through heartbreak, and hope experience eventually becomes wisdom. The Love Immersion Mastermind makes that learning intentional. At the center are the Masterminding Love hot seats. You bring what’s most alive in your love life to two expert coaches, who help you uncover what’s really happening, see the patterns at play, and move forward with greater clarity and skill. Then you learn again by witnessing everyone else take their turn. Their questions, blind spots, breakthroughs, and courage reveal things you may not have been able to see in your own life. Beyond the hot seats, the weekend unfolds through teachings, embodied practice, play, shared meals, deeply honest conversations, and a beautiful guided plant ceremony that opens into expanded awareness. You leave with practical ways to communicate and repair, a deeper understanding of yourself in love, and people who genuinely care what happens next. Love can keep some of its mystery, but you don’t have to remain a mystery to yourself. ### Your Guides #### Christina Weber Love Strategist and Founder of WeDeepen Guiding the Evolution of the Relationship Industry #### Annie Lalla Cartographer of Love Expert in Relationship Dynamics, Evolutionary Psychology, and Intimacy #### Ariana Hall Master Coach for High Achievers Deep, Focused Transformation and Radical Clarity #### Yossef Sagi Master Coach and Intimacy Guide Deep Connection, Trust, and Embodied Partnership #### Jordan Bowditch Confidence and Community Architect Transformation Through Radical Play, Polarity, and Truth #### Rachel Cuthbert Trauma-Informed Coach and Somatic Practitioner Nervous System Healing, Inner Child Integration, and Attachment Transformation #### Yarixa Ferrao Leadership Architect and Embodiment Coach Emotional Intelligence, Regulation, and Presence When It Matters Most #### Scott Wild Turning Point Conversation Specialist Preparing You for the One Conversation That Changes Your Relationship Yes, I’m In Like language, love deepens through attention, practice, and being around people who speak it well. ### Spend three days with those equally committed to loving and being loved better. ### Three stages of learning to love. A guarded heart doesn’t open because the mind wants it to. It opens when it feels safe enough to do so. Love Immersion guides you from Innocent, when you trusted love without question, through Armored, when hurt taught you to protect your heart, and into Skilled, where you reclaim vulnerability, apply wisdom, and deepen self-awareness. You move through one stage per day. Day 1 · Saturday · Remembering #### Innocence The Immersion begins at 9am. Come wearing a favorite accessory or piece of clothing. Settle into the mountaintop estate, share a welcome breakfast and gather for an opening circle of introductions, intentions, agreements and novel surprises. You’ll laugh, have fun, get a feel for the people around you, and let the joy of our newfound togetherness come naturally before the deeper work begins. Today you begin masterminding love. Each individual or couple receives a focused 30-45 minute hot-seat session, while the rest of the group listens for the fears, needs, and protective strategies that echo through their own relationships. Connecting with innocence here means recovering the willingness to meet another person openly, with everything life has taught you still intact. What Saturday unlocks: - ✓ A clearer awareness of how quickly past experiences shape new connections - ✓ More freedom to be present without performing, impressing, or overthinking - ✓ Renewed access to curiosity, play, and the openness that makes intimacy feel so alive Day 2 · Sunday · Releasing #### De-Armoring You continue masterminding love. It’ll seem less abstract. You see how control can disguise fear, how independence can become distance, and how the desire to be chosen can lead someone away from what they truly want. What is difficult to recognize in yourself often becomes unmistakable when witnessed in another. You’ll also find plenty of laughter, play, and unexpected moments that remind you how good it feels to be fully alive. Between the insight and the fun, people often find themselves seeing love and their own lives from an elevated perspective. The evening moves into a guided beautiful plant ceremony, giving the two days of insights somewhere deeper to land. It’s an amazing and inspiring environment for softening around what you’ve been protecting, feeling what matters more clearly, and leaving with a stronger sense of what you want to carry into your relationships. What Sunday unlocks: - ✓ Greater awareness of the hidden defenses influencing who you choose and how you connect - ✓ A higher capacity to remain open and choose consciously when old fears are activated - ✓ Practical tools for communicating clearly, repairing conflict, and asking for what you need Day 3 · Monday · Becoming #### Skilled Love Monday starts slower with a late breakfast. You’ll return to teachings, embodied practice, reflection, and a closing ceremony. By now, the patterns are easier to see, and the focus becomes what you want to do differently when they appear again. A light and fun graduation ceremony puts a bow on the whole experience as you shape the conversations, requests, boundaries, repairs, and choices that will carry more love and grace into your relationships. You’ll write a love letter to someone who matters to you, which we’ll mail after the Immersion, receive your graduation gift, revisit the moments that mattered, and leave around 2:00 PM. What Monday unlocks: - ✓ Greater confidence making relationship decisions from clarity rather than fear or habit - ✓ Time to reflect, name what changed, and decide how to bring that into your daily life - ✓ People who will remember what opened in you and help you keep choosing it Sign Me Up ### Who Love Immersion Is For? Anyone who understands that something as important as love deserves more than instinct, chemistry, and good intentions. Some come to deepen a beautiful partnership. Some are standing at a crossroads. Some come with a general sense that they are failing at love. Others arrive on their own because they know the next chapter has to begin with them. #### Anyone stepping into a new chapter You may be healing from heartbreak, deciding whether to stay or leave, or preparing to love differently next time. You can arrive without a partner and make this chapter entirely your own. Many have. #### Couples ready to go deeper Your relationship may be anywhere on the spectrum from thriving to strained, but you want to understand each other more clearly, repair without keeping score, or nurture the connection into something even deeper, freer, and more alive. #### High achievers ready to give love their full attention You know how to seek expertise, do the work, and grow. Love is the one place you have mostly relied on instinct and lessons learned the hard way. You are ready to meet it with the same intention you bring to everything else. Reserve My Spot ### The relationships you build here are the other half of the curriculum. You may arrive among strangers or familiar faces, but never random ones. Everyone has chosen to invest in becoming better at love. With the pressure to impress or pursue removed, Love Immersion becomes a place where people can relax and be themselves. Individuals and couples learn side by side. You watch people name what they want, own what they’ve avoided, and stay connected through interactions usually hidden behind closed doors. Again and again, someone else’s honesty makes something in your own life easier to see. By the time you leave, these aren’t just people who attended the same retreat. You’ve laughed with them, maybe cried with them, and moved past barriers with them. They have seen what you carried in, what opened up, and how you want to live from here on. Many become trusted friends, mentors, collaborators, matchmakers, and lifelong allies as your love story continues to unfold. ★★★★★ The hot seats were 10/10, and not just mine. I learned just as much watching others. I'd never experienced anything like that. Joshua W. Austin Entrepreneur ★★★★★ The quality of the coaches is unmatched. Christina brings in high-level professionals you end up wanting to keep working with. Krista & Thomas Couple of 15 Years ★★★★★ Seeing everyone as 'the one' changed my life. Christina said it once during the immersion, and it opened my heart in a way I'll never forget. Mo M. Summit at OMEGA Participant ★★★★★ I’ve been to countless personal growth events, but nothing compares to this. The trust, connection, and transformation were beyond words. If you want to grow in love, this is where you need to be. Allan Long Beach, CA ★★★★★ In just 72 hours, I felt more belonging than I have in two years after moving to a new city. This was the best investment I’ve ever made in myself. Roza Dallas, TX ★★★★★ I came in afraid that relationships would take something from me. I left knowing they bring abundance. This was the most transformative experience of my life. Sara J. McLean, VA Rated 9.6 out of 10 by participants. 70% return for another Immersion. The Venue ### HAVAN Estates 17301 Flint Rock Rd · Austin, TX 78738 A private, intentional space in the Texas Hill Country, built for serious work. Dates October 17–19, 2026 Location Austin, TX Edition Immersion VIII Meals are included. Travel and lodging are booked separately, though some accommodations are available onsite. Hotel & Airbnb recommendations sent after registration. ### Know Before You Go Love Immersion is WeDeepen’s 3-day, in-person relationship retreat at HAVAN Estates in Austin, Texas. Come solo or come as a couple to study and practice love with WeDeepen faculty, including live coaching and focused hot-seat sessions. October 17–19, 2026, $2,995 per person, with payment plans available. #### Schedule, Food & Weather - ✓ Saturday, October 17 · begins 9am with a welcome breakfast, opening circle & first hot seats - ✓ Sunday, October 18 · a full day of masterminding, with a guided beautiful plant ceremony in the evening - ✓ Monday, October 19 · late breakfast, closing & graduation ceremony, departures around 2pm - ✓ All meals and drinks are included - ✓ Austin is gorgeous in October: highs around 78–85°F, evenings 58–66°F #### Travel & Accommodations - ✓ Fly into Austin-Bergstrom (AUS), about 25 mi / 37 min from the venue - ✓ 14 rooms available on-site to book, limited and added at checkout - ✓ Nearby hotels: Hampton Inn & Suites Austin-Lakeway (10 min), La Quinta Inn & Suites Lakeway (10 min), and Lakeway Resort & Spa (12 min) - ✓ Plenty of local Airbnb options - ✓ On-site parking available - ✓ A WhatsApp group to coordinate travel, shared after you register #### Attire & Packing - ✓ Day 1: a favorite accessory or piece of clothing you love to wear - ✓ Day 2: Silk attire for the beautiful plant ceremony evening (robes, dresses, pants, pajamas, or scarves). - ✓ Day 3: white attire, plus a towel and swimsuit for the flower bath ritual - ✓ Swimwear for the sauna and pool - ✓ Sneakers for exploring outdoors - ✓ A light jacket for cooler evenings - ✓ A journal, and we’ll have a mini one for you too ### A glimpse of what's waiting Recent moments from the last few Love Immersions. Love Immersion VII Jun 2026 Love Immersion VI Mar 2026 Love Immersion V Sep 2025 Love Immersion IV Jun 2025 See all photo galleries → ### Invest in the way you will love for the rest of your life. Love Immersion lasts three days, but the investment lives on for a lifetime, in every difficult conversation, meaningful choice, and relationship you learn to meet with greater love. Your stay includes everything needed to spend three days fully present to the experience. $2,995 Per Person Payment Plans Available ✓ 3 days (2 nights) of guided experiences ✓ All meals & beverages ✓ Personalized, high-level coaching ✓ Expert-led beautiful plant ceremony ✓ Live teachings & workshops ✓ Outdoor spa with pool & sauna access ✓ A private, world-class venue ✓ Curated practices, tools & integration support Accommodations are booked separately. Reserve a private room or men’s or women’s dorm during checkout, or book a nearby hotel or Airbnb. Locals are welcome to commute or stay on-site. Easy parking. Reserve My Spot One Retreat included for Love Club members “It reminded me how rare this level of space and connection is. It reinvigorated my excitement around relating and partnership.” – Juston, past participant Curious about joining us in the Love Club? Your Love Immersion is included, along with year-round support, coaching, and community designed to help you deepen your relationships, navigate challenges, and create the love life you want. Explore Love Club → Not sure it’s your year? Book a call and we’ll help you find the right fit. In Good Company Proudly supported by our in-kind sponsors Golden Rule Danger Coffee TRU KAVA MindBody Matrix Water Be Love Drink ### Frequently Asked #### The Inner Questions Absolutely. About half of every Immersion arrives solo, each for their own reason. Some come purely for themselves. Some aren’t partnered, are open to dating, or are focused on self-love. And sometimes a partner just isn’t ready, available, or up for it yet. That’s completely okay. Come by yourself rather than not coming at all: the work meets you exactly where your love life is. No. A romantic partner is a beautiful way to experience the Immersion, but far from the only one. We’ve welcomed siblings, close friends, and parent and child, because love is bigger than romance. The skills you build here strengthen every relationship that matters to you. Come with whoever you want to love better, or come for the relationship you have with yourself. Love reaches places that self-awareness alone may never touch. You can understand your history, recognize your patterns, and feel grounded on your own. Then closeness brings something older to the surface, like the fear of being rejected, abandoned, controlled, or not fully chosen. Love Immersion lets you meet those moments as they happen, with skilled guidance and other people reflecting what is difficult to see from inside your own experience. The deeper work is not learning more about yourself. It is learning how to remain yourself when love asks the most of you. We’re understanding of that. This is a very vulnerable experience for anyone, and you won’t be asked to manufacture vulnerability beyond what you’re comfortable with. The weekend begins with shared meals, play, conversation, and smaller experiences that allow trust to develop naturally. You still decide what you bring to your hot seat and how deeply you want to go. The experience is also guided by clear agreements around confidentiality, respect, and no unsolicited coaching. Many people arrive a bit guarded. Watching others go first gives them permission to open in their own time. It’s one of the most special, raved-about experiences of the entire Immersion. By ceremony night you’ve been through the hot seats and witnessed everyone else’s, so you know each other in ways rarely experienced in other social circles. This is where we go even deeper. The evening weaves together breathwork, visioning, shared intention setting, and play: spontaneous, improvisational, and alive with the magic of human connection. It’s where old social wounds soften and your new skills get their first real practice. And yes, Christina always brings out her Truth or Dare. After you register, you’ll receive a link to an intake form where you can apply to receive the beautiful plant that evening. From there we’ll talk with you about the type of plant and the finer details of the ceremony. We follow the MAPS protocol, and our facilitators are highly trained. “The ceremony night and the group release activity… coming up on the medicine during that was incredible. Felt like I was channeling.” – Immersion Participant Nope. The ceremony will be heart-opening whether you choose to add the plant or not. And you don’t need to decide before you get here; you’ll just need to complete the intake form. Some people come unsure and feel it out upon arrival. For safety, medications are reviewed beforehand and trained support is present throughout. But please know there is absolutely no pressure to do what the others are doing for the sake of fitting in. You’ll be encouraged to be you through the entire experience. #### The Outer Details Participants have ranged from eighteen to eighty-seven, with the sweet spot in the thirties through sixties. We’ve welcomed couples who recently fell in love, people moving through divorce, siblings, and even parent and child. Love is for everybody, and it’s a skill to master. Whatever your age or chapter, there is always something more, and a new layer ready to reveal itself. Very carefully. Christina has worked in the love, dating, and relationship industry for over fifteen years, and the coaches chosen for Love Immersion are senior leaders in their field: her own mentors, and the very people she calls for guidance in her own love life. They are masters of their craft. Working with them privately typically ranges from $5,000 to $10,000 and up per month. At Love Immersion, they are in the room with you all weekend. And we are always open to connecting with other brilliant coaches. If there is someone you think we should know, send us a note . Of course. If you work in the love and relationship industry, or you’re endlessly curious about it, this is your place. There’s no hierarchy here: you’ll fit right in. Many love coaches join us for exactly this reason. You spend your life supporting others. This is where you receive that same full attention from top coaches, and build real friendships and rapport with us while you’re at it. We can’t wait to have you. This is a full-on immersion: plan nothing else for these three days. We want all of your attention with us, and you’ll want all of the experience. Day 1 · Saturday, October 17: 9am to about 10pm Day 2 · Sunday, October 18: 9am until late into the night Day 3 · Monday, October 19: 10am to 2pm Meals and breathing room are woven through each day, and when we rest, you’ll want to rest too. You can, but you don’t have to, and you’ll get the full experience either way. The WeDeepen team producing Love Immersion stays on-site, and we love it when you join us there. The name says it: you really immerse. Lodging is booked separately, and you have options. Reserve a private room or a bed in the men’s or women’s dorm during checkout, book a nearby hotel or Airbnb, or commute in if you’re an Austin local. We share recommendations when you register, and parking is easy. And one night is special: on Sunday’s ceremony night, everyone is welcome to stay over in the common space, whether you’ve booked lodging with us or not. There will be plenty of sleeping areas. Just bring a cosmetic bag and a change of clothes for the next day, and you’ll be well taken care of. Yes. There is a payment plan you can choose at checkout when you purchase your ticket. And if you need something more customized, we can most likely accommodate you. Send us a quick note at team@wedeepen.com and we’ll do whatever we can to support you getting here. You’ll receive a confirmation email with a link to join our private, participants-only WhatsApp group, along with your ceremony intake form, your Love Immersion handbook, and details on how to prepare for the event. Come into the WhatsApp group and introduce yourself. We’re so excited to have you join us. First off, amazing. Redeeming your Immersion credit is one of the best parts of being in the club, and we absolutely want you here. We’ve set up a special promo code for members to use at checkout. If you have any trouble, message Roxy Ruse, our community manager and events coordinator, at team@wedeepen.com. Most likely not. After seven Immersions, we have a devoted crew who show up again and again, and they get first access to volunteer spots. If you’d like to explore whether any are available, reach out to team@wedeepen.com. Just know these are reduced-rate positions rather than free ones. Tickets are non-refundable, but they are fully transferable: if life redirects you, your spot can become someone else’s beginning. Write to team@wedeepen.com and we’ll help you make the handoff. October 17–19, 2026 ### The love you long for will ask something of you. These three days change how you answer. Thirty people. Six coaches. One part of your life that has waited long enough for your full attention. Reserve My Spot → Questions? Email team@wedeepen.com #### Love Notes from Past Immersions “Love Club Immersion helped me find the missing piece in my relationship. The experts and community gave us new perspectives, and now we feel more clarity than ever.” Lauri K. “Since the immersion, I feel so much freer around dating. I’ve let go of the pressure to define every interaction. I’m lighter, more playful, and more myself than ever.” Josh “It broke me open in the best way, and allowed love into my most hidden crevices.” Yarixa Ferrao “As a seventeen-year-old, I didn’t know what to expect, but I left feeling prepared for future relationships. The tools I learned will stay with me for life.” Anna Asprey “I came in skeptical and left feeling seen, loved, and part of a family.” Immersion Participant “This experience showed me how we all long for love, and how we can give and receive it more fully. If you want meaningful connections, this is for you.” Honor Chan “It felt like ‘love hacking’: a deep dive into what love really is and how to bring more of it into your life.” Josh Kvale “I never felt so held and supported in my life. In just three days, I felt more love than I ever imagined possible.” Dorota “It was the most love-saturated environment I’ve ever been in.” Immersion Participant “I didn’t expect much, but this experience changed me. It helped me understand myself and my relationships in a whole new way.” Bo Longo “This experience helped me reclaim my worth and step into the love I truly deserve.” Hannah “To have love, you need to know and love yourself first. Love Immersion is the perfect place to start.” Savannah Frank “I was nervous about coming alone, but I’m leaving with lifelong friends.” Immersion Participant “I walked away with powerful tools to heal, grow, and create deeper love in my life. It was truly transformative.” Adrienne “I’ve noticed I have a much healthier relationship with my emotions. I’m no longer course-correcting them or holding back. I just let myself feel, whether it’s love or frustration. It’s been liberating.” Jamie “I’ve gained tools for when the men I date show emotion. Before, I’d try to fix it. Now, I hold space and stay rooted in love.” Kendall “I used to look for reasons to distrust in relationships. The immersion helped me realize that pattern, and shift into seeing where I could deepen trust instead.” Matt “I’ve spent years in therapy, but these three days cracked something open that I could never touch before.” Immersion Participant “Since the retreat, I’ve felt incredibly embodied. I’m more attuned to nature, to eye contact, to pleasure. And I’ve never been more clear on what I will and won’t allow in dating.” Leah “I was coming out of a period of isolation due to health issues, and this was the best medicine. I feel whole again. Being in a container of such real, vulnerable love gave me hope.” Milena “I’ve never experienced a group where everyone fell in love with each other platonically. There was total acceptance and genuine, nourishing connection. It filled my cup.” Josh K. “I now feel like I have a love family. That weekend gave me a preview of what it’s like to live with full-hearted authenticity and support. It changed how I view my relationships forever.” Zach P. “My partner and I have been to other relationship workshops, but this one actually changed the way we communicate at home.” Immersion Participant “I’ve become more fearless. I’m leading with love and owning my energy, my vulnerability, and my truth.” Philip “I feel more embodied and accepting of myself than I have in years. I’m learning to love myself through the mess, and I’m finally okay with things not being perfect.” Laura Lea “This weekend was like a reboot for my heart. I feel open again in a way I didn’t think was possible.” Immersion Participant “There are very few spaces in the world with this level of depth, duration, potency, and heart. And this one is the real deal.” Juston “My experience in the hot seat was profound, allowing me to release a trauma from childhood and the shame I carried. The release and reprogramming I experienced is so profound. I HIGHLY recommend Love Immersion to anyone who wants breakthroughs in their life.” Immersion Participant “This experience helped me show up more present with my kids. I’m more grounded as a father, more open-hearted, and more willing to love them through the chaos.” Matthew G. “Seeing couples in different stages of doing the work, being honest, growing together, was deeply inspiring. I borrowed love from the community and brought it back to my own partnership.” Kendall “This Immersion has unlocked something between me and Lili that has been so transformational for us both. We’ve always had a great relationship, but we are now healing each other.” Laura Lea “I came thinking I’d learn tools. I’m leaving with a new way of being.” Immersion Participant --- ## Relationship Workshops & Events | Austin + Online | WeDeepen URL: https://wedeepen.com/events/ The Training Calendar ## Upcoming Events Love is a trainable skill. This is where you train it: live sessions online every week, and a few weekends a year in Austin. Showing 9 of 54 events Online Included with Membership Recurring #### New Member Orientation Oct 5, 2026 6:00 PM CT Welcome to WeDeepen. Christina will personally welcome you in, walk you through everything included in your membership, show you where everything lives, and help you get clear on how to make the most Learn more → Online Included with Membership Recurring #### Integration Session: Practice What You Learned Oct 6, 2026 6:00 PM CT Learning about love is one thing. Living it in your actual relationships is where it gets interesting. Integration Sessions are where WeDeepen members take what they learned at the last Love Mastermin Learn more → Online Included with Membership #### Love Mastermind: Dianne A. Allen, MA Oct 13, 2026 6:00 PM CT Different Minds, Different Love: Understanding Processing Styles in Relationships We don’t all think, feel, communicate, or experience connection in the same way. Relationship struggles often arise w Learn more → Austin 17301 Flint Rock Rd, Austin, TX 78738 Open to Everyone #### Love Immersion VIII: October 17-19, Austin Oct 17, 2026 9:00 AM CT WeDeepen Love Immersion VIII October 17–19 · Austin, TX Find all the details and complete your reservation on the event page. 👉🏽 Click here. Learn more → Online Included with Membership Recurring #### Integration Session: Practice What You Learned Oct 20, 2026 6:00 PM CT Learning about love is one thing. Living it in your actual relationships is where it gets interesting. Integration Sessions are where WeDeepen members take what they learned at the last Love Mastermin Learn more → Online Included with Membership Recurring #### Love Mastermind: Faculty Announced Soon Oct 27, 2026 6:00 PM CT Every other Tuesday, WeDeepen members learn from a guest faculty member on one dimension of love: attraction, communication, intimacy, conflict, repair, and more. Faculty and topic for this session wi Learn more → Online Included with Membership Recurring #### Integration Session: Practice What You Learned Nov 3, 2026 6:00 PM CT Learning about love is one thing. Living it in your actual relationships is where it gets interesting. Integration Sessions are where WeDeepen members take what they learned at the last Love Mastermin Learn more → Online Included with Membership Recurring #### Love Mastermind: Faculty Announced Soon Nov 10, 2026 6:00 PM CT Every other Tuesday, WeDeepen members learn from a guest faculty member on one dimension of love: attraction, communication, intimacy, conflict, repair, and more. Faculty and topic for this session wi Learn more → Online Included with Membership Recurring #### Integration Session: Practice What You Learned Nov 17, 2026 6:00 PM CT Learning about love is one thing. Living it in your actual relationships is where it gets interesting. Integration Sessions are where WeDeepen members take what they learned at the last Love Mastermin Learn more → In-person retreats in Austin: see every upcoming Love Immersion date → See the full calendar → ### Want the weekly sessions included ? WeDeepen Membership is $99 a month. Every Love Q&A, Integration Session, and Mastermind on this calendar, live and online, plus a member orientation to get you started. Become a Member --- ## Relationship Experts & Love Coaches | WeDeepen Faculty URL: https://wedeepen.com/love-guides/ ## Meet the Faculty. No one teacher. No one modality. No one path. World-class experts in love and relationships, each with a distinct specialty. Love Strategist & Founder ### Christina Weber Love Industry Pioneer · Speaker · Experience Designer · Coach Founder of WeDeepen. Christina began her career hosting Underground Unattached dating events in NYC in 2014, and after recognizing that proximity alone couldn't teach people to love well, she went deep into the underground world of relationship education. Over a decade later, she's curated the most potent experiences in the love industry into one ecosystem. ICF Certified Coach · iPEC Trained · Heart-Coaching Certified. Based in Austin, TX. @christinaweber christinalweber.com Cartographer of Love ### Annie Lalla Philosopher, relationship coach, and self-described Cartographer of Love, Annie has spent decades mapping the architecture of great relationships. Her frameworks for conflict, commitment, and communication are used by some of the world's most successful couples. Expect intelligence, warmth, and a linguistic precision that reorganizes how you understand your own love life. @annielalla annielalla.com Author of Deeper Dating ### Ken Page, LCSW Psychotherapist, bestselling author of Deeper Dating , and host of the Deeper Dating Podcast, Ken has spent four decades guiding people back to what he calls their Core Gifts : the places of deepest sensitivity that hold the keys to lasting intimacy. His work has been featured in O, The Oprah Magazine , The New York Times , and Cosmopolitan , and has helped thousands trade the games of seduction for the slower, truer pull of real connection. @deeper.dating deeperdatingpodcast.com Deep Transformation & Clarity ### Ariana Hall Ariana works in the precise territory between truth and tenderness. Her coaching cuts through the stories people have been telling themselves for years, and holds them steady while they feel what was underneath. Known for clarity without cruelty, Ariana is the strategist you go to when you're ready to stop dressing up the same pattern in new clothes. @arianahall arianahall.com Intimacy & Embodied Partnership ### Yossef Sagi Yossef brings the ancient and the anatomical together: intimacy as a practice of presence, nervous system regulation, and deep somatic attunement. A Master Coach and longtime student of both Kabbalah and Tantra, Yossef is known for creating containers where people drop the armor they didn't know they were wearing. @yossefsagi yossefsagi.com Feminine Embodiment ### Dana Arielle Dana's work lives at the intersection of feminine embodiment, pleasure, and devotion. She teaches women (and anyone returning to their feminine) how to move from performance into presence, from ambition into receptivity, without losing edge. A practitioner of sacred movement, erotic self-awareness, and nervous system softening. Her presence alone is the transmission. danaarielle.com Radical Play & Polarity ### Jordan Bowditch Jordan teaches the embodied mechanics of polarity, the magnetic tension between masculine and feminine energy that keeps long-term relationships alive. His work invites radical play, presence, and the kind of permission most people have never been given to desire fully. Expect somatic work, direct coaching, and a rare fusion of warmth and precision that transforms how people experience their own aliveness. @jordanbowditch The Full Council ### The rest of the extraordinary. A wider council of teachers, healers, and practitioners who join us throughout the year, in masterminds, immersions, and curated programs. #### Katie & Gay Hendricks, PhDs Pioneers of Conscious Loving Co-authors of Conscious Loving and co-founders of the Hendricks Institute, Katie and Gay have worked with more than 30,000 individuals and 3,000 couples over four decades, training generations of relationship coaches. Their body-centered method has been called the field's gold standard. @heartsintrueharmony hendricks.com #### Dawn Cartwright Bio-Energetic Tantra Visionary An internationally celebrated Tantra teacher and founder of Chandra Bindu Tantra Institute, Dawn has been teaching since 1992 and is the innovator of bio-energetic Tantra fusion. A direct disciple of Margo Anand and Daniel Odier, she draws on Kashmir Shaivism and Vigyan Bhairav lineages to guide lovers toward their full ecstatic potential. @dawncartwright dawncartwright.com #### Kayce Neill Relational Philosopher & Erotic Blueprints Expert Kayce is a relational philosopher and advisor on love, desire, power, and aliveness for people who have already done the work and are ready to live it. Her work explores intimacy, human dynamics, and the space between knowing yourself and becoming yourself, helping people move beyond performance and into deeper connections, richer desires, and lives that feel fully expressed. @_xokayce_ kayceneill.com #### John Wineland Embodied Masculine Leadership Author of From the Core and host of The Embodied Relationship Experience , John has spent 16+ years guiding men and women in masculine and feminine embodiment and sacred intimacy. His teaching weaves Tantric Buddhism, Taoist sexuality, and 13 years of study with David Deida into a body-first paradigm for conscious relationship. @john_wineland johnwineland.com #### Dr. Jet Eveleth Clown Church & Embodied Awakening A doctor of integrative medicine, professor of Taoist medicine, and creator of Clown Church, a workshop tradition that uses clown, breath, and presence to access flow state and authentic connection. A Wim Hof-trained breath practitioner and longtime Second City performer, she brings a rare blend of mystic rigor and disarming play to opening the heart. @clownchurchla #### Dr. Anna Cabeca Hormones, Sexuality & Menopause Triple board-certified OB/GYN, Emory-trained physician, and bestselling author of The Hormone Fix , Dr. Anna is an internationally acclaimed menopause and sexual health expert known as "The Girlfriend Doctor." She brings rigorous medicine to the often-ignored intersection of hormones, libido, and lifelong vitality. @thegirlfrienddoctor drannacabeca.com #### Mike Zeller Purpose, Genius & Aligned Living Business architect, mentor, and author of The Genius Within , Mike has founded or partnered in 20+ ventures generating over $300M in sales, and now guides high-achievers in aligning purpose, relationship, and work. Trained under Tony Robbins, Russell Brunson, and Jay Abraham, he combines NLP mastery with a deeply personal story of healing. @themikezeller mikezeller.com #### Kimi Inch Erotic Leadership & Conscious Kink Founder of &More, a global erotic leadership brand, and a somatic therapist, author, and Core Energetics practitioner, Kimi pioneered "eros as medicine", merging therapeutic depth with conscious kink to help clients reclaim pleasure, voice, and erotic agency. Featured in The Wall Street Journal , Cosmopolitan , ABC's 20/20 , and Nightline . @kimiinch andmorepresents.com #### Anil Gupta The Love Doctor International speaker, transformational coach, and bestselling author of Immediate Happiness , Anil, known as "The Love Doctor", has led workshops in 18+ countries and spoken at Harvard and TEDx. He teaches a deceptively simple practice of giving, gratitude, and growth that has reached celebrities, athletes, royalty, and spiritual leaders alike. meetanil.com #### Alorah Inanna Sensuous Awakening & Mythic Love For thirty-five-plus years, Alorah has taught conscious relationship and sensuous spiritual evolution from her temple in Marina del Rey. As the creator of WindDancing, The Sensuous Woman's Workout, Doorways to Intimacy, and the movements A Man in A Million and The Goddess Alive, she leads people into a felt, mythic experience of beauty, body, and divine recognition. alorahinanna.com #### Larry Michel Genetic Energetics of Love Founder of the Institute of Genetic Energetics and author of Lasting , Larry, known as "The Love Shepherd", uses a science-based personal profiling system rooted in birth-date energetics to map chemistry, communication, and compatibility. His work compresses what often takes years of couples therapy into a single illuminating session. @love_shepherd #### Melissa D. Somatic Sex Education & Sensuous Embodiment Founder of BodyJoy Intimacy School, Melissa is a somatic sex educator, sexological bodyworker, and clinical hypnotherapist whose practice helps curious adults learn new ways to talk, touch, and play. With a trauma-sensitive foundation and a famously playful edge, she's led hundreds of workshops worldwide and hosts the After Office Hours podcast. @bodyjoyintimacyschool bodyjoy.org #### Dr. Avrum Weiss The Inner Lives of Men A clinical psychologist with 35+ years in practice, Dr. Weiss is the author of the Amazon bestseller Hidden in Plain Sight: How Men's Fears of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships . His pioneering work on experiential psychotherapy, and his unflinching map of the seven hidden fears most men carry into love, has made him a sought-after voice for couples ready to bridge the silence between them. avrumweissphd.com #### Leola Watkins Pleasure Priestess & Tantric Intimacy Author, pleasure priestess, and tantric intimacy mentor, Leola's mission is to integrate sexuality and spirituality at the most intimate level. Author of Sacred Sex Ed and host of the Talk Tantra to Me podcast, she guides individuals and couples to harness life-force energy as a path to freedom, abundance, and deep connection. @talktantratome #### Sarah Wilde & Brad Wethington Modern Sex Life for Long-Term Couples Certified sex and relationship coaches behind Modern Sex Life and married for nineteen-plus years, Sarah teaches sexual archetypes and partner dynamics; Brad specializes in emotional intelligence, human design, and "relational hacking." Together they help modern couples evolve their intimacy without losing the love. @modernsexlife modernsex.life #### Ashley Ashida Quantum Human Design for Conscious Living A Certified Quantum Human Design Specialist, life and family coach, and creator of Decondition Daily™, Ashley synthesizes astrology, the I'Ching, chakras, kabbalah, and quantum mechanics into a practical lens for understanding energy, decision-making, and the truest expression of self in love and partnership. @ashleyashida connect.ashleyashida.com #### Dina Maayan Breathwork & Nervous System Mastery Founder of the Breath of Life Institute and a Human Optimization Expert specializing in nervous system mastery through evidence-based breathwork. Dina works with high-performers, executives, athletes, creatives, integrating somatic practice with neuroscience to reduce anxiety, build resilience, and unlock peak performance. She offers private coaching, corporate consulting, and breathwork practitioner certification. @dinamaayan dinamaayan.com #### Melanie Wild Somatic Nervous System Training An emotional performance trainer and somatic coach, Melanie works with high-impact leaders to dissolve triggers at the level of sensation. Drawing on a decade-plus in emotional mastery, she teaches the nervous system practices that let people stay clear, grounded, and powerfully authentic under pressure. melaniewild.com #### Jamie & Yonatan Elkayam Reiki, Intimacy & Conscious Partnership A married couple, certified Reiki Master Teachers, and founders of Word of Mouth, a healing sanctuary in Los Angeles. Together they weave Reiki, breathwork, sound, and conscious coaching into work that helps couples and sensitive people meet themselves and each other more honestly. @wordofmouth.love wordofmouth.love #### Terrie Huberman Intuition & Decision Clarity An intuitive, psychic medium, and emotional mastery coach, Terrie helps ambitious women move from overthinking and overwhelm into clear, embodied knowing. Creator of the Heart Hug Method, she blends heart-coherence research with Reiki, mediumship, and trauma-informed energy work, a science-meets-soul approach to dating, relationships, and self-trust. @intuitiveterriehuberman terriehuberman.com #### Colleen Schell Storytelling, Sensuality & Stage Presence Founder of FABx, the storytelling academy that has trained over 300 coaches, leaders, and artists to craft TED-worthy talks. A former international advertising executive (Google, Microsoft, Coca-Cola), she now mentors clients on love and intimacy and hosts sensuality events worldwide, committed to up-leveling the collective consciousness of love, joy, and intimacy. @colleenschell fabx.tv #### Dina Montefuscoli Sound Alchemy & Energy Medicine A Soul Sound Alchemist, Energy Medicine practitioner (CRQH), and yoga teacher, Dina weaves voice, sound, breath, and movement into deep nervous-system reset. Based in Venice, California, she creates ceremonial space for people who want to remember their wholeness through frequency, embodiment, and play. @dinamontefuscoli #### Lindsey Means Human Design & Embodied Wholeness A Human Design teacher and embodiment guide, Lindsey's work centers on a single question: Who am I? Through Find Your WAI, she helps clients reclaim their personal power and prosperity codes via custom Human Design readings, a return to wholeness, not another self-improvement program. @lindseymeans_ Find Your WAI #### Carla Swiryn Modern Matchmaking & Dating Strategy A certified matchmaker with over a decade of experience and the founder of DateSpot, Carla brings warmth, candor, and modern strategy to the work of helping people find a real partner. A former Senior Matchmaker at Three Day Rule, she connects relationship-minded singles across the matchmaking industry through AI-assisted matching. @matchmakercarla datespot.love #### Nick Gray Friendship Through Small Gatherings Author of The 2-Hour Cocktail Party and founder of Museum Hack, Nick reverse-engineered the art of hosting after moving to New York with few friends, turning a small, structured cocktail party into a method for building deep friendships and serendipitous opportunity. Featured in The New York Times and Wall Street Journal . @nickgraynews nickgray.net In Memoriam ### With deep gratitude. #### Dr. Robert J. Gilbert Sacred Geometry & Spiritual Science A scholar of spiritual science, sacred geometry, and Rosicrucian wisdom, Dr. Gilbert was the first non-Egyptian authorized to teach BioGeometry, and the founder of the Vesica Institute for Holistic Studies. With more than twenty-five years of study in the European Rosicrucian and Holy Grail traditions, his teaching empowered students to walk a sovereign path of inner knowing. His scholarship continues to shape how a generation thinks about consciousness, vibration, and the living geometry of love. Vesica Institute ### Study with all of them. Inside the membership. The faculty lead the Love Masterminds every other Tuesday, rotating through the year so you learn from the full council, not one voice. $99 a month. Then Love Immersion, three days in Austin with all of them. Become a Member Attend Love Immersion --- ## Relationship Coaching with Christina Weber | 1:1 on Zoom URL: https://wedeepen.com/book-session-with-christina/ Private Mentorship ## Book a Session with Christina How’s your love life? Answer that honestly, and you already know why you’re here. This is private time for you, or for you and your partner, to slow down, look at what’s really happening, and get clear on what you want to experience in love this lifetime. I’ve spent more than a decade studying love and helping people navigate dating, relationships, intimacy, heartbreak, and the big decisions that shape their lives. Love is a trainable skill. Together, we’ll look at where you are, where you want to go, and what will help you get better at love. Christina Weber, an ICF-certified coach trained at iPEC, works privately with individuals and couples on Zoom. A first session is $295, credited toward her 3-month Love Accelerator mentorship ($10,000) if you continue. 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Client Voices ### What it’s like to work with Christina . “Recently, my partner and I hit a bump in our relationship and we enlisted Christina’s coaching services. I found a circle of love and openness where no topic was off the table. Christina kept us on track towards our goals and provided bonding exercises and relationship homework. She’s a perfect mix of love coach, therapist, and educator.” Christopher Leyva · 42 · San Diego “I was deeply skeptical when I first considered a dating coach. Christina focused on developing me, helping me learn my quirks, challenge my shyness, and push me out of my comfort zone. She would patiently pepper me with advice, challenge my assumptions, and in the end built a more confident, dare I say ‘date-able’ version of myself.” Harinath Amarnath · 29 · New York City “She has valuable insights and exercises that can remove you from your cycle and allow you to see your partner and yourself in a different way. Sometimes all you need is a third party to get you through.” Gallo · 54 · Los Angeles “Christina embraces love dynamics from a deeply insightful, progressive, and caring approach. She is open to customizing sessions based on the needs of the relationship. Her love for Love and conscious relationships is undeniable.” Kesia Elwin · 42 · Los Angeles Schedule ### Choose Your Session Returning clients: scroll to “Book a Mentorship Hour (pre-paid)” below. Having trouble loading the calendar? Open in a new tab Before You Book Where do sessions happen? On Zoom, wherever you are. Can my partner join? Yes. Every session can be booked for an individual or a couple. It works best when both of you attend the whole session, and we can look at your situation case by case. Coming on your own is also completely fine. What happens after I book? You’ll get a confirmation email from no-reply@acuityscheduling.com with the calendar invitation, then an email reminder 24 hours before we meet. What if I need to reschedule? Please cancel or reschedule at least 24 hours ahead. How does the Deep Dive intake work? Before a Deep Dive you complete a personalized intake with your birth details and, if relevant, your partner’s. It reaches me before our session so I can prepare your map. Does a first session count toward the Love Accelerator? Yes. If you continue into the three-month mentorship, your $295 first-time session is credited toward the $10,000. Private Support ### Ways for Christina to support you privately . Every session can be booked for an individual or a couple. Signature $10,000 · 3 months #### Love Accelerator: 3-Month Private Mentorship My most transformational private offering. A three-month container designed for those truly ready to up-level how they experience love. Bi-weekly sessions, deep integration work, and direct access between calls. It begins with a first-time call, and your $295 session is credited toward the $10,000 if you continue. Start with a first-time call $295 · 60 min #### Love & Intimacy Mentorship: First-Time Session Where we start. Clarity on what’s working in your love life, what’s not, and what’s ready to grow. $375 · 90 min #### Human Design for Love Your chart, applied to how you love, decide, and connect. $1,000 · 2 hours #### Deep Dive: Experience Greater Intimacy A two-hour intensive, with a personalized intake before we meet. Returning Clients Pre-paid · 60 min #### Book a Mentorship Hour For active clients. Whether you’re navigating love, dating, intimacy, conflict resolution, or simply longing to feel more aligned in life, this is your space. Scroll up to book your time. Book a Session The Framework ### The Four Pillars of a Conscious Relationship My mentorship is rooted in the WeDeepen framework. These principles guide every session, because the quality of your relationships mirrors the depth of your relationship with yourself. I. ##### No Attachment to the Outcome: Growth Comes First Love is a byproduct of becoming. When growth leads, connection follows. II. ##### Own Your Sh*t Radical ownership of your patterns, projections, and part to play. The gateway to real intimacy. III. ##### All Feelings Are Welcome, No Internal Process Is Condemned You don’t have to perform wellness here. Every feeling is information; every feeling belongs. IV. ##### Practice Love Love is a skill, not a feeling. We practice it in language, presence, and embodied action. Your Mentor ### About Christina Weber I’m Christina Weber, founder of WeDeepen and the Love Club , and forever a student of love. I began this work in 2014 in New York City, hosting Underground Unattached , an invite-only dating event I believed would “solve” connection by putting quality people in the same room. Two years in, I realized proximity wasn’t the point. Skill was. That discovery led me into the intimacy industry and ultimately to build WeDeepen: a platform for people who want to master love the way they’ve mastered everything else. Since then, I’ve curated experiences and teachings through Love Club , Love Immersion , Biohacking Love , The Dating Dojo (co-led with Ken Page, LCSW ), RelateFest , and Shop & Shag , helping thousands build the skills and presence real intimacy requires. I also founded Feminine Weapon , a philanthropic initiative that has raised over $100K for survivors of abuse and trafficking. I host the Mastering Love with Christina Weber podcast, and my work has been featured on Real Time with Bill Maher , Peacock’s Ex-Rated (with Andy Cohen), the Biohacking Conference , the Omega Institute , LA Magazine , Good Day LA , and Wonderland . I’m an ICF-certified coach , iPEC trained , and Heart-Coaching certified , and I’ve studied with many of the world’s most respected relationship teachers: Gay & Katie Hendricks, Annie Lalla, Ken Page, John Gray, Alison Armstrong, Dr. Pat Allen, and Kimi Inch . Originally from Annapolis · previously NYC & LA · currently based in Austin, TX. ### Ready when you are . You’ve read this far, which usually means something in you already knows. Bring me the real question, the one you haven’t said out loud yet. That’s where we’ll start. Book a Session Explore Love Club --- ## The 4 Pillars of a Conscious Relationship | WeDeepen URL: https://wedeepen.com/four-pillars/ Core Framework ## The Four Pillars of a Conscious Relationship Relationships are going through a redesign. The old paradigm isn’t working: people are unsatisfied in love and don’t know how to make it work. That breakdown isn’t bad news. When systems break down, they change, and what is emerging is conscious love. So what is a conscious relationship? A romantic relationship with a purpose, and that purpose is growth. Your growth. Growth as a couple. Growth that makes the world better. Most people get into relationships to meet their own needs. That works for a while, then it fails. When two people come together with the intention of growth, the partnership becomes a path of evolution, and deep, long-term fulfillment follows. These four pillars are what that looks like in practice. 1 ### Prioritize growth. The conscious couple is not attached to the outcome of the relationship. Growth comes first. Not being attached to the outcome doesn’t mean you don’t care what happens, or that you have no picture of how it might turn out. It means you are more committed to growing than to making the relationship “work.” We are here to grow: physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. When growth stops, something feels wrong, because it is. Most relationships stifle growth rather than feed it. We shrink to please each other, and the relationship starts to feel like a cage. The truth is, we caged ourselves. The conscious couple values growth above everything else, even at the risk of outgrowing the relationship. That risk is exactly what keeps it alive. 2 ### Own your own sh*t. Each person is committed to taking responsibility for their wounds, reactions, and patterns. Everyone carries wounds from the past, and closeness will trigger them. The conscious couple expects to feel abandoned, trapped, rejected, or overlooked at some point, and doesn’t treat that as proof something has gone terribly wrong. Those feelings come from our own patterning and limiting beliefs, not from our partner. Dysfunctional patterns dissolve only when we take responsibility for them first. Blame keeps you stuck. Ownership sets you free. 3 ### All feelings are welcome. No internal process is condemned. In a conscious relationship there is room to feel anything, and room to say it. This is edgy territory. You may not like what you hear; it may trigger the hell out of you. You’re willing to be triggered if it means your partner gets to be real. Most of us mold ourselves to keep the people we love from leaving. It slowly squeezes the love out of the connection. The only way through is radical honesty: revealing the parts that are hard to share, and letting your partner do the same. That is what it feels like to be known, seen, and understood. 4 ### Practice love. The relationship is a place to practice love, in every moment, with every person. Love is a practice: of acceptance, presence, forgiveness, and stretching your heart into vulnerable territory. We tend to treat it as a destination and chase the peak feeling, then feel cheated when it fades. That misses the point. Love is a journey. It is showing up for every nuance of the relationship and asking, What would love do here? The answer is different every time, and each answer takes you somewhere new. The conscious couple is fiercely committed to being the embodiment of love, and love shows up in their lives in ways they never imagined. Based on the original teachings by Shelly Bullard, MFT. Adapted by Christina Weber for WeDeepen. Love is a lifelong practice of shedding ego, armor, and control, combined with ever-increasing acts of sharing. These pillars make that possible. Free Download #### The framework most couples never learn. Yours to keep. The same Four Pillars we practice inside the membership and at every Love Immersion. Drop your email. You’re in Check your inbox! Your Four Pillars guide is on its way. Bonus: private invitations by text Be first to hear about new dates and live events. A few texts a month. Text COUNT ME IN ### This is what we practice every Tuesday. The WeDeepen Membership is where the Four Pillars become a weekly practice, with expert faculty and a community doing the same. $99 a month. Join today, come Tuesday. Become a Member · $99/month --- ## WeDeepen Reviews | Love Immersion & Membership Stories URL: https://wedeepen.com/reviews/ ## Real Stories. Real Transformations. From first-time members to couples of 15+ years, hear from the people who've done this work with us. Google Reviews ### What People Say Publicly From Our Network ### Testimonials Members & Participants ### What Members Say ★★★★★ The love masterminding has been life-changing. I finally understand my identity and can actually step into it. The support, the connections, the community: it reset who I am. B Bo L. Retired Entrepreneur & Love Club Member ★★★★★ The hot seats were 10/10, and not just mine. I learned just as much watching other people. I'd never experienced anything like that. The whole container felt magical. J Joshua W. Austin Entrepreneur & Love Immersion Participant ★★★★★ The quality of the coaches is unmatched. Christina brings in high-level professionals you end up wanting to keep working with. That level of expertise isn't easy to find. K Krista & Thomas Couple of 15 Years & Love Immersion Participants ★★★★★ Being in a room with people who want to grow was priceless. The connections didn't stop after the weekend. We remain in touch and genuinely support each other's growth. K Karolina & John Austin Couple & Love Immersion Participants ★★★★★ Being with the people I'd been learning with on Zoom was incredible. The Love Club gives me foundation. The immersions bring it all to life. P Phil G. CPA from Miami & Love Immersion Participant ★★★★★ Seeing everyone as 'the one' changed my life. Christina said it once during the immersion, and it opened my heart in a way I'll never forget. M Mo M. WeDeepen Summit at OMEGA Participant ### Your story could be next . Become a member, attend a Love Immersion, and experience the work for yourself. Become a Member Attend Love Immersion --- ## Mastering Love Podcast with Christina Weber URL: https://wedeepen.com/podcast/ ## Mastering Love with Christina Weber Love is a trainable skill. Not luck, fate, or something you’re simply good or bad at. You can study it, practice it, and master it. Spotify Apple Podcasts YouTube New episodes drop regularly. Subscribe on your favorite platform. The Archive ### All Episodes Loading episodes… Prefer to browse the whole catalogue? See every episode . About the Show ### How’s your love life? Each week, relationship expert and WeDeepen founder Christina Weber studies love with some of the most interesting teachers, thinkers, and people in dating, intimacy, sex, marriage, conscious relationships, and personal growth. Some weeks it’s a conversation. Some weeks it’s Christina alone at 1 a.m., bringing her own love life into the laboratory. Your intimacy journey is your life story. Let’s get better at it. Formerly Deepen with Christina , with 183 episodes and counting. Come be with us in person. What We Talk About ### Topics Explored Attraction & Chemistry Conscious Dating Sustained Intimacy Polarity & Desire Repair After Conflict Modern Masculinity Modern Femininity Biohacking & Love Nervous System Work Family Systems Breakup & Heartbreak Long-term Partnership Self-Intimacy The Four Pillars Listen Everywhere ### All Your Favorite Platforms Subscribe wherever you already listen. Spotify Apple Podcasts YouTube Amazon Music iHeartRadio Pocket Casts Overcast RSS / Libsyn ### Love the podcast? Come practice it. The conversations here become practice inside the WeDeepen Membership: live sessions every week, a private community, and people who want what you want. $99 a month. Become a Member About Christina --- # Blog ## Five Therapist Informed Stages for Sensate Focus Exercises URL: https://wedeepen.com/blog/sensate-focus-exercises/ Published: 2026-10-03 Sensate focus is a staged, touch-based practice that helps partners set aside performance pressure and focus purely on sensation, and research links it to real gains in sexual and marital satisfaction. We walk you through the clinical framework, the five progressive stages, and the preparation that makes each session feel safe rather than clinical. By the end, you will have a session-ready script you can use tonight. TL;DR: - Sensate focus improves body awareness and reduces performance pressure, especially when practiced consistently for two to three sessions weekly over several weeks. - The practice should be broken into stages, with at least two low-anxiety repetitions per stage before progressing, to ensure comfort and effectiveness. - Setting up a private, comfortable environment with clear agreements and minimal distractions is crucial for a successful session. - Sensate focus pairs well with therapist guidance, community support, and adaptations for solo use, trauma, or performance anxiety. - Effective use involves focusing on temperature, pressure, and texture during touch, and avoiding rushing or evaluating oneself during the practice. Wedeepen circle.wedeepen.com Deepen Intimacy Through Practice Explore expert-led sessions, practical exercises, and community support designed to help couples strengthen communication and intimacy. Join WeDeepen Club ### Table of Contents - What sensate focus is and why it works - What the research says about benefits and timelines - Setting up your space, your agreements, and your materials - The five stages of sensate focus, step by step - Adapting the practice for solo use, performance anxiety, and trauma histories - Troubleshooting the moments that throw couples off - How guided practice and community support deepen the work - A five-minute practice you can start tonight - Practicing sensate focus with expert guidance through WeDeepen - FAQ - Sources ### What sensate focus is and why it works Sensate focus began with Masters and Johnson decades ago as a way to interrupt what therapists call “spectatoring,” the habit of mentally watching and judging yourself during intimacy instead of feeling it. Modern practice splits the method into two components. Sensate Focus 1 targets specific concerns like erectile difficulty or pain during sex, usually under a therapist’s direction. Sensate Focus 2 is for couples who already function fine but want to deepen pleasure and closeness, which is where most readers of this guide will land. The mechanism is attention training, not technique. You trade the question “am I doing this right” for the question “what am I actually feeling,” using three anchors: temperature, pressure, and texture, often shortened to TPT. - Sensate Focus 1 addresses diagnosed sexual dysfunction and often runs alongside clinical treatment. - Sensate Focus 2 builds intimacy and sensation awareness for couples without a diagnosed concern. - Both versions rely on the same staged, non-evaluative touch structure. Cornell Health’s clinical handout describes this staged progression and consistently warns against evaluative thinking during sessions. If pain, erectile difficulty, or orgasmic disorders are part of your picture, pair this practice with a licensed therapist rather than going it alone. ### What the research says about benefits and timelines A 2019 literature review in Current Sexual Health Reports found that sensate focus continues to show up across clinical models as an effective, adaptable tool, with researchers recommending the SF1 versus SF2 distinction for better treatment matching. That is not a promise of a cured relationship. It is evidence that a structured attention practice can shift the internal experience of touch. What changes for most couples: heightened body awareness, reduced performance pressure, and a slower, more curious relationship to touch. What it generally will not do is resolve relationship conflict, trauma, or medical conditions on its own. Clinical handouts recommend sessions of about 30 to 40 minutes, and many practitioners suggest repeating sensate focus two to three times a week while building the habit. ### Setting up your space, your agreements, and your materials A good sensate focus session depends more on setup than on skill. Before any touch begins, agree on timing, privacy, and a plan for what happens afterward. - Choose a private room, free of phones, pets, or a clock you keep glancing at. - Pick a time when neither of you is rushed, drained, or has been drinking more than a glass of wine. - Keep the room warm enough that undressing or partial undressing feels comfortable, not vulnerable to cold. - Agree on a simple stop word or gesture before you start, separate from “no,” since some people find “no” hard to say mid-touch. - Lay out towels, a hypoallergenic lotion or warm water, a timer, and a notebook for a short debrief afterward. Pro Tip: Set your timer out of sight and let it vibrate instead of ring, so the session ends without an abrupt noise pulling you both out of the moment. Communication happens before the touching starts, not during it. Decide together who touches first, how long each turn lasts, and what, if anything, stays off-limits tonight. This single conversation, done honestly, prevents most of the awkwardness people expect from sensate focus. ### The five stages of sensate focus, step by step Each stage below builds on the last. The rule that matters most: complete a stage at least twice with low anxiety before moving to the next one. Rushing the stages is the single most common reason couples feel sensate focus “didn’t work.” Stage 1: Non-genital touching One partner is the toucher, the other the receiver, for a brief period before switching roles. - The receiver lies down, clothed or unclothed as agreed, breasts and genitals off-limits. - The toucher explores arms, back, legs, scalp, and face, with no goal beyond noticing sensation. - Both partners silently track temperature, pressure, and texture, the TPT anchors, rather than rating the experience. - Switch roles once the first partner’s turn ends, keeping total session time near 30 minutes. Stage 2: Introducing genital and breast touching Once Stage 1 feels calm and low-anxiety on two separate occasions, breasts and genitals join the map, but intercourse and orgasm stay off the table. - Touch remains exploratory, incorporating genitals as one region among many rather than the destination. - Either partner pauses or redirects at any point using your agreed signal, no explanation required in the moment. - Debrief briefly afterward: what surprised you, where did your mind wander. Stage 3: Adding lubrication and sensory contrast Here you introduce lotion or warm water to vary texture and temperature deliberately. - Warm the lotion slightly before use so the temperature shift itself becomes part of the sensation to notice. - Experiment with a single fingertip versus a full palm, noting how pressure changes the feeling. - Keep switching the toucher and receiver roles so both partners build the same vocabulary of sensation. Stage 4: Mutual touching Both partners touch each other at the same time instead of taking strict turns. - Practice “dual attention,” feeling your own sensations while touching your partner, without defaulting to a sexual goal. - If one partner notices the pace sliding toward intercourse, slow down and return to simple exploration. - Keep sessions around 30 to 40 minutes, matching the timing Cornell Health recommends. Stage 5: Sensual intercourse integration This final stage introduces penetration as one more sensation to notice, not a finish line. - Begin with stillness: partial penetration with no movement, simply noticing temperature and pressure together. - Add slow, deliberate movement only once stillness feels comfortable, controlling tempo rather than chasing climax. - Treat orgasm as optional, not the measure of whether the session succeeded. Move forward only when a stage has felt low-anxiety twice in a row. If anxiety spikes, drop back a stage rather than pushing through, since sensate focus works through repetition at a comfortable level, not through endurance. ### Adapting the practice for solo use, performance anxiety, and trauma histories Sensate focus flexes to fit different bodies and histories, and the adjustments below matter as much as the stages themselves. - Solo practice: touch your own arms, hands, and torso using the same TPT anchors, building body awareness you can later bring into partnered sessions. - Performance anxiety: start clothed, keep early sessions shorter than the standard 30 minutes, and focus entirely on non-goal sensations like warmth or fabric texture before skin contact begins. - Trauma-informed adaptations: use body mapping to agree in advance which areas feel safe, build in grounding pauses, and check in verbally every few minutes rather than relying on a single stop word. AASECT’s clinician guidance notes that trauma, attachment wounds, and performance pressure all interfere with arousal in distinct ways, which is part of why sensate focus works best when tailored rather than followed as a rigid script. ### Troubleshooting the moments that throw couples off Three situations derail more sensate focus sessions than anything else, and each has a straightforward fix. - Mind wandering: return to TPT. Silently name the temperature, pressure, and texture under your hand or your partner’s, which pulls attention back into the body within seconds. - Rising arousal: pause, breathe slowly for a few counts, and resist the urge to escalate. Arousal during sensate focus is normal and not a signal to abandon the stage you’re on. - Mismatched pacing: if one partner wants to move faster than the other, slow the whole practice down, swap toucher and receiver roles more often, and debrief with a direct question like “what made this stage feel calm or tense for you?” Pro Tip: Keep debrief notes short, just a line or two per session, so you can spot patterns in what helps attention settle over several weeks. ### How guided practice and community support deepen the work Sensate focus asks you to sit with vulnerability, and that is often easier with some structure around it. Weekly live sessions offer participants a recurring container for exactly this kind of practice, alongside group sessions where couples work through the same attention and communication skills sensate focus trains. - Scheduled live sessions and integration calls give you a place to practice naming sensation out loud before trying it at home. - Episodes like DWC 074 with Lola Toscano explore conscious sensuality in ways that mirror sensate focus’s core aim: feeling more, judging less. - DWC 084 with Elle Eminense looks at erotic exploration as a skill, not a talent you either have or don’t. - Guided community practice doesn’t replace solo or therapist-led sensate focus, but provides a space to process what comes up between sessions. ### A five-minute practice you can start tonight You are standing in your kitchen at 9:40 at night, dishes half done, and your partner walks past close enough to touch. What happens in your body in that half-second before you decide whether to reach out? Do you notice warmth, the brush of their sleeve, or does your mind jump straight to whether tonight is “the night” for something more? Try this instead: take their hand for five minutes, eyes open or closed, and just notice temperature and pressure, nothing else. What did you feel that you would have missed if you’d been aiming for more? Love is a trainable skill, built in moments this small, long before it shows up in bigger ones. If you want company while you build it, come play with us. ### Practicing sensate focus with expert guidance through WeDeepen Reading the steps is one thing, practicing them with support is another. A membership program provides weekly live sessions and group masterminds where couples and individuals work through intimacy exercises like these together, with feedback instead of guesswork. - Live sessions and integration exercises help you practice attention and communication skills in real time, not just read about them. - A first-time Love & Intimacy Mentorship session with Christina gives you one-on-one guidance if you want personalized support before practicing with a partner. - Participants get ongoing access to a community working through the same vulnerability sensate focus asks of you. If you are ready for structured practice instead of another article, explore WeDeepen membership and find your place in a room built for exactly this kind of growth. ### FAQ #### Does sensate focus actually work? Evidence summarized in a 2019 literature review shows sensate focus remains an effective, adaptable tool across clinical models for sexual and relationship concerns. It works best as a repeated practice over weeks, not a one-time fix, and often pairs well with therapist guidance for diagnosed concerns. #### How do you bring intimacy back into a relationship? Rebuilding intimacy usually starts with small, structured touch practices, like sensate focus, that lower performance pressure and rebuild trust in physical connection. Consistent short sessions, open communication about boundaries, and patience with the pace tend to matter more than any single technique. #### What are signs someone is lacking intimacy? Common signs include avoiding physical touch, feeling disconnected during sex, heightened self-consciousness about performance, or a sense of going through the motions without real presence. AASECT’s clinician resources note that performance pressure and unresolved emotional wounds often sit underneath these patterns. #### How long should a sensate focus session last? Clinical handouts recommend sessions of roughly 30 to 40 minutes, though some couples extend slightly depending on the stage. Shorter, calmer sessions tend to work better than longer ones rushed through anxiety. #### Can sensate focus help with performance anxiety? Yes, Healthline’s overview describes sensate focus as a technique used clinically to address performance anxiety by shifting attention away from outcome and toward sensation. Starting clothed, keeping early sessions short, and focusing on non-goal touch tend to help most with anxiety specifically. ### Sources - Sensate Focus for Sexual Concerns: an Updated, Critical Literature Review | Current Sexual Health Reports | Springer Nature Link - Sensate Focus (Cornell Health PDF) - Sensate Focus: What It Is and How It Works (Healthline) - Sensate Focus in sex therapy: Unlocking pleasure, safety, and connection | AASECT ### Recommended - DWC 074: Hedoné Adult Sensual Retreat: Exploring Conscious Sexuality with Lola Toscano - DWC: 040 Conscious Coupling: The Four Pillars - DWC 086: Conscious Threesoming with Sydney Rousseau - DWC 084: Erotic Exploration with Elle Eminense ## 10–30 Minute Relationship Coaching Questions for Immediate Practice URL: https://wedeepen.com/blog/relationship-coaching-questions/ Published: 2026-10-02 This article hands you grouped, session-ready questions you can use right now: vetting prompts for choosing a coach, self-reflection questions for solo work, couple check-in scripts, and safety screening cues. Pick one short set and try it in a ten- to fifteen-minute conversation or a journaling sit tonight. We built our own practice around this same idea, that real change comes from doing, not just reading, but any set below works on its own. TL;DR: - Asking about a coach’s approach, scope, and referral process provides clarity on their professionalism and honesty before engagement. - Self-reflection prompts help identify personal relationship patterns and unspoken needs, offering actionable insights grounded in research accuracy. - Structured communication prompts using speaker-listener techniques increase chances of productive conflict resolution within couples. - Safety screening questions are essential to identify risks like control or physical danger, requiring immediate referral to mental health professionals if indicated. - Repeated practice within a structured environment, rather than one-off questions, enhances meaningful relationship improvements over time. Wedeepen Practice Relationship Skills Together WeDeepen combines weekly live sessions, practical exercises, and community feedback to help you build stronger dating and relationship skills. Join WeDeepen Club ### Table of Contents - Questions to ask when vetting a relationship coach - Self-reflection and journaling prompts for solo work - Session-ready prompts for couples working through conflict - Screening for safety before any question goes deeper - How to use these questions without starting a fight - Why practiced skills beat one-off tips - What the research actually tells us about fixing this - Want to practice these questions with real feedback? - FAQ - Sources ### Questions to ask when vetting a relationship coach Before you hand someone your story, ask a few direct questions. A good coach answers without flinching. - “Do you work with individuals, couples, or both, and how does your approach shift between them?” - “What framework do you draw from, whether that’s emotionally focused work, experiential practice, or something else?” - “How often do we meet, and what does a typical session look like?” - “What happens between sessions? Is there homework, and can I reach you if something comes up?” - “What’s your training background, and do you have supervision or ongoing consultation?” - “If something comes up that’s outside coaching, like trauma or a mental health crisis, what’s your referral process?” - “What does progress look like to you, and how will we know it’s working?” - “What’s included in your pricing, and what’s your refund policy?” Professional coaching guidance recommends asking about scope, approach, session structure, and referral policies before committing to work with anyone. A coach who promises a cure, dodges the referral question, or stays vague about scope is waving a red flag at you. Pro Tip: Ask the referral question even if nothing feels wrong right now. The answer tells you how honest a coach will be later, when something does. ### Self-reflection and journaling prompts for solo work You don’t need a partner in the room to start this work. Set a timer for fifteen to thirty minutes, grab a notebook, and move through these slowly. - What do I actually want from this relationship, separate from what I think I’m supposed to want? - Where do I notice myself pulling away when things get tense? - What pattern keeps showing up, and whose voice does it sound like? - Am I expecting my partner to meet a need I haven’t named out loud? - What did I contribute to our last conflict, honestly? - What would repair look like if I offered it first? - What’s one small thing I could do differently this week? - What am I afraid will happen if I ask for what I need? - When do I feel most myself with this person? - What’s one commitment I’m willing to make and keep for seven days? Self-report prompts like these carry real weight. Research comparing self-report, partner-report, and observer ratings of conflict communication found that partner and self-report measures predicted observed behavior almost as well as trained observers did, which means your honest answers here aren’t just venting. They’re data you can act on. ### Session-ready prompts for couples working through conflict This is where the speaker-listener structure earns its keep. One person talks, the other reflects back, and nobody solves anything until both feel heard. - Opening check-in: “On a scale of calm to activated, where are you right now?” - Core-issue framing: “When this happens, what story do you tell yourself about what it means?” - Empathy prompt: “What do you think I’m feeling when this comes up?” - Specific ask: “What’s one concrete thing you’d like me to do differently next time?” - One-week experiment: “Can we try this one change for seven days and check in after?” A ten-minute version might sound like this: Partner A states the issue in two sentences, Partner B reflects it back without adding opinion, then they swap. Each turn gets roughly ninety seconds before switching, with a shared agreement to call a time-out if voices rise. Pro Tip: Agree on a time-out word before you start, like “pause,” and promise to return to the conversation within twenty-four hours. ### Screening for safety before any question goes deeper Some situations need a different kind of question, ones that check for safety rather than connection. Ask yourself or your client plainly: - Does my partner control who I see or what I spend? - Have I ever felt physically unsafe in this relationship? - Does fear, rather than respect, keep me from disagreeing? - Has substance use led to harm toward me or someone else? - Have I had thoughts of hurting myself because of this relationship? A “yes” to any of these calls for a referral to a licensed therapist or a safety planning resource, not another coaching question. Avoidant communication carries real cost: a study of 286 dyads found that days with more perceived avoidance brought lower intimacy that same day and lower satisfaction later on. ### How to use these questions without starting a fight Timing and framing decide whether a question opens a door or slams it shut. - Ask permission first. Try, “Can I ask you something that might feel vulnerable?” and wait for a real yes. - Keep it to one question, time-boxed. Five minutes, one topic, then stop even if it’s not resolved. - Close with reflection and tiny homework. “What did you notice?” followed by one small action before next time. Curiosity lands softer than accusation. “I’m curious what that was like for you” opens more than “why do you always.” For tracking, a shared note with one line per week, mood plus one win, works better than anything elaborate. Pro Tip: If a question triggers defensiveness, drop it for a week rather than pushing through. The timing matters more than the wording. ### Why practiced skills beat one-off tips Questions alone rarely change a relationship. They point at the gap, but closing it takes repetition with feedback, which is the whole premise behind our Love Masterminds. Episodes like How to Repair Your Relationship and sessions on breaking relationship cycles show what it looks like when insight turns into rehearsed behavior inside a group, with real feedback instead of guesswork. ### What the research actually tells us about fixing this Here’s what gets overlooked: the question matters less than the container it’s asked in. A randomized trial of brief web-based relationship interventions found that short coach calls paired with structured exercises produced modest, honest improvements in satisfaction and emotional support compared to doing nothing. That’s a modest, honest result, not a miracle, and it tells us something the listicle version of this topic skips: a good question asked once rarely moves the needle. A good question asked inside a practiced structure, with someone reflecting it back to you, moves it more reliably. The overrated idea is that finding the “right” prompt will unlock a breakthrough. What actually works is picking a handful of honest questions and running them on a schedule, the same way you’d train a muscle rather than wait for inspiration. Start with the safety questions if anything in this piece made you uneasy. Everything else can wait a week. ### Want to practice these questions with real feedback? Reading a list of questions gets you partway there. Saying them out loud, with someone trained to catch what you miss, gets you the rest of the way. Our Love & Intimacy Mentorship first session gives you one guided hour built around exactly the questions above, tailored to where you are right now. For ongoing practice, WeDeepen Membership runs $99 a month or $990 a year and includes weekly live sessions, Love Masterminds, and a community that keeps showing up alongside you. Come play with us when you’re ready. There’s space for you here. ### FAQ #### What is the 7-7-7 rule for couples? Definitions vary across coaching circles, but a common version suggests couples check in every seven days, seven weeks, or seven months on different layers of the relationship, from daily logistics to long-term goals. It’s a scheduling framework rather than a clinically validated model, so treat it as a useful rhythm, not a rule. #### What are the best questions to ask during a coaching session? The strongest session questions cover scope, approach, session structure, homework expectations, and referral policy, since these reveal how a coach actually works before you commit. Asking about training and how progress gets measured also protects you from vague promises. #### What are good deep questions for couples to ask each other? Deep couple questions tend to explore values, fears, and unmet needs rather than surface logistics, things like “What do you think I’m feeling when this comes up?” or “What would repair look like if I offered it first?” The goal is curiosity, not interrogation. #### What is the 5-5-5 rule in relationships? Like the 7-7-7 version, the 5-5-5 rule isn’t a single established clinical standard, and definitions differ depending on the source. Most versions describe a timed listening exchange, often five minutes each way, which lines up with the speaker-listener structure coaches commonly use. #### When should a relationship coach refer me to a therapist instead? A coach should refer you out when trauma, a diagnosable mental health condition, or any safety risk appears, since that falls outside coaching’s intended scope according to ICF guidance on referral. A coach who hesitates on this question is one to reconsider. ### Sources - Referring a client to therapy (ICF research guide) - New ICF resource helps coaches understand when and how to refer clients to therapy (PR Newswire summary of ICF guidance) - Assessing conflict communication in couples: Comparing the validity of self-report, partner-report, and observer ratings ### Recommended - Breaking the Cycle: Understanding and Overcoming Relationship Patterns with Maya Diamond - How to Repair Your Relationship with Derek Hart - Conscious Coupling: The Four Pillars - From First Conversations to Lifelong Love with Gay & Katie Hendricks ## Build Felt Loved in 5–15 Minutes: 16 Couples Communication Exercises URL: https://wedeepen.com/blog/couples-communication-exercises/ Published: 2026-10-01 Start with timed speaker-listener turns, validation practice, and a five-minute daily check-in. These three couple communication exercises build felt-loved and emotional safety faster than most people expect, and they take five to fifteen minutes a day. Add one weekly thirty to sixty minute meeting and you have a rhythm that actually sticks. TL;DR: - Practicing timed speaker-listener turns and validation with “I” statements for five weeks can significantly enhance feelings of safety and understanding. - Consistently doing short daily exercises and a weekly deeper session creates measurable improvements in communication and reduces conflict over time. - If there is violence, coercion, or addiction issues, couples should seek immediate professional therapy rather than relying solely on self-guided exercises. - Receptive listening and feeling valued have greater impact on relationship quality than problem-solving or effort, especially under stress. - Weekly live sessions and mentorship programs can deepen practice and provide real-time feedback to build lasting relationship skills. Wedeepen circle.wedeepen.com Practice Stronger Connection Together WeDeepen helps couples build communication and intimacy skills through weekly live sessions, practical exercises, and community support. Join WeDeepen Club ### Table of Contents - 1. Fifteen practical exercises to try this week - 2. How to turn these exercises into a habit that lasts - 3. What the research says about why this works - 4. When exercises aren’t enough: recognizing the limits - 5. How WeDeepen approaches practice and repair - 6. A gentler way to practice together - FAQ - Sources ### 1. Fifteen practical exercises to try this week Love is a trainable skill, and these exercises are the reps. You do not need a therapist in the room or a special app, just a timer and a willingness to go first. - Timed speaker-listener turns. Each partner speaks for three to five minutes while the other listens without interrupting, then mirrors back what they heard before responding. - Validation practice. Name your own feeling and need using an “I” statement (“I feel dismissed when plans change last minute, and I need a heads-up”) rather than a accusation. - Reappraisal writing. Spend five to eight minutes writing about a recent disagreement from a more understanding angle, as if explaining it to a neutral friend. - Five-minute check-in. Trade one thing you are grateful for and one thing you need more of this week. - Weekly problem-solving meeting. Set a thirty to sixty minute agenda, timebox each topic, and agree no interruptions until the timer runs out. - Appreciation exchange. Leave a short love note or say one specific thing you noticed your partner do well. - Collaborative planning task. Build a shared calendar together for the week, splitting logistics so no one carries it alone. - Sensory grounding together. Hold hands and breathe slowly for sixty seconds before a hard conversation to settle your nervous systems. - The noticing game. Each of you names three small things you noticed about the other today, good or ordinary. - Shared journaling prompt. Write “what I felt today” separately, then read each other’s entries out loud. - Playfulness ritual. Keep one small silly tradition alive, a nickname, a dance in the kitchen, a running joke that only you two share. - Safe-word pause protocol. Agree on a word that means “I need five minutes before we keep going” and honor it every time, no exceptions. - Paraphrase listening. Practice saying “what I hear you saying is” before offering your own view, even when you disagree. - Problem-decomposition. List every factor contributing to a recurring friction point, then choose just one small next step together. - Boundaries rehearsal. Take turns practicing a clear no and receiving a no without defending or re-litigating it. - Micro-check-in timer. Set a phone timer for two minutes, sit knee to knee, and simply ask, “How are you, really?” Pro Tip: Pick two exercises, not all sixteen. Mastering timed speaker-listener turns and the five-minute check-in for three weeks beats sampling everything once. - Do these before bed or over morning coffee, whichever slot you will actually protect. - Skip the exercise entirely on a night when either of you is exhausted or drinking; tired nervous systems do not learn new habits well. ### 2. How to turn these exercises into a habit that lasts The exercises above only work if you practice them enough times for your nervous system to recognize the pattern. Relationship education research backs a simple cadence: daily micro-practice, a weekly deeper session, and something slower once a month to check the bigger picture, a structure that shows measurable gains for couples even when the effects are modest. - Daily: five to fifteen minutes, something small like the check-in or a paraphrase exchange. - Weekly: thirty to sixty minutes for the problem-solving meeting or a longer reappraisal write. - Monthly: a deeper conversation about where you are heading, what is working, and what still feels raw. Ground rules matter more than the exercise itself. Use timed turns so no one talks over the other. Ban cross-talk during the listener’s turn. Stick to “I” statements instead of “you always.” Name the emotion out loud instead of acting it out. And agree on that safe-word pause before you need it, not in the middle of a fight. What happens when one partner shuts down or the conversation escalates? Try a short restart script: “I want to hear you, can we pause for five minutes and come back?” If someone goes quiet entirely, do not chase. Offer a specific time to resume instead of pushing in the moment. Pro Tip: Track progress by watching for fewer interruptions, a calmer tone within the first two minutes of hard topics, and more unprompted appreciation. Those behavioral shifts show up before the big feelings do. ### 3. What the research says about why this works A brief, web-based cognitive reappraisal writing exercise, just five to eight minutes at a time, led couples to report fewer disagreements and less relationship aggression over a two-week follow-up compared with couples who did not write. That is a small dose producing a measurable shift, which is part of why short daily practice beats occasional marathon talks. Feeling heard matters more than trying to be helpful. Research on emotion regulation between partners found that how the receiving partner perceives the support, not how hard the other partner thinks they tried, predicts relationship quality. Receptive listening and valuing someone out loud carried more weight than any attempt to problem-solve for them. Broader relationship education research shows small to moderate improvements in communication skills, with stronger effects for couples under more stress. Observational studies also tie withdrawal and hostility to worse outcomes later, while warmth and small moments of playfulness protect against drift. One finding worth sitting with: when at least one partner feels strongly valued, it can buffer the damage when the other partner is struggling to feel loved. Prioritize the exercises that build that felt-valued experience first, receptive listening, appreciation, warmth, before you tackle the harder conflict work. ### 4. When exercises aren’t enough: recognizing the limits Exercises help with friction. They are not built for danger. If there is any violence, coercion, or a cycle fueled by addiction, stop practicing at home and get outside support immediately. - Any physical violence, threats, or coercive control means the first call is to a licensed therapist or a local safety resource, not a journaling prompt. - If the same fight repeats after weeks of consistent practice, or one partner stays unreachable no matter how gently you approach them, that is a sign the pattern needs more than a worksheet. - Look for a therapist with couples-specific training, ask about their format and session goals before booking, and expect the first session to focus on understanding the pattern, not fixing it in an hour. A structured program, whether a licensed therapist or a guided relationship education course, can hold the parts self-practice cannot. ### From the podcast: being heard is a gift Allie Hoffman, creator of The Feels connection events, described the core of a listening exercise on episode 112 of Christina Weber's podcast . One person speaks, the other reflects back what they heard: You're giving someone the gift of showing them that they've been heard. It also drops us into a state of appreciation, like being seen through the eyes of another. She credits that part of her format to Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication. The next step is physical: an eye gaze or a long-held hug, "not designed to be erotic or sexual," but to tune into what you both feel. ### 5. How WeDeepen approaches practice and repair A couple sits across from each other in a live session, timer running, a facilitator nearby who has seen this exact stuck moment a hundred times. That is the shape of practice inside WeDeepen: weekly live sessions where members run the same exercises described above, but with real-time feedback instead of guessing alone. The Deepen with Christina episodes work like case studies. Episode 019, with Sierra Sullivan and Rono Smith, digs into what keeps a marriage resilient over decades. Episode 029, featuring Derek Hart on repair work , walks through structured exercises for couples trying to rebuild trust. Episode 054 brings in Gay and Katie Hendricks on carrying felt-loved from first conversations into lifelong love, and episode 058, with Maya Diamond on breaking relationship patterns , names exactly the kind of stuck cycle that journaling alone cannot untangle. A typical session runs a short teaching, a timed practice round, live feedback from the facilitator, and an integration task to carry into the week. ### 6. A gentler way to practice together You have the exercises. What you might be missing is a room full of people also learning to listen better, and someone experienced watching your blind spots in real time. WeDeepen membership gives you exactly that: weekly live sessions, mentorship, and integration work built around the same practices covered above, run by people who have guided this work for years. - The membership runs on a subscription basis and includes weekly live sessions and community access. - A premium membership tier adds deeper mentorship and retreat access for couples who want a fuller container. - Want a single focused hour with an expert first? The Love & Intimacy Mentorship: First-Time Session runs $295 and gives you a live, guided version of the reappraisal and listening work covered here. If you would rather go deeper in person, WeDeepen In-Person intensives run from $99 to $1,200 depending on format. Come play with us at Wedeepen and see what a supported week of practice actually feels like. ### FAQ #### How long should couples practice communication exercises each day? Five to fifteen minutes a day is enough for most micro-practices like check-ins or paraphrase listening. Add one thirty to sixty minute session weekly for deeper work like problem-solving or reappraisal writing. #### What is the single most effective communication exercise for couples? No single exercise outperforms the rest, but timed speaker-listener turns and validation practice using “I” statements tend to build felt-safety fastest. Research on receptive listening and feeling valued shows these matter more than self-reported effort. #### Can journaling really improve a relationship? A brief, structured reappraisal writing practice, five to eight minutes at a time, reduced disagreements and conflict over a two-week period in one study. It works best alongside spoken practice, not as a replacement for it. #### When should couples stop practicing alone and see a therapist? If violence, coercion, or an addiction-driven cycle is present, seek a licensed therapist immediately rather than continuing self-guided exercises. #### Does WeDeepen offer guided practice for these exercises? Weekly live sessions with expert feedback are offered, alongside mentorship and retreat options. Pricing details are available on the provider’s site. ### Sources - Effects of a brief web-based interpersonal conflict cognitive reappraisal expressive-writing intervention on changes in romantic conflict during COVID-19 quarantine - Marriage Education in the Army: Results of a Randomized Clinical Trial ### Recommended - DWC 054: From First Conversations to Lifelong Love with Gay & Katie Hendricks - DWC: 029 How to Repair Your Relationship with Derek Hart - DWC: 040 Conscious Coupling: The Four Pillars - DWC: 045 Breaking Free: Transforming Your Relationships through Self-Expression with Yarixa Ferrao ## Six Weeks to Better Connection for Couples: Love Languages in Practice URL: https://wedeepen.com/blog/love-languages-in-practice/ Published: 2026-10-01 The five love languages work best as a practical toolkit, not a rulebook: pick one micro-action aligned with your partner’s likely language and run it as a seven-day experiment. Notice what shifts. Combine whatever you learn with ordinary empathy and a mix of behaviors, because no single gesture carries a relationship on its own. TL;DR: - Tracking specific requests, gratitude, and complaints can reliably reveal your partner’s love language without direct questions. - Running a seven-day micro-action trial focused on one love language helps identify what truly resonates, rather than guessing. - Matching behaviors to your partner’s actual preferences improves relationship satisfaction more than solely relying on the love language label. - Addressing mismatches with a simple three-step process—name, try, reflect—can reset patterns and prevent resentment. - Building a six-week practice routine with regular feedback enhances the likelihood that these behaviors become natural and impactful. Wedeepen Turn Connection Into Practice WeDeepen helps couples strengthen communication and intimacy through expert-led sessions, practical exercises, and supportive community practice. Join WeDeepen Club ### Table of Contents - A quick refresher: the five love languages in two lines each - How to identify your and your partner’s love languages in practice - Concrete exercises and examples for each love language - When love languages clash: troubleshooting mismatches and preventing resentment - Turning awareness into skill: a six-week practice plan - What the research says: benefits and limits of the love-languages framework - Practice, feedback, and community: how WeDeepen closes the gap from knowing to doing - A soft next step: trying guided practice with WeDeepen - Sources - FAQ ### A quick refresher: the five love languages in two lines each Gary Chapman named five patterns of expressing and receiving love, and the labels have stuck around because they give couples a shared vocabulary for something that used to feel invisible. None of the five is better than another, and most people carry a blend rather than one pure type. - Words of affirmation : verbal appreciation, encouragement, and specific praise land harder than generic compliments for people with this language. - Acts of service : doing something helpful, unasked, often means more than a bouquet of flowers. - Receiving gifts : thoughtfulness shown through a chosen object, where the meaning lives in the attention behind the gift, not its price tag. - Quality time : focused, undistracted presence, the kind where phones get put away. - Physical touch : closeness expressed through the body, from a hand on the shoulder to a long hug after a hard day. Each language also has dialects. A partner whose language is acts of service might light up over a packed lunch, while another expects the laundry folded without being asked. Someone drawn to quality time might mean deep conversation, while their sibling means watching a show together in silence. The point of the refresher is not to file your partner under a single heading. It is to build a shared language for the next conversation, the one where you actually ask what they need this week. ### How to identify your and your partner’s love languages in practice Most people can name their own love language after a moment of thought, but spotting a partner’s takes a little detective work. Three sources of evidence tend to be reliable: what they request, what they thank you for, and what they complain about when it’s missing. - Track requests. If your partner keeps asking you to sit and talk after dinner, that’s a quality time signal, not a nag. - Track gratitude. Notice which of your actions get the warmest, most specific thank-yous. That reaction is data. - Track complaints. A repeated gripe, “you never say anything nice,” usually points straight at the missing language. - Ask directly, gently. Try: “When do you feel most loved by me?” or “What’s one small thing I could do this week that would mean a lot?” or “Looking back at a great day between us, what made it great?” - Run a seven-day trial. Pick the language your observations point toward and commit to one visible behavior every day for a week, then ask how it felt rather than assuming. The Cleveland Clinic’s explainer on the five love languages recommends gently phrased, permission-based language for these conversations, since direct questions asked with curiosity rather than pressure tend to lower defensiveness and make a partner more willing to experiment back. Pro Tip: Run one language at a time. Testing two or three at once muddies the feedback and makes it hard to know what actually worked. A seven-day trial works the same way regardless of which language you’re testing. Choose one small, repeatable action. Do it daily, even on days you don’t feel like it. On day seven, ask a two-part question: “Did you notice this?” and “Did it land the way I hoped?” Sometimes the answer reveals you guessed the wrong language. That’s useful information, not failure, and it just means the next seven days test something else. ### Concrete exercises and examples for each love language Abstract definitions are easy to nod along to and hard to act on. Here is what each language can look like this week, broken into daily micro-actions, weekly rituals, and one longer experiment worth running. Words of affirmation - Name one specific thing your partner did well today, out loud, within the first hour of seeing them. - Send a two-sentence text mid-day that names a quality you admire, not just “thinking of you.” - Leave a note somewhere they’ll find it unexpectedly, a mirror, a lunch bag, a dashboard. Weekly rituals: a five-minute “appreciation round” before bed where each partner names one thing from the week, and a handwritten card on a non-occasion day. The week-long experiment: say one specific, true affirmation daily for seven days and track whether your partner’s posture, tone, or closeness shifts afterward. Acts of service - Do one task your partner dislikes without being asked and without announcing it. - Prep something for their morning the night before: coffee set up, bag packed, lunch made. - Handle one errand that’s been sitting on their list for weeks. Weekly rituals: a shared “relief list” where each partner picks one task off the other’s plate every Sunday, and a standing offer to run one chore during a stressful week. The week-long experiment: complete one unasked task daily and notice whether gratitude, relaxation, or irritability at being “managed” shows up. Not everyone experiences acts of service as love; some read it as control, so watch the reaction closely. Receiving gifts - Bring home something small that shows you were thinking of them during the day, a favorite snack, an article they’d find interesting. - Save a funny or meaningful item you spot and give it with a one-line explanation of why. - Curate a small playlist or short list of recommendations built just for them. Weekly rituals: a recurring “surprise Friday” with a low-cost token, and a monthly larger gift tied to something they mentioned wanting. The week-long experiment: give one small, thoughtful object daily, nothing expensive, and track whether the explanation behind the gift matters more to them than the object itself. This is the language most vulnerable to feeling like a token gesture, so the story behind the item carries more weight than the price. Quality time - Put phones in another room for twenty minutes of focused conversation. - Take a short walk together with no destination and no agenda. - Cook one meal side by side instead of one person cooking alone. Weekly rituals: a standing weekly date with no phones, and a monthly longer outing that requires planning. The week-long experiment: protect one twenty-minute undistracted window daily and ask afterward whether your partner felt closer, calmer, or simply unchanged. For parents, this might shrink to ten minutes after kids are asleep. For long-distance partners, it might mean a video call with cameras on and a shared activity, like watching the same show in sync, rather than a call used only to run logistics. Physical touch - Offer a ten-second hug with no rush to let go. - Hold hands during a walk or while watching something together. - Touch their shoulder or back in passing, briefly, without it leading anywhere else. Weekly rituals: a weekly massage trade, five minutes each way, and a cuddle session with no expectation attached. The week-long experiment: initiate one small, non-sexual touch daily and notice whether your partner leans in, relaxes, or stiffens. New relationships should move slowly here and check consent explicitly rather than assuming touch reads as comfort. Across every language, the same warning applies: a gesture repeated without attention becomes a token, and partners notice the difference between a habit done on autopilot and one done with presence. A peer-reviewed study of 100 heterosexual couples found that it wasn’t simply doing the gesture that mattered, it was whether the behavior matched what the partner actually preferred, and mismatches measurably dragged down both relationship and sexual satisfaction. That is the argument for running these as trials instead of guesses: you’re testing for a match, not performing a script. ### When love languages clash: troubleshooting mismatches and preventing resentment Mismatches show up in predictable patterns. One partner overfunctions, piling on acts of service while the other quietly starves for words of affirmation. Gifts arrive but feel perfunctory, chosen in a hurry, and the receiving partner senses it. A partner keeps asking for quality time while the other hears “nagging” instead of a love language request. None of these patterns mean the relationship is broken. They mean the translation has been off. A compact three-step experiment helps reset the pattern without turning it into a confrontation. - Name it. Say plainly: “I think I’ve been showing love in my language instead of yours. Can we talk about what actually lands for you?” - Try it. Commit to one week of a single new behavior aimed at your partner’s stated or observed preference, and ask them to do the same for you. - Reflect it. At the end of the week, each partner answers two questions out loud: “What felt different?” and “What do we keep doing?” Short repair scripts help when the mismatch has already caused friction. For the overfunctioning partner: “I think I’ve been doing a lot of tasks and hoping it reads as love. Can you tell me what would actually feel like love this week?” For the partner who feels their gifts or words are landing flat: “I want to try something specific instead of guessing. What’s one thing I could do today?” For the partner who keeps requesting time and feeling dismissed: “When I ask for time together, I’m not trying to add to your list. I’m asking because it’s how I feel close to you.” Pro Tip: Pace the reset slowly. One new behavior tried consistently for a week beats five changes attempted all at once and abandoned by Wednesday. Resentment tends to build when one partner’s gestures go unacknowledged for long stretches, so the reflection step matters as much as the trial itself. Skipping it turns every experiment into another unnoticed effort. ### Turning awareness into skill: a six-week practice plan Reading about love languages changes nothing on its own. The shift happens through repetition, feedback, and small accountability loops, and six weeks is enough time to notice a real pattern without a plan collapsing into vague good intentions. - Week 1 : Identify your language and your partner’s using observation and the direct questions above. Journal one paragraph on what you noticed. - Week 2 : Run a seven-day micro-action trial in your partner’s likely language. Check in with the two-question reflection on day seven. - Week 3 : Swap roles if you’re doing this with a partner, so each of you has run one trial. Compare notes on what landed and what missed. - Week 4 : Add one weekly ritual from the exercises above and keep the daily micro-action going. Track energy, not just completion, in a short daily note. - Week 5 : Introduce the three-step troubleshooting experiment on one recurring friction point. Use the repair scripts if tension comes up. - Week 6 : Review all six weeks together. Ask what to keep, what to drop, and what deserves a permanent place in your routine. A short nightly or weekly journal entry, two or three sentences, builds the feedback loop that makes this stick: what did I try, what did I notice, what will I adjust. That loop is what separates a practice plan from a list of good ideas that fades by February. - Build accountability with a simple check-in: a five-minute conversation every Sunday about what worked. - Keep a shared note or voice memo if journaling solo feels like a chore. - Treat week six as a checkpoint, not a finish line: skills built this way keep developing well past the plan. Group practice accelerates this kind of skill-building in a way solo reading rarely does, because a room of people trying the same exercises surfaces patterns you wouldn’t catch alone, and live feedback catches blind spots faster than private reflection. ### What the research says: benefits and limits of the love-languages framework The love-languages framework has real empirical support, and it has real limits, and both matter if you want to practice it honestly. A peer-reviewed study of 100 heterosexual couples found that partners who responded with behaviors matching what their partner actually preferred reported higher relationship and sexual satisfaction, while mismatches between expressed and preferred behaviors were linked to lower satisfaction. That’s the evidence behind treating these as targeted experiments rather than generic nice gestures. The limits come from relationship science more broadly. A critical review published in a peer-reviewed psychology journal argues that the framework’s core assumptions, that everyone has one primary language, that mismatches cause real harm, and that matching behaviors improves relationships, carry limited empirical support when tested rigorously. The same review proposes a “balanced diet” metaphor instead: most people benefit from a mix of affirming words, helpful actions, thoughtful gifts, shared time, and physical closeness, rather than needing a single language matched with precision. Recent analyses the review cites found that receiving a range of loving behaviors associates with higher satisfaction broadly, with far less evidence that strict categorical matching is required. Taken together, the practical implication holds steady: treat the five languages as a shared vocabulary and a starting point for experiments, not a diagnosis carved in stone. Mix behaviors, keep testing, and let your partner’s actual reactions, not the label you’ve assigned them, guide what you do next. The study of 100 couples found that matching a partner’s preferred love-language behaviors was associated with measurably higher relationship and sexual satisfaction, while mismatches dragged both down , which is the clearest evidence yet that the effort to translate matters as much as the effort itself, according to the PMC study. ### Practice, feedback, and community: how WeDeepen closes the gap from knowing to doing Most people don’t need another explanation of the five love languages. They need somewhere to practice the awkward, early version of a new behavior before it becomes natural, and somewhere to find out, honestly, whether it landed. That’s the gap structured practice is built to close: a Love Mastermind where members bring a real mismatch from their week and workshop it live, an integration session where a new behavior gets tried out loud before it gets tried at home, feedback from people who’ve run the same experiment and can tell you what actually worked for them. Reading about acts of service is not the same as practicing the specific script that makes an unasked favor feel like love instead of an obligation, and a community that’s already run that experiment tends to catch the difference faster than a solo reader can. What would it mean to try just one micro-action this week, out loud, with someone who can tell you honestly whether it landed? That’s the invitation. Not a fix, not a guarantee, just a room where the practice gets easier because you’re not doing it alone. Come play with us. ### A soft next step: trying guided practice with WeDeepen A toolkit of exercises gets you started. What tends to make them stick is a weekly rhythm, a community already running the same experiments, and feedback from someone trained to spot what you’d miss on your own, which is the real contrast between reading a framework alone and practicing it inside structured sessions. If you want that kind of support, a few low-friction entry points exist depending on how much structure you want right now. - Join a membership program for a monthly fee and get access to weekly live sessions plus practical exercises you can run with the habits from this plan. - Book a love and intimacy mentorship session as a one-off option if you’d rather start with direct, guided feedback before joining a group. - Explore in-person events with prices varying widely for one-off experiences, if an immersive, face-to-face format fits your season of life better than a virtual room. Members who want deeper, longer-term practice alongside a committed cohort can look at an advanced annual program built for couples and individuals ready for sustained, structured growth. You can also browse the full WeDeepen membership page to see what fits your week, or hear how structured practice plays out in conversation on episodes like How to Love Men with Dr. Avrum Weiss and Simplifying Love with Eva Clay . ### Sources The exercises and troubleshooting steps above draw on clinical guidance and relationship research, not guesswork. These are the sources worth reading in full if you want to go deeper. - I love the way you love me: Responding to partner’s love language preferences boosts satisfaction in romantic heterosexual couples - Popular Psychology Through a Scientific Lens: Evaluating Love Languages From a Relationship Science Perspective - The 5 Love Languages Explained ### FAQ #### What is the hardest love language to fulfill? No single language is hardest across the board; difficulty depends on what feels natural to you versus your partner. Acts of service and physical touch tend to require the most behavior change for people whose own preference sits elsewhere, since both ask for consistent action rather than a one-time gesture. #### What is the 5 or 7 love language framework? The original framework from Gary Chapman names five love languages: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch, as described on the official 5 Love Languages site . Some writers and coaches have proposed extended or alternate versions with more categories, but the five-language model remains the one with the most recognition and the most research behind it. #### What is the 7-7-7 rule for couples? Definitions of the 7-7-7 rule vary across relationship coaches, and it is not part of the peer-reviewed love-languages research covered in this article. A common version suggests a monthly date night, a weekly overnight or longer outing, and a yearly trip together, but no single authoritative source defines it. #### What is the 3-6-9 rule in dating? The 3-6-9 rule is a popular dating guideline, not a research-backed standard, and definitions vary depending on the source. A common version suggests checking in periodically early in a relationship, but it sits outside the love-languages research referenced in this article. #### How do I discover my partner’s love language without asking directly? Watch what your partner requests repeatedly, what they thank you for most warmly, and what they complain about when it’s missing, since all three tend to point at the same underlying preference. If the pattern stays unclear, a brief seven-day trial of one language, followed by a short conversation about how it felt, usually settles it. ### Recommended - How to Repair Your Relationship with Derek Hart - How to Love Men with Dr. Avrum Weiss - Breaking the Cycle: Understanding and Overcoming Relationship Patterns with Maya Diamond - Transform Your Love Life with Tantra Speed Date with Guy Shahar ## Train Closeness: Research Based Practice to Reduce Intimacy Avoidance URL: https://wedeepen.com/blog/intimacy-avoidance/ Published: 2026-09-30 Intimacy avoidance is a pattern of pulling back from emotional or physical closeness, usually to protect against the discomfort of vulnerability. It shows up as withdrawing, deflecting deep conversation, or keeping people at arm’s length even when part of you wants closeness. The encouraging truth: research on attachment and mentalization shows this pattern can shift with the right practice and, when needed, therapy. TL;DR: - Building safety gradually through consistent, repeated positive interactions helps reduce attachment avoidance over time. - Addressing avoidance effectively often requires therapy focused on attachment, mentalization, or trauma, rather than solely self-guided efforts. - Recognizing avoidance patterns involves noticing withdrawal, surface conversations, and relief from plans falling through, rather than dramatic escapes. - Avoidance is rooted in early caregiving, trauma, and mentalization abilities, but it is not a fixed trait and can change with practice. - Practicing small, structured exercises like brief check-ins and nonverbal warmth significantly lowers avoidance feelings when repeated regularly. Wedeepen Practice Closeness With Support WeDeepen helps you build dating, communication, and intimacy skills through live sessions, practical exercises, and community feedback. - ✓ Weekly live sessions - ✓ Practical relationship exercises - ✓ Love Masterminds - ✓ Integration sessions Join WeDeepen Club ### Table of Contents - What intimacy avoidance actually means - Common signs and behaviors to watch for - Why avoidance forms: attachment, trauma, and mentalization - How avoidance shows up in the relationship itself - Practical, research-backed ways to reduce intimacy avoidance - What guided, repeated practice looks like in real life - When to seek professional support - How intimacy avoidance touches romantic, family, and friend relationships - Myths about intimacy avoidance worth retiring - Culture, gender, and how avoidance gets expressed - Checking your own patterns: simple self-assessment - Is love really a skill you can train? - A practice-first way to start: WeDeepen - Sources - FAQ ### What intimacy avoidance actually means Intimacy avoidance isn’t one single thing. It’s a cluster of protective strategies: pulling away from vulnerable conversations, keeping emotional experience at a distance from yourself, and managing closeness so it never gets too deep too fast. It’s not the same as low sexual desire, shyness, or a personality disorder, though those can overlap with it. Clinicians often lean on Bartholomew’s four-category attachment model to sort this out: secure, preoccupied, dismissing, and fearful. Dismissing avoidance looks calm on the surface. The person minimizes how much they need closeness and genuinely believes they’re fine alone. Fearful avoidance is messier: the person wants connection and dreads it in the same breath, often flinching away right when things get good. Knowing which pattern fits you (or your partner) matters, because the practice that helps a dismissing-avoidant person, like naming needs out loud, differs from what helps someone fearful, who often needs to build a felt sense of safety before vulnerability feels possible at all. ### Common signs and behaviors to watch for Intimacy avoidance rarely announces itself. It tends to look like busyness, independence, or “just not being that into” someone, when underneath it’s a nervous system managing risk. - Serial dating or a pattern of leaving relationships right as they deepen - Withdrawing physically or emotionally after moments of closeness - Keeping conversation on safe, surface-level topics even with long-term partners - Shutting down feelings quickly, especially sadness, need, or longing - Using perfectionism (about a partner, a plan, a timeline) to justify staying uncommitted - A push-pull rhythm: pursuing someone, then creating distance once they respond These patterns can show up gradually. A person might not withdraw dramatically. They might simply stop initiating, answer more briefly, or find themselves relieved when plans fall through. That relief is often the tell. ### Why avoidance forms: attachment, trauma, and mentalization Attachment avoidance has roots in early caregiving. When a child’s bids for comfort are consistently met with distance, dismissal, or unpredictability, they learn that needing someone is unreliable or even risky. A 2026 longitudinal analysis of early caregiving and adult outcomes found that maternal sensitivity in early childhood predicts lower attachment avoidance later in life, supporting the idea that early relational quality sets a template. Trauma can deepen the pattern by teaching the nervous system that closeness precedes hurt. But the more interesting piece is what sits in between trauma and avoidance: mentalization, the capacity to reflect on your own mental states and imagine someone else’s. A 2024 study found that mentalization fully mediated the relationship between childhood trauma and fear of intimacy , meaning the gap between early wounds and adult avoidance is largely explained by how well someone can reflect on feelings rather than just react to them. One number worth sitting with: in cross-cultural samples, attachment avoidance correlates with lower relationship satisfaction at roughly r=0.61 and higher fear of intimacy at roughly r=0.62, though the researchers are careful to note these findings are correlational, not causal. Underneath the mechanism sits something simpler: low self-worth and a fear of engulfment. If you don’t quite believe you’re worth staying for, distance feels safer than the risk of being truly known and then left. ### How avoidance shows up in the relationship itself Avoidance doesn’t stay internal. It changes what a relationship can become. Avoidant partners disclose less, which reduces how responsive the other person can be, since responsiveness depends on knowing what’s actually going on for someone. Over time, that gap chips away at trust and closeness on both sides. The dynamic gets more complicated when an avoidant person pairs with an anxious one. The anxious partner reaches for reassurance, the avoidant partner reads that reach as pressure and pulls back, and the anxious partner reaches harder. It’s a loop, not a character flaw in either person. Here’s the hopeful part. Research on fear of intimacy in interpersonal processes found that immediate partner responsiveness does increase closeness for avoidant individuals in the moment, though a single warm interaction rarely sustains change on its own. What works is repetition: consistent, structured positive experiences build a new expectation over time, not one breakthrough conversation. ### Practical, research-backed ways to reduce intimacy avoidance Change here isn’t about forcing vulnerability. It’s about building enough safety that vulnerability stops feeling like a threat. - Try attachment-informed therapy if your pattern feels tied to early relationships or a fearful push-pull dynamic. - Consider mentalization-based therapy when you notice you react to closeness faster than you can name why. - Use CBT for the thought patterns that catastrophize vulnerability (“if I share this, they’ll leave”). - Seek trauma-specialty therapy if avoidance is tangled with a specific traumatic history. - Practice mentalization prompts daily : pause and ask “What am I feeling? What might they be feeling? What evidence do I actually have?” before reacting to an intimacy cue. - Run small, graded experiments , like a two to three minute check-in twice a week, with a clear signal for when either person feels overwhelmed. - Lean on nonverbal warmth. Research on affection and attachment suggests consistent, readable nonverbal affection, a hand on the arm, steady eye contact, often lands better with avoidant people than pressured disclosure does. A multimethod study on intimacy-promoting activities found that structured, repeated positive experiences reduced negative affect, increased self-disclosure, and lowered attachment avoidance a month later for people who started out more avoidant. The design matters more than the intensity: small and frequent beats big and occasional. Pro Tip: Keep a shared log of these small check-ins so both people can see the pattern of safety building, not just remember the one time it felt hard. ### What guided, repeated practice looks like in real life Reading about mentalization is one thing. Doing it, in real time, with feedback, is another. That’s the gap structured practice is built to close: a facilitator names what just happened between you and a scene partner, you try the repair, you get to feel what worked. WeDeepen’s Love Masterminds and integration sessions work this way, pairing live guided practice with a community that’s doing the same reps. An episode of Deepen with Christina, on fear dynamics between men and women , touches on exactly this: how avoidance gets rehearsed alone but only unlearned in relationship. Look for any structured approach that offers real facilitation, clear exercises, and a way to be held accountable to practicing them. ### When to seek professional support Some signs call for more than self-guided practice. If avoidance is paired with self-harm thoughts, if it’s creating real functional impairment at work or in close relationships, or if you notice intense responses that seem tied to unresolved trauma, it’s time to bring in a clinician. - Look for a therapist trained in mentalization-based or attachment-informed approaches if your pattern feels relational at its root. - Ask for trauma-informed care specifically if a past experience feels connected to your avoidance. - Bring a short list of patterns you’ve noticed to your first appointment. - Ask directly how the therapist typically works with avoidance, not just anxiety or depression. Clinical overviews, including one from the Cleveland Clinic on avoidant personality patterns , offer a useful starting point if you want to understand where your experience sits clinically before you book that first session. ### How intimacy avoidance touches romantic, family, and friend relationships Avoidance doesn’t confine itself to romance, though that’s usually where it’s most visible. In romantic relationships, it shows up as the patterns already described: withdrawal after closeness, difficulty naming needs, a partner who feels perpetually just out of reach. In families, it often looks older and more baked in. An avoidant adult child might keep visits short, steer conversation away from anything emotional, or feel a flash of relief when a holiday gets canceled. Parents with avoidant patterns may struggle to offer comfort even when they deeply love their kids, defaulting to problem-solving instead of sitting with feeling. Friendships absorb a quieter version of the same thing. An avoidant friend might be reliable and fun but consistently unavailable the moment a friend needs real emotional support. They might change the subject when things get heavy, or simply drift when a friendship starts asking for more depth than surface camaraderie. What’s worth noticing: the skills that help in one domain tend to transfer. Practicing a mentalization pause with a partner builds the same muscle you’d use to actually ask your sister how she’s doing and mean it. Intimacy avoidance is a pattern of relating, not a setting unique to romance, so working on it anywhere tends to ripple everywhere. ### Myths about intimacy avoidance worth retiring A few misconceptions keep people stuck longer than they need to be. The first is that avoidant people don’t want closeness. Fearful-avoidant individuals in particular often want it intensely, and the wanting is part of what makes the withdrawal so painful. The second myth is that avoidance means someone is selfish or incapable of love. It’s a protective strategy, not a character verdict, and it was often adaptive once, in an earlier context where distance genuinely kept someone safer. A third myth: that being told to “just be more vulnerable” will fix it. Vulnerability without a foundation of safety usually backfires, triggering more withdrawal rather than less. The real target is building predictable, low-stakes safety first, so vulnerability eventually feels survivable rather than dangerous. Finally, people often assume avoidance is permanent, a fixed trait rather than a pattern. The research on intimacy-promoting activities and mentalization says otherwise. It’s a skill gap as much as a wound, and skill gaps respond to practice. ### Culture, gender, and how avoidance gets expressed Avoidance doesn’t look identical across every household or every culture. In cultures or families where emotional restraint is prized, especially where stoicism is coded as strength, avoidant patterns can go entirely unnamed, simply absorbed as “how we are.” Gender socialization plays its own role. Men are frequently taught early that vulnerability is risky or unmanly, which can channel avoidance into emotional shutdown or deflection through humor and problem-solving. Women socialized toward caretaking sometimes express avoidance differently, through overfunctioning and busyness that leaves little room for their own needs to surface. Some avoidance today gets misread as boundary-setting or independence, when it’s really discomfort with depth. None of this makes avoidance a cultural or gender fact fixed at birth. It shapes how the pattern gets expressed and how visible it is, not whether it can shift. ### Checking your own patterns: simple self-assessment You don’t need a formal diagnosis to start noticing your own avoidance. A few honest questions can surface more than you’d expect. Ask yourself: do you feel relief rather than disappointment when plans with a partner fall through? Do you find yourself drawn to people who are unavailable, keeping real closeness comfortably out of reach? When someone shares something vulnerable with you, is your first instinct to problem-solve or deflect rather than simply stay present? Attachment researchers use structured measures, often built around the Bartholomew framework, to map where someone falls between secure, preoccupied, dismissing, and fearful patterns. You don’t need a formal instrument to get useful information, though: tracking your own reactions over a couple of weeks, especially the moments you pull back, often tells you more than any single questionnaire. ### Is love really a skill you can train? Picture a Tuesday evening, a small group of people sitting in a circle, practicing something as ordinary as holding eye contact for thirty seconds without flinching away. It looks almost silly until you try it yourself. What if the discomfort you feel reaching for someone isn’t proof you’re broken, just proof you haven’t practiced yet? Love is a trainable skill, built the same way any skill is: through repetition, feedback, and people willing to catch you when you flinch. ### From the podcast: the wave of distancing Psychotherapist Ken Page, author of Deeper Dating, described a version of intimacy avoidance most people never get a name for on episode 106 of Christina Weber's podcast : If you're used to dating people who are not really available, then when you meet someone who's really present and really available, all of a sudden you notice their nose hair, you notice that their laugh irritates you, you notice that your sexual desire diminishes. That's called the wave of distancing, and nobody's taught to deal with it. He estimates it affects between a third and a half of people who date. Christina shared her own version in the same episode: Ken urged her to ask a partner a question she was scared to ask, she resisted all evening, then asked. "It didn't even matter what came after that. There was this relief." Read our guide to the episode . ### A practice-first way to start: WeDeepen If reading about mentalization and graded exposure convinces you but doing it alone feels daunting, that’s exactly the gap guided practice is built for. A membership platform offers weekly live sessions, group masterminds, and integration sessions where participants practice these skills with real feedback, not just theory. - Weekly live sessions led by professionals, focused on real practice, not lectures - Group masterminds where participants work through actual relationship challenges together - Integration sessions to help what you learn actually stick between meetings - A community doing the reps alongside you, so you’re not practicing vulnerability alone If you want one guided conversation before joining a group, the Love & Intimacy Mentorship: First-Time Session is a direct way to start. For ongoing practice, WeDeepen membership is the front door. Come play with us. This article is general information, not a substitute for advice from a qualified doctor. Consult a qualified healthcare professional about your own circumstances before acting on anything here. ### Sources - The mediating role of mentalization and integrative self-knowledge in the relationship between childhood trauma and fear of intimacy — Frontiers in Psychology - Benefits of positive relationship experiences for avoidantly attached individuals — Stanton et al. - Affection and attachment research — PubMed ### FAQ #### What does intimacy avoidance look like? It often looks like withdrawing after moments of closeness, keeping conversations surface-level, and feeling relief rather than disappointment when plans with a partner fall through. Serial dating and a push-pull rhythm, pursuing someone then pulling back once they respond, are common patterns too. #### How do you fix intimacy avoidance? There’s no single fix, but research points to graded practice: small, repeated positive experiences paired with mentalization prompts that help you pause before reacting to closeness. Therapy approaches like attachment-informed therapy or mentalization-based therapy support this work when the pattern runs deep. #### What is intimacy avoidant? Being intimacy avoidant means you tend to protect yourself from emotional or physical closeness, even when part of you wants it, usually by withdrawing, deflecting, or keeping things surface-level. It’s a learned protective pattern rather than a fixed trait, which is why it can shift with practice and support. #### How is intimacy avoidance different from social anxiety or commitment phobia? Social anxiety centers on fear of judgment in social situations generally, not specifically closeness with people you already know well. Commitment phobia is more about avoiding long-term decisions, while intimacy avoidance is about discomfort with emotional vulnerability itself, even in relationships someone has already committed to. #### When should I see a therapist for intimacy avoidance? Consider professional support if avoidance is causing real strain in your relationships or daily functioning, or if it’s tied to a trauma history you haven’t worked through. A therapist trained in attachment-informed or mentalization-based approaches can help you build the safety needed before vulnerability feels possible. ### Recommended - DWC: 037 Why Men Fear Women with Dr. Avrum Weiss - DWC 058: Breaking the Cycle: Understanding and Overcoming Relationship Patterns with Maya Diamond - DWC 070: How to Love Men with Dr. Avrum Weiss - DWC: 040 Conscious Coupling: The Four Pillars ## One More Follow Up Question for First Date Conversation Practice URL: https://wedeepen.com/blog/first-date-conversation/ Published: 2026-09-29 The best first-date conversation isn’t a script, it’s a rhythm: ask a genuine follow-up question, listen for what lights the other person up, then offer one short story of your own before circling back. That single loop (curiosity, listening, brief sharing) does more for connection than any clever opener. You’ll find ready-to-use questions and texting scripts below, but the loop is the whole game. TL;DR: - Asking one more follow-up question per date significantly increases the chances of a second date by signaling attentiveness and fostering deeper self-disclosure. - Topics like travel, hobbies, childhood memories, and media tend to spark meaningful stories more than routine factual questions, creating emotional connections. - Body language cues such as leaning in, maintaining eye contact, mirroring gestures, and relaxed posture indicate genuine interest during the conversation. - It’s best to balance warm-up, playful, story, and deep questions gradually, avoiding rushing into the most personal topics too early to foster natural flow. - During a lull, light self-awareness like naming the silence can ease tension and reset the conversation rather than risking awkwardness or distraction. Wedeepen Practice More Connected Conversations WeDeepen helps you build dating and communication skills through expert-led sessions, practical exercises, and community feedback. - ✓ Weekly live sessions - ✓ Practical exercises - ✓ Love Masterminds - ✓ Integration sessions Join WeDeepen Club ### Table of Contents - 1. Topics That Actually Spark Real Conversation - 2. What the Research Says About Follow-Up Questions - 3. Ready-to-Use Questions for Every Stage of the Date - 4. Do’s, Don’ts, and How to Handle a Rough Patch - 5. Following Up After the Date: Timing and What to Say - 6. Signs of Mutual Interest During Conversation - 7. How Culture Shapes First-Date Conversation - 8. Making Space for Quieter Personalities - 9. Reading the Body Language That Comes Alongside the Talk - Why We Treat This as a Skill You Practice, Not a Talent You’re Born With - Want to Practice This Live, With Real Feedback? - Selected Research and Reporting to Read Next - Sources - FAQ ### 1. Topics That Actually Spark Real Conversation Some topics invite a story. Others invite a shrug. The difference usually comes down to whether the question asks about a fact or an experience. “Where do you work?” gets you a title. “What’s the most surprising thing about your job?” gets you a story, and a window into what someone values. A handful of topic categories tend to reliably produce that window: - Travel and adventure : reveals how someone handles the unfamiliar and what they consider fun. - Hobbies and passions : shows what someone chooses to do with free time, which says more than a resume ever could. - Childhood memories : opens emotional territory gently, since nostalgia rarely feels threatening. - Media and favorites (movies, music, shows): a low-pressure way to learn taste and humor. - The venue or moment itself : commenting on the restaurant, the weather, or the walk over gives you an easy, low-stakes on-ramp. - Light work questions : not “what do you do” but “what’s the most interesting part of your week.” - Friend groups and roles : asking who someone is among their friends (the planner, the chaotic one, the peacemaker) often reveals more than a personality quiz. Each category works best with one solid follow-up ready. If they mention a recent trip, ask what almost went wrong. If they mention a hobby, ask what got them hooked in the first place. That second question is usually where the real conversation begins. ### 2. What the Research Says About Follow-Up Questions The strongest evidence on this comes from Harvard, where researchers studying speed-dating and conversation patterns found that people who asked more follow-up questions were more likely to be asked out again, and that adding roughly one more follow-up question per date meaningfully raised the odds of a second-date “yes.” Follow-up questions signal attentiveness in a way that new, unrelated questions don’t. A related body of research on question-asking and self-disclosure found that being asked questions makes people open up more and like the person asking. Disclosure works best as a trade, not a monologue: share something small, then hand the thread back with a question. Statistic Callout: Across speed-dating and lab studies, asking one more follow-up question per date was linked to a higher rate of second-date requests. One extra “what was that like for you?” can carry real weight. Pro Tip: After your date answers a question, resist the urge to jump to your next question. Ask one more “why” or “what was that like” first. ### 3. Ready-to-Use Questions for Every Stage of the Date You don’t need a script, but a short mental menu keeps you from freezing when a silence hits. Keep a few from each category in your back pocket, and remember to answer your own questions too. This isn’t an interview. Warm-up openers: - What was the best part of your day before this? - Have you been to this place before, or is it new for you too? - What’s something you’re looking forward to this month? - What’s your go-to order when you don’t know what to get? - What made you say yes to tonight? Playful and low-stakes: - If you could only eat one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be? - What’s a skill you’re weirdly proud of? - What’s the last thing that made you laugh out loud? - Cats, dogs, or “please don’t make me choose”? - What’s your most-used emoji, and does it embarrass you? Story prompts: - What’s a trip that changed how you see things? - What’s something you’re proud of that most people don’t know about? - What was a turning point in your life you didn’t see coming? - What’s the best piece of advice someone’s ever given you? - What’s a tradition from your family that you still keep? - What’s a moment you’d want to relive exactly as it happened? Deeper prompts, once things are flowing: - What does a good relationship look like to you? - What’s something you’ve changed your mind about recently? - What are you working on in yourself right now? - What makes you feel most like yourself? Notice the pattern: warm-up, playful, story, deep. Skipping straight to the deep end feels like a job interview. Climbing there naturally feels like getting to know someone. ### 4. Do’s, Don’ts, and How to Handle a Rough Patch Good first-date conversation has more to do with what you don’t do than some perfect opening line. Do: - Listen for the detail behind the answer, not just the answer itself. - Match their energy: playful gets playful, thoughtful gets thoughtful. - Offer a short story of your own after they share, so it feels like a trade. - Ask one more follow-up before moving to a new topic. Don’t: - Fire off question after question without sharing anything yourself. - Turn the date into a complaint session about work, exes, or traffic. - Check your phone, even quickly, during a lull. - Overshare something heavy in the first twenty minutes. Pro Tip: If a silence stretches too long, name it lightly: “Okay, comfortable silence or should I panic?” It almost always gets a laugh and resets the moment. If the date genuinely isn’t working, a graceful exit sounds like: “I’ve enjoyed getting to talk with you, and I don’t think we’re quite a match, but I’m glad we did this.” Honest, kind, and done. ### 5. Following Up After the Date: Timing and What to Say If the date went well and ended on an easy note, texting that same night (a quick, warm line) works fine. If it felt a little more low-key, the next day gives both of you room to reflect without overthinking a same-night text. A few short templates cover most situations: - Thank-you and open invite : “Had a really nice time tonight. Would love to grab coffee again sometime.” - Playful callback : “Still thinking about your terrible taste in pizza toppings. We need to discuss this further.” - Direct ask for a second date : “I’d like to see you again. Are you free this weekend?” - Graceful sign-off : “Really enjoyed meeting you, but I didn’t feel quite the spark I was hoping for. Wishing you the best.” If there’s no reply within a couple of days, it’s worth one gentle nudge at most. Beyond that, the silence is an answer, and it’s kinder to both of you to let it be one. ### 6. Signs of Mutual Interest During Conversation Interest tends to show up in small, physical tells more than in words. Someone who’s into the conversation leans in slightly, asks questions back instead of just answering yours, and remembers a detail you mentioned earlier without being reminded. Laughter that comes easily, even at something that wasn’t that funny, is often a signal of comfort more than comedy. Watch for the shape of the conversation itself. Are their answers getting longer as the date goes on, or shorter? Are they offering new topics, or waiting for you to carry it? Someone genuinely engaged tends to ask “what about you” almost automatically, because they’re curious, not just being polite. Eye contact that lingers a beat past what’s strictly necessary, angling their body toward you rather than toward the room, and a relaxed posture (shoulders down, not crossed arms) all tend to travel together with verbal interest. None of these signs mean much alone. Together, over the course of an hour, they paint a pretty honest picture. ### 7. How Culture Shapes First-Date Conversation What counts as an easy, appropriate first-date topic shifts depending on someone’s upbringing, family expectations, and cultural background. In some cultures, questions about family and long-term plans feel natural early on. In others, that territory feels rushed, and lighter topics like work, hobbies, or travel are the expected starting point. Directness varies too. Some people expect flirtation to be obvious and verbal. Others read subtlety, humor, or attentiveness as the real flirtation, and a very direct compliment can land as too much, too soon. Physical space and touch norms differ as well, so it’s worth paying attention to how someone responds to a hand on the arm or a hug goodbye rather than assuming your own comfort level is universal. None of this means overthinking every word. It means staying a little more curious than certain, and treating a differing comfort level as information rather than a red flag. ### 8. Making Space for Quieter Personalities If you’d rather listen than perform, you’re not at a disadvantage, you’re actually well-positioned. Introverts tend to ask better follow-up questions naturally, because listening is already the default mode. The trick is not to let listening tip into silence that reads as disinterest. A few adjustments help. Prepare two or three go-to questions in advance so you’re never scrambling. Choose a date setting with lower sensory noise, a quiet coffee shop over a loud bar, so you’re not spending energy just processing the room. And give yourself permission to sit in a short pause rather than rushing to fill it. A pause after someone shares something meaningful often reads as thoughtful, not awkward. ### 9. Reading the Body Language That Comes Alongside the Talk Words carry maybe half the message on a first date. The rest comes through posture, tone, and timing. An open stance (uncrossed arms, body angled toward you) tends to signal comfort, while a closed one can mean nerves rather than disinterest, so it’s worth checking in rather than assuming. Mirroring is one of the more reliable cues: when someone unconsciously starts matching your gestures, your pace of speech, or the way you’re sitting, it’s usually a sign the conversation is landing well. Tone matters as much as words: a warm, unhurried voice usually says more than the sentence itself. If someone’s words are enthusiastic but their tone is flat, trust the tone. ### Why We Treat This as a Skill You Practice, Not a Talent You’re Born With At WeDeepen, the starting belief is simple: love is a trainable skill. Conversation is no exception. The questions and scripts above work best not as a one-time cheat sheet but as reps you try, adjust, and try again, the same way you’d get better at anything else worth doing. What are you actually practicing next time you’re across the table from someone new? Not perfection, just presence: one good follow-up, one honest story, one moment of real listening. ### From the podcast: let them nerd out Speaker and performer Shaun Derik, who worked with Christina Weber on her Underground Unattached dating events in New York, gave her the simplest first-date rule we know on episode 47 of her podcast : If you're scared or if you're nervous on your first date, the idea is to always speak to what fascinates the person you're talking to. Let them nerd out on something. That is where you get people's attention. It takes the pressure off you, and it shows you what lights the other person up, which tells you more than any résumé question. ### Want to Practice This Live, With Real Feedback? Reading a list of questions gets you prepared. Practicing them out loud, with people who’ll tell you honestly what landed and what didn’t, gets you better. That’s the gap WeDeepen Membership is built to close, through weekly live sessions, Love Masterminds, and integration exercises where you try these conversation moves with real people instead of just in your head. - Weekly live sessions where you practice curiosity and self-disclosure with community feedback, not just theory. - Love Masterminds that walk through real dating and relationship situations members bring in, including first-date nerves. - A structured alternative to figuring it all out solo through articles and guesswork. If you’d rather work one-on-one first, you can book a session with Christina to practice before your next date. Come play with us. ### Selected Research and Reporting to Read Next For the follow-up question findings, see Harvard Working Knowledge and the related Harvard research on self-disclosure. For expert-sourced conversation tips, see The Cut , TODAY’s questions with Esther Perel , and Science of People’s conversation starters . ### Sources - Asking questions can get you a better job or a second date | Harvard Working Knowledge - Question-asking increases liking (research paper / Harvard dash copy) - What experts say you should talk about on a first date | The Cut - 11 best first date questions, according to Esther Perel | TODAY - 82 first-date conversation starters (science-backed) | Science of People ### FAQ #### What are some flirty questions to ask on a date? Flirty questions work best when they’re playful and low-stakes, like asking about a guilty pleasure, a weirdly specific skill someone’s proud of, or what their “type” actually looks like in practice. The goal is banter, not intensity, so keep the tone light and follow their lead on how far to take it. #### What are good questions to ask on a first date? The strongest first-date questions are open-ended and invite a story rather than a one-word answer, things like what trip changed how someone sees the world or what they’re proud of that most people don’t know. Mixing in a couple of playful questions and one or two deeper ones, once the conversation is flowing, tends to cover the range best. #### How long should a first date last? There’s no fixed rule, but many people find that an hour to ninety minutes gives enough time to see if there’s a real connection without either person feeling stuck. Coffee or drinks dates naturally have a built-in end point, which takes the pressure off deciding when to wrap up. #### What are the do’s and don’ts of a first date? Do listen closely, ask follow-up questions, and share a short story of your own so the conversation feels like a trade rather than an interview. Don’t fire off rapid questions without sharing anything, complain about your day, or check your phone, since all three tend to signal disinterest even when that’s not the intent. #### How do I know if my date is interested in me during the conversation? Leaning in, asking questions back, and remembering details you mentioned earlier are all common signs someone’s engaged in the conversation. Longer, more detailed answers as the date goes on, along with relaxed posture and easy laughter, usually point the same direction. ### Recommended - DWC: 043 Navigating the Dating World with Matthew Burgess - DWC: 010 Raw & Real Talk: Dating & Dating Events with Alexandra Ballensweig - DWC 054: From First Conversations to Lifelong Love with Gay & Katie Hendricks - DWC: 013 Transform Your Love Life with Tantra Speed Date with Guy Shahar ## One Daily Question That Deepens Long Distance Intimacy for Couples URL: https://wedeepen.com/blog/long-distance-intimacy/ Published: 2026-09-28 Long distance intimacy is not only possible, it is trainable: couples who prioritize emotional responsiveness, negotiate a sustainable contact rhythm, and use technology thoughtfully for sexual connection often sustain closeness as well as, or better than, geographically close couples. Research from Stanford’s Li Jiang on geographic separation and practical frameworks from WeDeepen both point the same direction: distance forces the deliberate habits that proximity lets couples skip. TL;DR: - Establish clear expectations for contact and renegotiate the rhythm regularly to prevent mismatched communication styles from causing conflict. - Prioritize deliberate, layered self-disclosure to deepen intimacy and reduce relational uncertainty, especially during long periods of separation. - Choose the most suitable technology for sexual intimacy based on comfort and trust levels, being mindful that video can cause performance anxiety for some partners. - Engage in sensory and shared experiences like cooking or reading together to create lasting memories that foster closeness beyond conversation. - Maintain personal wellbeing outside the relationship through hobbies and friendships to prevent communication burnout and keep emotional resilience strong. Wedeepen circle.wedeepen.com Practice Closer Connection Together WeDeepen helps couples build intimacy and communication skills through expert-led sessions, practical exercises, and supportive community practice. Join WeDeepen Club ### Table of Contents - Emotional foundations: disclosure, responsiveness, and naming uncertainty - How to negotiate a communication rhythm that actually fits your life - Digital sexual intimacy: what the research says about sexting, calls, and video - Shared experiences that build a memory, not just a conversation - Protecting your own wellbeing so the relationship doesn’t wear you down - Making visits count and softening the goodbye - Where guided practice helps when you’re stuck - What steady, practiced love looks like at 2 a.m. and 3,000 miles apart - A gentler way to practice this together - Sources - FAQ ### Emotional foundations: disclosure, responsiveness, and naming uncertainty Here’s what surprises most couples: distance can deepen intimacy rather than erode it. Jiang’s research found that long-distance partners often report greater intimacy than partners who live close by, largely because they practice more adaptive self-disclosure and form idealized, generous perceptions of each other. Proximity lets couples get lazy about naming their inner world. Distance won’t let you. Try building disclosure in layers instead of dumping everything at once: - Starter line: “Something small made me happy today, want to hear it?” - Middle depth: “I’ve been anxious about work and I wanted you to know before you noticed I was quiet.” - Deeper sharing: “I’m scared of how easily I could get used to being alone, and I don’t want that to become true.” Reflective listening keeps the exchange safe: “When you say X, I hear Y. Did I get that right?” A 2020 Cambridge study on attachment and disclosure found this kind of progressive, reciprocal disclosure reduces relational uncertainty and builds trust over time. When reassurance-seeking creeps in, name it out loud rather than fishing for proof: “I’m feeling uncertain right now, can we check in about where we both stand?” That single sentence turns anxiety into collaboration instead of interrogation. Pro Tip: Ask one deepening question a day instead of a dozen shallow “how’s your day” texts. Depth beats volume. ### How to negotiate a communication rhythm that actually fits your life Most long-distance conflict is not about love, it’s about mismatched expectations of contact. One partner texts all day and calls it closeness; the other finds that draining and wants one real conversation instead. The fix is not more effort, it’s a clearer agreement. - Name your defaults. Each partner describes what “regular contact” currently means to them, in specific terms (texts per day, calls per week). - Find the overlap. Identify where your defaults already match and where they clash. - Design the rhythm together. A Psyche guide on long-distance relationships recommends brief daily contact plus at least one protected, meaningful shared experience each week. - Set no-contact windows. Agree on hours or days when silence is expected, not worrying. - Revisit the plan. Life changes (new jobs, time zones, travel) mean the rhythm should get renegotiated, not just abandoned. A commuter couple might manage nightly ten-minute calls and one weekend visit a month. A couple split across time zones might swap voice memos through the day and save video for a longer weekend call. Neither is more correct: the Utah State University HDFS overview notes that consistency and availability matter more than sheer message count. ### Digital sexual intimacy: what the research says about sexting, calls, and video Technology-mediated sexual interaction, often shortened to TMSI, covers everything from flirty texts to phone sex, video intimacy, and shared use of toys or wearables. A longitudinal study of long-distance couples tracked 73 mixed-sex couples over six months and found that how often couples engaged in TMSI was linked to sexual satisfaction for both partners, but the medium mattered. Texting and social media exchanges worked well for many couples, while video sometimes brought performance anxiety that lowered satisfaction instead of raising it. That means there is no single “best” medium, only the one that fits the couple experimenting with it: - Texting or voice notes: low pressure, good for building anticipation throughout the day. - Phone calls: more intimate than text, easier to read tone and pacing. - Video: the most immersive option, but can trigger self-consciousness for some people. - Shared toys or wearables: add a physical sensation layer, best introduced after trust is established. Before experimenting, agree on consent explicitly: “Are you open to trying this tonight, and can either of us pause anytime?” Take basic privacy precautions (secure apps, no permanent storage without agreement) and debrief afterward with a simple question: “What felt good, and what would you skip next time?” Pro Tip: If video intimacy feels flat or anxious, don’t force it. Switch mediums before you conclude the desire itself is the problem. ### Shared experiences that build a memory, not just a conversation Status updates keep you informed. Shared sensory experiences keep you close. The USU Extension list of long-distance date ideas points to a pattern worth borrowing: low-tech rituals that engage the senses tend to outperform another round of “how was work.” - Cook the same meal on video , then eat together and compare notes. - Take a simultaneous walk , phones in pocket, and narrate what you see. - Read aloud to each other from the same book, a chapter at a time. - Open a care package together , timed so you unwrap it in the same moment. A 20-minute version might be a shared coffee on video before work. An evening ritual could be cooking together twice a week. A weekend ritual might be a longer call built around a shared show or a slow, unhurried meal. These rituals create a joint memory both partners can reference later, which keeps conversation from drifting into pure logistics. ### Protecting your own wellbeing so the relationship doesn’t wear you down A relationship stretched across distance still needs a person on each end who has a life outside it. Friendships, hobbies, and your own daily rhythm are not distractions from the relationship, they’re what keep you resilient enough to show up for it. Asking for space doesn’t have to sound like rejection: “I need a quiet night to reset, it’s not about you, I’ll be fully here tomorrow.” That single sentence protects the boundary and the connection at once. Watch for signs of communication burnout: dreading calls, one-word replies, or feeling relieved when a call gets canceled. When you notice it, try a short reset: pause the current rhythm for a day, renegotiate what contact should look like this week, then schedule one specific check-in to talk it through. ### Making visits count and softening the goodbye The visit itself only does half the work. What you do before and after shapes whether it strengthens the relationship or leaves you both more raw. - Plan logistics early , but also agree on one shared goal for the visit beyond “see each other.” - Negotiate do-nothing time. Not every hour needs an activity, some visits need quiet side-by-side time to work. - Build a departure ritual. A specific goodbye phrase or gesture makes the parting feel intentional rather than abrupt. - Name the sadness out loud. “This part is hard, and I’m glad we had this time” holds both truths at once. - Confirm next contact before you part. Knowing when you’ll talk again shrinks the post-visit dip. Save one substantial conversation, future plans or a hard topic, for mid-visit rather than the first or last hours, when nerves or sadness crowd out clear thinking. ### Where guided practice helps when you’re stuck Reading about better habits is different from practicing them with feedback. WeDeepen’s membership model runs on weekly live sessions, practical exercises, and Love Masterminds where members bring real relationship challenges into a guided group setting, followed by integration sessions to help the practice stick. A few episodes worth exploring if you want to go deeper: - DWC 095 explores self-connection and emotional resilience, useful groundwork before you try any of the disclosure scripts above. - DWC 074 looks at conscious sexuality, relevant if you’re navigating the TMSI conversation with a partner. - DWC 062 touches on the felt experience of long-distance connection more broadly. Guided practice tends to help most when you already know what you want to change but keep running into the same wall alone. ### What steady, practiced love looks like at 2 a.m. and 3,000 miles apart She is 34, phone propped against a water glass, stirring pasta on video while her partner narrates his commute two time zones away. Nothing urgent is being said. That’s the point. A WeDeepen member named Talia once described this exact rhythm in a Love Mastermind: not fireworks, just repetition until closeness stopped feeling like effort. What would change if you treated one ordinary Tuesday call as the whole relationship, not a placeholder for the next visit? Come play with us and try one ritual from this piece before your next call. ### A gentler way to practice this together If you’d rather practice these skills with company than figure them all out alone, The membership platform offers weekly live sessions and structured exercises instead of another article to apply solo. It’s built on real-time feedback and a community that’s navigating the same distance you are, not another set of tips to file away. For couples who want more contact hours than a monthly membership allows, the Love Club offers a smaller, more intensive community, and the Love & Intimacy Mentorship first session is a one-off way to get coached feedback before committing further. None of this is urgent. Visit WeDeepen when you’re ready to see what fits. ### Sources - Absence makes the communication grow fonder: Geographic separation, interpersonal media, and intimacy in dating relationships - Attached and apart: Attachment styles and self-disclosure in long-distance romantic relationships - A longitudinal dyadic analysis of technology mediated sexual interactions in long distance relationships - Research-backed tips for making a long-distance relationship work ### FAQ #### What is the 777 rule for long-distance relationships? The 777 rule is a popular shorthand suggesting couples plan a date night every 7 days, a longer outing every 7 weeks, and a trip together every 7 months. It’s not drawn from the research cited in this guide, so treat it as a memorable starting framework rather than a proven formula, and adjust the actual numbers to match the rhythm you negotiate together. #### What is the 72 hour intimacy rule? There’s no single agreed definition of a “72 hour intimacy rule” in the research covered here, so treat any specific claim about it cautiously. If you’ve encountered it as advice to reconnect deeply within three days of a conflict or separation, that instinct lines up with the broader research on responsiveness and consistent contact mattering more than message volume. #### Is a long-distance relationship worth it? Long-distance relationships can be genuinely worth it: Jiang’s Stanford research found these couples often report greater intimacy than geographically close couples because distance encourages more deliberate self-disclosure. Whether it’s worth it for you depends on whether both partners are willing to negotiate contact rhythms and communicate consistently rather than passively. #### What is the highest form of intimacy for a woman? There’s no single research-backed hierarchy ranking forms of intimacy by gender, so any claim of a single “highest form” should be treated skeptically. What the research here does support is that emotional intimacy, built through responsive, progressive self-disclosure, tends to be the foundation that other forms of closeness, including physical and sexual intimacy, build on. ### Recommended - From First Conversations to Lifelong Love with Gay & Katie Hendricks - Conscious Coupling: The Four Pillars - How to Stay Married with Sierra Sullivan & Rono Smith ## Decide Faster With the 3, 6, 9 Heuristic: Compatibility or Chemistry URL: https://wedeepen.com/blog/compatibility-vs-chemistry/ Published: 2026-09-26 Compatibility is the more reliable predictor of long-term relationship stability, while chemistry sparks the initial pull toward each other. Longitudinal research backs this up, showing that couples who stay compatible over time report better mental health and life satisfaction. Chemistry still matters, especially if you are seeking short-term connection or sexual desire. Below, you will find a practical checklist and a simple heuristic to help you tell the two apart in real time. TL;DR: - Compatibility in values, goals, conflict styles, and daily habits is more predictive of long-term success than initial chemistry, especially as relationships evolve. - High chemistry paired with low compatibility often masks underlying issues that tend to resurface over time, causing relationship difficulties. - Compatibility is mainly demonstrated through behaviors like problem-solving, respect during disagreements, and shared life interests, not just feelings of attraction. - Trust and communication are key to building compatibility, with research showing they reinforce each other over several years in lasting relationships. - Physical attraction tends to appear instantly, while emotional connection develops slowly through shared vulnerability, making awareness of which one you experience crucial. Wedeepen circle.wedeepen.com Practice Better Relationship Skills WeDeepen helps you explore dating, communication, and intimacy through live sessions, practical exercises, and community support. Join WeDeepen Club ### Table of Contents - What is romantic chemistry? Signs, feelings, and early-stage dynamics - What is compatibility? Domains, behaviors, and why it supports lasting partnership - How chemistry and compatibility differ: four real-world scenarios and consequences - What the evidence shows: key studies and practical interpretation - How to decide: checklist, conversation prompts, and the 3-6-9 heuristic - Impact of personality types and attachment styles on chemistry and compatibility - Differences in physical attraction versus emotional connection in chemistry - How to cultivate or improve chemistry and compatibility over time - Cultural and social influences on perceptions of chemistry and compatibility - What one member learned about testing compatibility out loud - How WeDeepen helps you practice the framework, not just read about it - Sources - FAQ ### What is romantic chemistry? Signs, feelings, and early-stage dynamics Chemistry is that visceral, body-first pull toward someone. It shows up as physiological arousal, a rush of novelty, and the kind of anticipation that makes you check your phone every five minutes. It is real, but it is not the same thing as knowing someone. You will recognize chemistry by these signs: - Conversations that seem to bend time, where two hours feel like twenty minutes - Intrusive, pleasant thoughts about the person that pop up during your workday - A pull toward physical closeness that feels almost automatic - A sense of “aliveness” or heightened attention when they walk into the room Chemistry tends to appear early and fast, sometimes within the first conversation. It can also be lopsided: one person feels the spark intensely while the other feels warmth but not fireworks, and that asymmetry alone does not predict how the relationship will unfold. It is worth separating chemistry from lust (which is purely physical), infatuation (which idealizes the other person), and emotional intimacy (which takes longer to build and rests on actually knowing someone). Pro Tip: Notice whether the excitement holds up in ordinary moments, like waiting in line together, not just in charged ones. ### What is compatibility? Domains, behaviors, and why it supports lasting partnership Compatibility is the quieter, steadier match: alignment in values, life goals, daily habits, and how you each handle conflict. Where chemistry asks “do I want this,” compatibility asks “can we build something together.” A 2026 Frontiers in Psychology study found that compatibility functions as its own distinct factor in mate preference, one that people weigh far more heavily once they are thinking long-term rather than casual. Compatibility shows up across several domains at once: - Shared or at least respected core values, from how you spend money to how you want to spend a Sunday - Aligned or negotiable life goals, including whether and how you each picture parenting - Compatible communication and conflict styles, meaning you can disagree without a relationship-ending fight - Overlapping or complementary sexual needs and expectations - Enough shared leisure interests to actually enjoy a life together, not just survive it You will notice compatibility in behavior more than in feeling: problems get solved instead of repeated, respect stays intact during disagreement, and priorities point in the same general direction. That coordination is what reduces the low-grade friction that wears couples down over years, not months. ### How chemistry and compatibility differ: four real-world scenarios and consequences Most relationships fall into one of four combinations, and each one plays out differently over time. - High chemistry, high compatibility. The spark is there, and so is the alignment on values and goals. This pairing tends to produce both early excitement and staying power, though it still requires ongoing communication work. - High chemistry, low compatibility. The connection feels electric, but the daily friction, over money, family, or basic values, keeps resurfacing. Chemistry can mask the mismatch for a while, sometimes for years, until the underlying incompatibility becomes impossible to ignore. - Low chemistry, high compatibility. You get along beautifully on paper: same goals, same communication style, mutual respect. Without the spark, though, the relationship can feel flat or more like a good friendship than a romance. - Low chemistry, low compatibility. Neither the pull nor the alignment is there, and this pairing rarely sustains itself past the early stages. If you recognize your relationship in quadrant two, the next move is a direct conversation about the specific friction point, not more romantic gestures. If you are in quadrant three, ask whether the lack of spark is circumstantial (stress, timing, unfamiliarity) or a signal worth naming out loud to your partner. ### What the evidence shows: key studies and practical interpretation The clearest long-term data comes from a 10-year longitudinal study that followed 368 couples annually and found that those with high, stable satisfaction over the decade reported better mental health, more positive affect, and greater life satisfaction. Stability, not intensity, was the variable tied to those outcomes. Compatibility gets prioritized when people think long-term: in a 2026 Frontiers study, participants showed a strong shift in preference toward compatibility over physical attraction specifically in long-term relationship scenarios. Trust and communication reinforce each other, too. Longitudinal research published in APA PsycNet tracked 2,168 couples over seven years and found trust predicted the quality of sexual communication early in the relationship, while later on, communication predicted trust. This is compatibility working in both directions at once. Chemistry can cloud judgment, making people prioritize short-term attraction over long-term alignment. That interpretation, drawn from a Forbes piece by psychologist Dr. Mark Travers , is worth sitting with. Individual differences and attachment style still shape how strongly someone feels the pull of chemistry versus the reassurance of compatibility, so no single finding applies evenly to everyone. ### How to decide: checklist, conversation prompts, and the 3-6-9 heuristic You do not need to overanalyze every date, but a few structured checkpoints can save you years. Here is a practical sequence. - Run the checklist early and often: values, life goals, conflict style, finances, sexual compatibility, parenting intentions, and daily routines. - Test the 3-month mark: this is your reality check, once novelty fades a little, does the connection still feel steady, or was it mostly infatuation? - Test the 6-month mark: by now you should have had at least one real disagreement. How you each handle it tells you more than any conversation about “the future.” - Test the 9-month mark: this is where structural viability shows itself, meaning whether your actual life plans, finances, family expectations, and daily habits can coexist. - Ask direct questions rather than guessing: how do you want to handle money if one of us earns more, what does support look like on your worst day, how involved do you want extended family to be. Pro Tip: Watch behavior during a stressful week rather than a romantic one. Stress reveals conflict style faster than any date-night conversation. Some things chemistry cannot fix, no matter how strong the pull feels: repeated boundary violations, fundamentally mismatched life plans, or a values conflict that keeps resurfacing in different disguises. If you are seeing those, the spark is not the missing ingredient. ### Impact of personality types and attachment styles on chemistry and compatibility Your attachment style colors both halves of this equation. Someone with an anxious attachment style may interpret the intensity of chemistry as proof of a soulmate connection, when it is often just heightened nervous system activity in response to uncertainty. That amplification can make early chemistry feel more meaningful than it turns out to be. Avoidant attachment tends to work the opposite way: strong chemistry can trigger a pullback, since closeness itself feels threatening, which can make a genuinely compatible match feel less exciting than it is. Secure attachment tends to let both chemistry and compatibility register more accurately, without one distorting the reading of the other. Personality also plays a role beyond attachment. Two people with very different social needs, one who recharges alone and one who recharges with people, can have real chemistry and still need to build compatibility deliberately around how they each spend their time. None of this is fixed. Attachment patterns shift with awareness and practice, which is exactly why they belong in a conversation about skills rather than fate. ### Differences in physical attraction versus emotional connection in chemistry Physical attraction and emotional connection often get bundled together under the word “chemistry,” but they are separate systems that do not always move at the same speed. Physical attraction tends to register almost instantly: it is a visual and sensory response, largely automatic. Emotional connection builds slower, through repeated exposure, shared vulnerability, and the accumulation of small moments where someone shows up the way they said they would. You can have strong physical attraction with almost no emotional connection, which is fine for some relationship goals and a problem for others. You can also build emotional connection with someone you were not initially drawn to physically, and find that the attraction grows once the emotional intimacy is there. Neither order is wrong, but knowing which one you are actually feeling helps you name what stage the relationship is really in, rather than assuming the presence of one guarantees the other. ### How to cultivate or improve chemistry and compatibility over time Chemistry is not entirely fixed at first meeting. Novelty, shared vulnerability, and even simple proximity can rebuild some of that spark later in a relationship, which is why couples who deliberately create new shared experiences often report renewed attraction. Trying something unfamiliar together, having an honest conversation you have been avoiding, or simply giving each other undivided attention for an evening can reintroduce some of the charge that familiarity tends to flatten. Compatibility is even more buildable, because it is largely a set of skills rather than a fixed trait. Communication style, conflict repair, and even values alignment shift as two people practice talking honestly about money, family, and expectations instead of avoiding the topics. Trust deepens the same way: through repeated small moments of follow-through, which is exactly the mechanism the trust and communication research points to. Neither chemistry nor compatibility is static. Both respond to attention, and both erode with neglect. ### Cultural and social influences on perceptions of chemistry and compatibility What counts as “good chemistry” or “real compatibility” is not universal. Cultures that emphasize collective decision-making, where family input carries real weight in partner selection, tend to weigh compatibility factors like family approval and shared community values more heavily than individual spark. Cultures that emphasize romantic individualism, where the couple is expected to choose each other independent of outside input, tend to elevate chemistry and personal attraction as the starting requirement. Social media adds another layer, since dating apps often optimize for the fast, visual signal of attraction rather than the slower signals of compatibility, which can train people to overweight chemistry simply because it is what the format rewards. None of this makes one culture’s approach objectively correct. It does mean your own instincts about what “should” matter more were shaped by something, and it is worth asking whether those instincts match what you actually want from this specific relationship. ### What one member learned about testing compatibility out loud She is 34, sitting across from someone she has been seeing for two months, and the conversation has drifted toward money without either of them planning it. She asks the question she picked up from a Love Mastermind session with Christina Weber: “What does support look like for you on your worst financial day?” It is a small, almost clumsy question. His answer surprises her, not because it is wrong, but because it is honest in a way the chemistry alone never told her. That is the whole practice. Come play with us and find out what your own honest questions reveal. ### From the podcast: you can change your chemistry Ken Page, the psychotherapist behind Deeper Dating, pushed back on the idea that chemistry is pure luck on episode 46 of Christina Weber's podcast : When you make the deeper shifts, you change your luck, you change your chemistry, you change your behaviors. It's not a numbers game, and it's not a search for a needle in a haystack. In his six-month intensives, he says, people again and again report "I'm meeting people I never would have met before," because they've shifted how they search. His test for compatibility, from episode 106 , is one question: "Does my soul feel safe with this person?" ### How WeDeepen helps you practice the framework, not just read about it Reading about compatibility is one thing. Practicing it out loud, with feedback, is another. This platform is built around that difference: weekly live sessions, group masterminds, and integration sessions where participants bring the exact kind of conversation described above and work through it with guidance instead of guesswork. Membership includes: - Weekly live sessions where participants can bring real compatibility questions and receive feedback in real time - Group masterminds focused on communication, trust, and conflict repair, the same domains the research ties to lasting satisfaction - Integration sessions that turn checklist items, like the money conversation above, into actual skills useful in future relationships If you want structured practice rather than another article to think about, explore WeDeepen membership and see what a session feels like. ### Sources - Moving beyond attraction, compassion, and competence: evidence for compatibility as a distinct component of mate preferences — Frontiers in Psychology - Positive outcomes of long-term relationship satisfaction trajectories in stable romantic couples: A 10-year longitudinal study — PMC - Can I trust you? Bidirectional, longitudinal associations between trust and various topics of couple communication — APA PsycNet - A Psychologist Explains Love’s ‘Chemistry-Or-Compatibility’ Problem — Forbes ### FAQ #### Can you have chemistry but not be compatible? Yes, this is one of the four common pairings, where strong attraction coexists with mismatched values, goals, or conflict styles. Chemistry can mask the mismatch for a while, but the underlying friction tends to resurface once the novelty fades. #### What is the 3-6-9 rule for dating? It is a practitioner heuristic for pacing your evaluation of a new relationship: around 3 months you check whether the connection survives the fading of novelty, around 6 months you see how you both handle a real disagreement, and around 9 months you assess whether your actual life plans fit together. It is a guide for noticing patterns, not a strict deadline. #### How do you tell if you are compatible with someone? Look at behavior across specific domains, including values, finances, conflict style, and daily habits, rather than relying on how good the connection feels in the moment. A 24-factor model of romantic compatibility found that compatibility is domain-specific, so checking one area, like values, does not confirm the others. #### What is the strongest form of intimacy? Emotional intimacy, built through trust and honest communication over time, tends to be the form most closely tied to long-term satisfaction in the research. Longitudinal trust research found trust and communication reinforce each other over years, which suggests emotional intimacy is less a single feeling and more an ongoing, buildable skill. ### Recommended - DWC 093: Cosmic Love Languages: Navigating Zodiac Compatibility with Rebecca Gordon - DWC 085: Jewish Matchmaking with Harmonie Krieger - DWC: 043 Navigating the Dating World with Matthew Burgess - DWC: 013 Transform Your Love Life with Tantra Speed Date with Guy Shahar ## 8 Therapist Approved Trust Exercises for Couples Backed by Research URL: https://wedeepen.com/blog/trust-building-exercises-couples/ Published: 2026-09-26 The fastest, most reliable path to rebuilding trust is not a single grand gesture. It is short, consistent proof of work paired with real vulnerability exchanges and, when a betrayal is recent, a therapist guided repair process. Start this week with a fifteen-minute check in, one honest vulnerability exchange, and a small visible promise you actually keep. The exercises below walk you through exactly how. TL;DR: - Consistent small behaviors like daily promises and regular sharing of appreciation help rebuild trust gradually over time. - Initiating therapy-guided repair, especially after betrayal, ensures emotional safety and reduces risks of coercion or escalation. - Progress is measurable through promises kept, faster de-escalation, and unsolicited disclosures, rather than vague feelings. - Pacing and consent are critical; start with low-stakes exercises and include signals like a “pause” word to maintain safety. - Ongoing feedback through live sessions and professional guidance enhances effectiveness and helps address patterns that stall progress. Wedeepen Build Trust Through Guided Practice WeDeepen helps couples strengthen communication and intimacy through expert-led sessions, practical exercises, and supportive community feedback. - ✓ Weekly live sessions - ✓ Practical relationship exercises - ✓ Love Masterminds - ✓ Integration sessions Join WeDeepen Club ### Table of Contents - Therapist-approved trust building exercises for couples - How to do trust exercises safely, with consent and pacing - Choosing the right exercise and knowing when it’s working - Why these exercises work, according to the research - What steady practice actually looks like - How WeDeepen supports couples building trust together - Sources - FAQ ### Therapist-approved trust building exercises for couples Trust rebuilds in layers, not leaps. Each exercise below targets a different layer, from daily logistics to the tender work of repair after betrayal. Try them in order if you are starting fresh, or pick the ones that match where you already are. - Weekly check-in (15 to 30 minutes). Sit facing each other, phones away, and each take five minutes uninterrupted to answer: what felt good this week, what felt hard, and what you need more of. The listening partner reflects back before responding. - Vulnerability exchange (10 minutes, timed). Set a timer. One partner shares something they rarely say out loud (a fear, a regret, a hope) while the other only listens and reflects. Swap roles the next night. - Small proof behaviors (daily). Pick one tiny promise you can keep every day this week, like texting when you land or calling at a set time, and track it on a shared note or calendar. - Repair script practice. After a recent betrayal, the offending partner practices a structured apology: name the harm specifically, take accountability without excuses, and offer a concrete restitution behavior. - Body-based grounding and safe touch. Sit knee to knee, ask verbal consent before any touch, and hold hands or foreheads together for two minutes while breathing slowly. - Gratitude and exposure swap. Each partner writes one thing they appreciated about the other that day in a shared journal, read aloud once a week. - Shared planning transparency. Once a week, open your calendars together and talk through the next seven days out loud, including anything that might feel uncertain. - Enactment experiment. Inspired by emotionally focused therapy, one partner voices a soft, honest need (“I need to know I matter to you”) while the other responds in the moment, guided by a therapist or a written script if you’re practicing alone. Frequency and duration depend on where you are. Couples doing general maintenance might run the weekly check in and gratitude swap every week indefinitely. Couples repairing after betrayal often start with just the small proof behaviors and shared planning for two to four weeks before attempting vulnerability exchanges or enactment experiments, since those require more emotional safety to do well. A few notes worth carrying into every exercise: - Never do a vulnerability exercise as a way to extract a confession or win an argument. - Keep sessions time boxed. Open ended emotional conversations tend to spiral. - If one partner shuts down or escalates, pause and return later rather than pushing through. Pro Tip: Write your small proof commitments where you’ll both see them, a shared note app or a sticky note on the fridge works fine, because visible follow through does more for trust than a private effort ever will. ### How to do trust exercises safely, with consent and pacing None of these exercises work if either partner feels cornered into them. Before you start anything emotionally loaded, talk through consent the same way you would before any vulnerable activity: what are we doing, how long will it last, and what’s our signal to stop. Pacing matters especially after a rupture. Jumping straight into a vulnerability exchange the week after discovering a betrayal often backfires, because the hurt partner isn’t regulated enough to receive it safely. Longitudinal research on threat-mitigation habits suggests starting with low-risk, consistent micro-commitments before progressing to higher-stakes emotional exchanges, since habit-forming small proof predicts whether partners will keep mitigating threats reliably over time. Some situations call for a therapist rather than a home exercise. Watch for: - Coercion, meaning one partner pressures the other into disclosures or touch they haven’t agreed to. - Repeated deception, where promises to be honest keep breaking despite good intentions. - Any pattern involving violence or threats, which needs professional intervention immediately, not a couples exercise. Copy this checklist before your next session: - Did we agree on what we’re doing and for how long? - Does either of us have a way to pause without it becoming a fight? - Is this the right week for this exercise, or do we need lower stakes right now? - Do we need outside support before going further? Pro Tip: Agree on a single word, like “pause,” that either partner can say at any point without needing to explain why. Having the exit ready makes it safer to go in. ### Choosing the right exercise and knowing when it’s working Not every exercise fits every couple or every moment. Before picking one, ask yourselves a few honest questions. - What stage of healing are we in, fresh rupture, active repair, or general maintenance? - Can we both stay regulated enough right now to listen without defending? - Are we both actually motivated to do this, or is one of us just going through the motions? - Does either of our attachment styles make certain exercises harder, like an avoidant partner needing more lead time before a vulnerability exchange? A short written agreement helps here: “We’ll try the weekly check in for three weeks and talk about how it’s going afterward.” That kind of small, time-bound commitment keeps either partner from feeling locked into something that isn’t working. Progress shows up in specific ways, not vague feelings: - Kept promises show up on your shared tracking log more often than broken ones. - Arguments de-escalate faster, or happen less often. - One or both of you volunteer a vulnerable disclosure without being asked. When things stall, work through this troubleshooting sequence: - Pause the exercise and name what’s not working out loud. - Reset the boundary or timing rather than abandoning the practice entirely. - Bring in a therapist if the same rupture keeps resurfacing despite consistent effort. A conversation with a professional, such as the one explored in this episode on relationship repair , often uncovers patterns that are hard to see from inside the relationship. ### Why these exercises work, according to the research Trust and communication move together over years, not just weeks. A longitudinal study of 2,168 couples found that early trust predicted the quality of sexual communication down the line, and later sexual communication in turn predicted trust, meaning the relationship between the two runs in both directions rather than trust simply being fixed once and left alone. Structured practice backs this up. Randomized controlled trials of online relationship interventions show that couples who actively improve communication and emotional intimacy during a program tend to maintain those satisfaction gains afterward, which supports the idea that guided, repeated practice does more than insight alone. Small, scripted enactments in couples’ practice can reproduce the same softening events used in emotionally focused therapy, creating a new felt experience of a partner’s responsiveness. That’s the mechanism behind the enactment experiment above: a brief, safe re-creation of a moment where vulnerability meets response, drawn from enactment and softening work in EFT . WeDeepen’s weekly live sessions and integration practices are built around this same idea: repeated, guided proof of work, done alongside others, so the shift doesn’t stay theoretical. ### What steady practice actually looks like She’s 34, married six years, sitting across from her husband at their kitchen table with a timer running. Nothing dramatic happens that night. He just texts her when he lands, every time, for three weeks straight. That’s it. That’s the whole shift. By week four, she stops checking his location app. Love is a trainable skill, and it’s trained in exactly these unremarkable, repeated moments, not in the big apology speech. What are you willing to do this week that’s small enough to actually finish? If you want company while you practice, come play with us. ### How WeDeepen supports couples building trust together Exercises work better with feedback, and feedback is where most couples get stuck practicing alone at the kitchen table. WeDeepen was built around that gap: weekly live sessions where a facilitator watches you practice and tells you what’s actually landing, not just what you think landed. - A membership option offers weekly live sessions and community practice for ongoing skill building. - Another tier provides a deeper, recurring container for couples who want sustained, guided practice over a full year. - A first-time mentorship session pairs you with a guided exercise built for your specific rupture or goal, plus a home practice plan to carry into the following weeks. A first mentorship session typically walks you through one exercise live, with real-time feedback, so you leave with a plan instead of a theory. Book your first session or explore WeDeepen Membership to see which path fits where you are. ### Sources - Mechanisms of change in online relationship interventions (example RCT findings). - A new equilibrium model of relationship maintenance and adaptive advantages to uncertain trust. - Attachment theory and EFT interventions (chapter on enactment and softening events). ### FAQ #### What is the 7-7-7 rule for couples? The 7-7-7 rule is a popular check-in framework where couples set aside time every 7 days, 7 weeks, and 7 months to talk about how the relationship is going. It’s not part of the peer-reviewed research cited above, but it echoes the same principle behind the weekly check in: regular, structured conversation keeps trust and communication moving together. #### What are the 5 C’s of trust? Definitions of the “5 C’s of trust” vary depending on the source, and there isn’t one universally agreed version in couples research. A common version includes consistency, communication, care, competence, and character, though couples therapists sometimes list them differently. #### What is the 3-3-3 rule for intimacy? Like the 7-7-7 rule, the 3-3-3 rule is a popular shorthand rather than a term from the clinical research cited here. It generally suggests checking in on intimacy at three days, three weeks, and three months after a change in the relationship, though specifics vary by source. #### What is the 5-5-5 rule for couples therapy? The 5-5-5 rule isn’t a standardized clinical term, so definitions vary widely depending on where you encounter it. Rather than relying on it, the exercises in this article, especially the weekly check in and repair script practice, offer a more evidence-linked structure for the same goal. #### How long does it take to rebuild trust after a betrayal? There’s no fixed timeline, since it depends heavily on the severity of the betrayal and how consistently both partners engage with repair work. Many couples start with small proof behaviors for a few weeks before attempting deeper vulnerability exercises, and ongoing professional support often shortens the process. ### Recommended - Conscious Coupling: The Four Pillars - How to Repair Your Relationship with Derek Hart - Breaking the Cycle: Understanding and Overcoming Relationship Patterns with Maya Diamond - How to Stay Married with Sierra Sullivan & Rono Smith ## Two Short Exercises to Build Emotional Safety in Relationships URL: https://wedeepen.com/blog/emotional-safety-in-relationships/ Published: 2026-09-26 Emotional safety in relationships means feeling understood, cared for, and free to show up as yourself without fear of ridicule or punishment. It grows from what researchers call perceived partner responsiveness, the sense that your partner truly sees and supports you, which is the mechanism that makes vulnerability and real intimacy possible. The behaviors below reliably build it, and you can start practicing two of them this week. TL;DR: - Emotional safety relies on perceived partner responsiveness, which predicts long-term health benefits and reduces stress reactivity over years. - Small, consistent behaviors like reflective listening, specific validation, and collaborative pauses build trust and prevent feelings of self-censorship. - Engaging in micro-repairs, such as owning mistakes and checking in afterward, helps maintain safety and mend ruptures over time. - Authentic emotional safety involves honest disagreement, feeling free to be oneself, and receiving affectionate touch without fear or restraint. - Practicing responsiveness through guided sessions and real-time feedback accelerates skill development beyond just theoretical understanding. Wedeepen wedeepen.com Practice Emotional Safety Together Build stronger communication and intimacy through weekly live sessions, practical exercises, and support from a relationship-focused community. Explore WeDeepen ### Table of Contents - What emotional safety actually means - Why emotional safety shapes intimacy, trust, and health - What emotional safety looks like day to day - The research behind these recommendations - How to build emotional safety this week - Repairing ruptures and keeping safety over time - When to bring in professional support - How WeDeepen turns these skills into practice - A short note on where safety actually comes from - Practice these skills with guided support - Sources - FAQ ### What emotional safety actually means Emotional safety is not the absence of conflict. It is the felt sense, in your body as much as your mind, that you can share your real thoughts, needs, and fears without triggering rejection or contempt. Couples with strong emotional safety still disagree, sometimes loudly. What makes the difference is what happens after. Part of this is neurobiological. Polyvagal Theory describes a process called neuroception, your nervous system’s constant, below-conscious scanning for cues of safety or threat. When your body reads a partner’s tone, face, and body language as safe, it opens the door to warmth and curiosity. When it reads danger, even from something as small as a sigh, it triggers defensiveness or shutdown before you have consciously decided anything. A common myth is that safety equals a calm, low-friction relationship. In reality, some of the safest couples have the most candid arguments, because both people trust that honesty will not cost them the relationship. ### Why emotional safety shapes intimacy, trust, and health Perceived partner responsiveness, often shortened to PPR, is one of the most studied predictors of relationship and personal well-being. In a 20-year longitudinal study of 1,208 adults , higher PPR predicted a smaller emotional swing in response to daily stress and was tied to longer-term health outcomes, including longevity, over time. A decade-long study of more than 2,000 married and cohabiting adults found that increases in perceived partner responsiveness predicted increases in eudaimonic well-being, a sense of meaning and growth, and that shifts in responsiveness were linked to changes in emotional reactivity connected to mortality outcomes a decade later. Feeling responded to, in other words, is not a soft nicety. It appears to shape how your body handles stress over years, not just how a single conversation feels. Responsiveness also acts as a buffer. When a partner meets your distress with attention instead of dismissal, your nervous system settles faster, which frees up the emotional bandwidth needed for empathy, playfulness, and physical closeness. ### What emotional safety looks like day to day Safety shows up in small, repeatable moments rather than grand gestures. - You disagree without dread : candid conflict happens, but neither person expects punishment for speaking honestly. - You feel like yourself : you do not edit your opinions, humor, or needs to avoid a reaction. - Touch feels welcome : affectionate contact happens easily rather than only during repair. - Self-censorship creeps in when it’s missing : you rehearse sentences before saying them or drop topics rather than raise them. - Walking on eggshells is a warning sign : bracing for a partner’s mood before you even speak signals safety has eroded. Picture the same disclosure, “I felt hurt when you canceled our plans,” handled two ways. In one, the partner gets curious: “Tell me more about that.” In the other, the partner gets defensive: “You’re overreacting.” Same sentence, opposite outcomes, because one response invites more honesty and the other teaches the speaker to stop offering it. ### The research behind these recommendations The recommendations in this guide rest on a small set of well-documented findings rather than general relationship advice. A study of 91 newlywed couples followed for one year found that positive conflict behaviors, like genuinely trying to understand a partner’s viewpoint, increased intimate safety over time, while criticizing and blaming eroded it. Separate prospective research using daily behavioral data found that perceived partner responsiveness predicts affectionate touch, and that touch in turn predicts how responsive a partner feels the next day, a feedback loop that makes touch a practical, low-effort lever. Study focus Sample and design Key finding PPR and long-term health 1,208 adults, 20-year longitudinal Higher PPR predicted lower affective reactivity to stress and linked indirectly to longevity PPR and well-being 2,000+ married or cohabiting adults, decade-long PPR increases predicted eudaimonic well-being gains and later mortality-linked reactivity changes Conflict behavior and intimacy 91 newlywed couples, 1-year follow-up Understanding-based conflict raised intimate safety; criticism and blame lowered it Touch and responsiveness Prospective and daily-data studies PPR forecasts affectionate touch; touch forecasts next-day responsiveness Taken together, these findings point to a practical loop: respond well, touch follows, and safety compounds. ### How to build emotional safety this week Building safety is less about grand declarations and more about consistent, small behaviors that your partner’s nervous system learns to trust. - Reflect before reacting : repeat back what you heard before adding your own view, so your partner knows you registered it. - Accept the feeling, even if you dispute the facts : “That makes sense you’d feel that way” costs nothing and defuses a lot. - Validate specifically : name the exact feeling or need you noticed, rather than a generic “I hear you.” - Explore with curiosity : ask one more question before offering a solution or defense. - Practice a collaborative pause : when either of you feels flooded, agree on a signal to pause for five minutes and return, rather than pushing through. - Use a somatic check-in phrase : something as simple as “My chest is tight right now, can we slow down” names the body’s state instead of hiding it. - Make daily deposits : a good-morning text, a remembered detail, a hand on the shoulder, these small acts build the reserve that carries you through harder conversations. Try this 10-minute responsiveness practice : one partner shares something they are proud of or worried about for three minutes, uninterrupted, while the other only reflects and validates, no advice. Switch roles. Notice what shifts in your body. Try this 5-minute repair script : “I noticed I got defensive. I’m sorry. What did you need from me in that moment? Here’s what I’ll try next time.” Say it out loud, even if it feels stiff at first. Pro Tip: Ask for practice time when you’re both calm, not mid-argument: “Can we try something for ten minutes this week to get better at this?” lands far softer than raising it in the heat of a disagreement. ### Repairing ruptures and keeping safety over time Practitioners often describe emotional safety as a running balance of deposits and withdrawals rather than a fixed state, built through ongoing micro-repairs instead of the absence of friction. Every interaction adds to or subtracts from that balance, and the goal is enough small deposits to absorb the inevitable withdrawals. A simple repair sequence covers most ruptures: - Notice : name what just happened without minimizing it. - Own : take responsibility for your part, specifically. - Apologize : a direct “I’m sorry” beats an explanation that sounds like an excuse. - Ask : find out what your partner actually needed in that moment. - Follow up : check back later to see if the repair held. Rebuilding trust after repeated withdrawals takes longer than a single good conversation. It requires a string of small, kept promises rather than one dramatic gesture. When couples find themselves stuck in the same rupture without progress, that is usually the signal to move from self-guided repair to structured support. ### When to bring in professional support Some patterns call for more than self-directed practice. If there is coercion, intimidation, or an inability to de-escalate safely, professional help is not optional, it is necessary, and a qualified therapist or local support service should be the first call. Short of that, approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy, PACT, and trauma-informed couples counseling focus specifically on rebuilding felt safety rather than just resolving individual disputes. A first session typically maps the recurring cycle between partners before any deeper work begins. ### From the podcast: does my soul feel safe? Two WeDeepen faculty members put emotional safety into words on Christina Weber's podcast. Ken Page, author of Deeper Dating, on episode 106 : Does my soul feel safe with this person? Frame your entire search for love around that question and watch what changes. And somatic therapist Kimi Inch, on episode 108 , on why safety lives in the body: If we are struggling to keep a regulated nervous system, it's really hard for us to step into our pleasure and to be in deep connection and intimacy with another. Her advice is to build safety in small steps, in settings where you can be vulnerable and find you aren't judged or rejected for it. ### How WeDeepen turns these skills into practice WeDeepen builds emotional-safety skills through expert-led sessions, structured exercises, and real-time feedback rather than one-off advice. Its Deepen with Christina series includes episodes that model these exact dynamics, from an emotional healing session using EFT techniques to a conversation on practical repair sequences . Members practice these skills together and get feedback in the moment, which is where reading about responsiveness turns into actually feeling it. ### A short note on where safety actually comes from Emotional safety is not built in one big conversation. It is built in the small, repeated deposits, a reflected feeling, an owned mistake, a returned check-in, and in the repairs that follow the moments you get it wrong. Try the two exercises above this week and pay attention to what shifts, even slightly. ### Practice these skills with guided support Reading about responsiveness and repair is one thing. Practicing them with feedback, in real time, with people who notice what you cannot see in yourself, is another. A membership platform offers weekly live sessions and structured exercises built around exactly this kind of skill practice, not just information. - Join a live session to practice reflective listening and responsiveness with real-time feedback. - Book a private mentorship session if you need focused, personalized repair work (check provider site for details). - Use a community group to keep practicing between sessions with people working on the same skills. Explore WeDeepen membership or the Love Club to start building these habits with support instead of guesswork. ### Sources Primary studies on responsiveness and repair, plus practitioner writing on Polyvagal Theory and micro-repairs, informed this guide. This article is general information, not a substitute for advice from a qualified doctor. Consult a qualified healthcare professional about your own circumstances before acting on anything here. - Perceived partner responsiveness and affectionate touch: prospective and daily-data findings ### FAQ #### What does emotional safety in a relationship look like? It looks like being able to disagree honestly without fearing punishment, feeling like yourself around your partner, and easy affectionate touch. It also shows up in small moments, like a partner reflecting your feelings back before offering advice. #### How can I become more emotionally secure in a relationship? Security grows through consistent small deposits: reflective listening, specific validation, and honoring your partner’s need for a pause when they feel flooded. Practicing a short daily check-in and a clear repair sequence after conflict both build this over time. #### What ruins emotional safety in a relationship? Criticism, blame, and defensiveness during conflict erode intimate safety, according to a year-long study of newlywed couples. Chronic self-censorship and walking on eggshells are signs the damage has already taken hold. #### What is an example of emotional safety? One example is sharing that you felt hurt by something your partner did and having them respond with curiosity instead of defensiveness. Another is a partner noticing you seem off, asking what is going on, and actually listening to the answer without rushing to fix it. #### How can specialized coaching platforms help with emotional safety practice? WeDeepen offers live, expert-led sessions and structured exercises where members practice responsiveness and repair skills with real feedback rather than just reading advice. Membership options and session details are available on the WeDeepen site. ### Recommended - DWC: 029 How to Repair Your Relationship with Derek Hart - Biohacking Love | Two-Day Intensive · Austin · Aug 22–23 with Christina Weber - DWC: 045 Breaking Free: Transforming Your Relationships through Self-Expression with Yarixa Ferrao - DWC 058: Breaking the Cycle: Understanding and Overcoming Relationship Patterns with Maya Diamond ## End Repeat Fights: 5 Step Conflict Resolution for Couples URL: https://wedeepen.com/blog/conflict-resolution-for-couples/ Published: 2026-09-25 The fastest way to stop a fight and reach a workable agreement is to shift into a slower, regulated conversation: a softened start-up, an I-statement, reflective listening, and a negotiated 20-minute time-out the moment either of you feels flooded. This approach is grounded in decades of relationship research, and it is the same foundation WeDeepen uses to help couples practice these skills together. TL;DR: - A quick, regulated conversation with softened starts and clear boundaries can de-escalate fights before they worsen significantly. - Focusing on one issue, reflecting on your partner’s words, and making quick repair attempts are key to preventing conflicts from spiraling. - Couples should use a step-by-step process to identify issues, listen fully, brainstorm solutions, and follow up to turn agreements into lasting habits. - Persistent, deep-rooted disagreements, such as attachment injuries or fundamental values, require understanding and managing rather than resolution. - Professional therapy and third-party mediation significantly improve relationship satisfaction when conflicts remain unresolved or recurrent. Wedeepen Build Stronger Conflict Skills Together WeDeepen helps couples practise communication and intimacy skills through expert-led community sessions, live practice, and practical exercises. Explore WeDeepen ### Table of Contents - A prioritized toolkit for conflict resolution exercises - A step-by-step process for resolving one conflict - Solvable problems versus perpetual gridlock - What the research says and when to get outside help - Exercises that build lasting conflict skills - Making these habits stick over time - How WeDeepen supports couples building these skills - Why these skills take longer than couples expect - Practice these skills with guided support from WeDeepen - Sources - FAQ ### A prioritized toolkit for conflict resolution exercises You do not need a dozen new habits to change how you fight. You need a handful of moves you can reach for even when your heart is pounding and your thoughts are racing. Below is a short, practical toolkit, ordered by how often you will actually need each one. - Start softly. Open with how you feel and what you need instead of an accusation. Try: “When the dishes sat in the sink again, I felt unseen. I need us to split kitchen cleanup more evenly.” - Use one I-statement per turn. Speak only for yourself: “I felt dismissed” lands very differently than “You always ignore me.” - Reflect before you respond. Say back what you heard before adding your own point: “What I hear you saying is that you felt criticized in front of your family. Is that right?” - Stick to one issue. Do not let a conversation about a missed phone call turn into a review of the last five years. - Call a time-out before you say something you cannot take back. Agree in advance on a signal, a cool-down of at least 20 minutes, and a set time to return to the conversation. - Repair quickly, even imperfectly. A short, sincere line interrupts escalation better than a perfect apology delivered an hour later. Fair-fighting rules keep the structure honest: no name-calling, no bringing up unrelated grievances, no walking away without a return time, and no contempt (eye-rolling, mockery, sarcasm aimed at character rather than behavior). These ground rules echo practical guidance from resources like Love Is Respect , which lays out accessible scripts for keeping disagreements safe. Repair attempts to deserve their own attention because they often decide whether an argument spirals or settles. A repair attempt is any small gesture that says “let’s not let this get worse,” and couples who make and accept these attempts consistently de-escalate faster and hold onto more warmth over time, according to Gottman’s research on solving relationship problems . A few templates worth memorizing: - “Can we start over?” - “I did not say that well. Let me try again.” - “I’m on your side, even when this is hard.” - “Give me a minute, I want to hear you, but I need to breathe first.” Pro Tip: Practice one script out loud during a calm moment this week, so it feels natural to reach for when things heat up. ### A step-by-step process for resolving one conflict Most arguments do not fail because the issue is unsolvable. They fail because couples skip steps or run them out of order. Here is a sequence that works for almost any single conflict, from chores to finances to in-laws. - Identify the real issue. Name the specific behavior or moment, not a pattern or a personality trait. “You canceled our date night twice this month” beats “you never prioritize us.” - Listen fully before responding. Each partner gets uninterrupted time to explain their view while the other reflects it back. - Brainstorm without judging. List every possible solution, even the unlikely ones, before evaluating any of them. - Agree on one specific plan. Pick a solution and define exactly who does what, by when, and how you will know it worked. - Follow up. Set a short check-in, a few days or a week later, to see if the agreement is holding. Say the recurring fight is about screen time in the evenings. You identify the issue as “phones out during dinner.” You each explain what dinner time means to you and reflect it back. You brainstorm options: phones in another room, a shared basket, a 20-minute phone-free rule after the meal. You agree on the basket, starting that night, reviewed in one week. Then you actually check in on day seven and adjust if it is not working. That last step is the one most couples skip, and it is often the one that determines whether an agreement becomes a habit or fades within a few weeks. ### Solvable problems versus perpetual gridlock Not every disagreement is meant to be resolved. Some conflicts have a clear fix. Others are ongoing tensions rooted in personality, values, or lifestyle preferences that will likely show up again and again, in different forms, for years. Confusing the two wastes energy and breeds resentment. A solvable problem is situational: it has a specific trigger and a workable compromise. A perpetual problem is about a deeper difference, like one partner’s need for order against the other’s need for spontaneity, and it rarely gets solved so much as managed. When couples get stuck trying to “win” a perpetual issue, they hit gridlock: the same fight on repeat, with no progress and rising frustration. Different conflicts call for different approaches: - Current, situational conflicts respond well to the step-by-step process above: identify, listen, brainstorm, agree, follow up. - Attachment injuries (a betrayal or a moment one partner still feels wounded by) need acknowledgment and repair before problem-solving even starts. Trying to negotiate logistics before the hurt is heard usually backfires. - Gridlocked, perpetual issues need dialogue, not resolution. The goal shifts from winning to understanding: what does this preference protect for your partner, and where can you build a workaround rather than a verdict? For perpetual issues, useful tools include agreeing on ground rules for how the topic gets raised, building small rituals that honor both preferences, and accepting that some friction is simply the cost of loving someone whose wiring is different from yours. Concepts like the Four Horsemen and accepting influence, both drawn from Gottman’s work on managing versus resolving conflict, are especially useful here because they shift the goal from being right to staying connected. ### What the research says and when to get outside help Couple therapy produces large gains. A 2020 meta-analysis across 58 studies found that couple therapy leads to substantial within-group improvement in relationship satisfaction, with an effect size of Hedges g of about 1.12 , while couples on waitlists showed no such improvement. In plain terms, structured therapeutic support tends to move the needle in ways that waiting it out does not. Third-party facilitation helps too. A randomized controlled study found that mediation by a neutral third party increased the likelihood that couples reached agreement, compared with direct negotiation, and it raised satisfaction with both the process and the outcome. Consider professional support when: - The same fight repeats without any real movement, month after month. - Contempt, stonewalling, or defensiveness shows up more often than warmth. - One or both of you feel too flooded to use these tools even after practice. - Trust has been broken and neither of you knows how to rebuild it alone. Safety comes first, always. APA guidance on couples interventions recommends screening for intimate partner violence before starting joint conflict work, and using separate sessions or gender-specific formats rather than joint exposure when violence is present. If you recognize this in your relationship, a negotiated time-out and safety planning with a qualified professional come before any communication exercise. ### Exercises that build lasting conflict skills Skills built during calm moments are the ones that show up when things get hard. These drills work best practiced weekly, outside of an actual argument. - Timed turn-taking drill (10 minutes): One partner speaks for two minutes on a mild topic. The other reflects it back in one sentence before responding. Swap roles. - Editing out the negative (5 minutes): Before responding in a disagreement, pause and ask whether your next sentence adds understanding or just adds heat. Brief communication training focused on this kind of editing has been shown to change aggressive affect during conflict discussions , making it a useful habit even outside high-conflict situations. - Accepting influence practice: In a low-stakes decision this week, genuinely let your partner’s preference shape the outcome, and notice how it feels to yield without losing yourself. - Weekly check-in (15 to 20 minutes): Share one appreciation, one friction point, and one request for the coming week. Progress markers to watch for: faster repair after a disagreement, fewer unresolved fights carried into the next day, and more moments where one of you catches an escalation before it builds. Pro Tip: Keep the weekly check-in short and scheduled, same day and time, so it becomes a rhythm rather than another thing to negotiate. ### Making these habits stick over time New skills fade fast without a rhythm to hold them. Schedule a short weekly check-in and treat it as fixed, not optional, tracking what worked, what did not, and one thing to try differently. Keep agreements specific, testable, and easy to revisit: “we’ll try the phone basket for one week” beats a vague promise to “communicate better.” Short review windows, five to seven days, let you adjust before frustration builds back up. Lightweight accountability helps too: a shared reminder, a two-minute nightly check-in, or a simple phrase you both recognize as a signal to slow down. Small, repeated rituals do more for lasting change than one big conversation ever will. ### How WeDeepen supports couples building these skills Reading about conflict resolution is one thing. Practicing it, with real-time feedback, is another. Weekly live sessions and Love Masterminds give couples a structured space to rehearse scripts like softened start-ups and reflective listening with guidance from relationship professionals, rather than figuring it out alone in the middle of a hard moment. Integration sessions help translate what you learn into daily life, which mirrors what the research points to: skills training works best with repeated practice and feedback, not a single insight. Members can expect regular live practice, a community that holds them accountable, and expert-led exercises built around the same evidence-informed techniques covered here. ### Why these skills take longer than couples expect Most couples do not fail at conflict resolution because they lack information. They fail because they expect one good conversation to undo years of reactive habits. It takes repetition, and it takes grace for the attempts that go sideways. Pick one exercise from this article and try it this week. Put a check-in on the calendar before the next disagreement, not after it. ### Practice these skills with guided support from WeDeepen Knowing the scripts is one thing. Using them mid-argument, with your heart racing, is another skill entirely, and that is exactly the gap WeDeepen’s community practice is built to close. Instead of reading about softened start-ups, you rehearse them with real feedback in a room full of people doing the same work. A few ways to start: - Join weekly live sessions and Love Masterminds through the WeDeepen Membership . - Go deeper with ongoing group practice through Love Club . - Book a private, one-on-one session on the mentorship scheduling page if you want individualized guidance sooner. If you are ready to practice these tools with support instead of trial and error, explore WeDeepen membership and join a live session this week. ### Sources - Nature article (2020) on mediation vs direct negotiation - Updated meta-analysis of couple therapy (2020) - APA guidance on couples interventions and IPV This article is general information, not a substitute for advice from a qualified doctor. Consult a qualified healthcare professional about your own circumstances before acting on anything here. ### FAQ #### How do you resolve conflict as a couple? Slow the conversation down with a softened start-up, use I-statements instead of blame, and reflect back what your partner says before responding. Call a negotiated time-out if either of you feels flooded, and return to the topic once you are both calm. #### What are the five R’s of conflict resolution? Definitions of the “five R’s” vary across sources, so there is no single agreed-upon list. The most consistently supported components across couples research are recognizing the issue, reflecting what you hear, requesting a specific change, repairing quickly when things go sideways, and reviewing whether the agreement held. #### What are the five steps of conflict resolution? A reliable sequence is to identify the specific issue, listen fully to each other’s perspective, brainstorm options without judgment, agree on one specific plan with clear roles and a timeline, and follow up to see whether it worked. #### What are the five C’s of conflict management? Like the “five R’s,” the “five C’s” framework is not standardized across the research base, so treat any specific list with caution. The consistent, evidence-supported elements are calm communication, clarifying the real issue, compromise, checking in afterward, and, when needed, consulting a professional. #### When should a couple consider therapy for conflict? Consider professional support when the same argument repeats without progress, when contempt or stonewalling shows up often, or when trust has been broken. Research shows couple therapy produces large improvements in relationship satisfaction compared with couples who do not seek help. ### Recommended - DWC 058: Breaking the Cycle: Understanding and Overcoming Relationship Patterns with Maya Diamond - DWC: 029 How to Repair Your Relationship with Derek Hart - DWC: 019 How to Stay Married with Sierra Sullivan & Rono Smith - DWC 062: Loving After Divorce with Dilia Jelen --- # Answers ## Relationship Workshops in Austin: How to Choose One URL: https://wedeepen.com/answers/relationship-workshops-austin/ Published: 2026-10-03 Short answer: Austin's relationship workshops fall into three groups: method-based couples workshops (Gottman's Art and Science of Love and Imago's Getting the Love You Want), therapist-led couples retreats, and experiential programs like WeDeepen's Love Immersion, a three-day in-person retreat open to couples and solo participants. Choose a method-based workshop for a structured protocol with your partner; choose WeDeepen to practice love with several teachers, partnered or not. Search "relationship workshops in Austin" and you get a mix of very different things under one label. Some are clinical programs that teach one research-backed method to couples. Some are therapist-led retreats. Some are experiential weekends where you practice connection with other people in the room. They all count as workshops, but they suit different people. This guide sorts them out so you can pick the one that fits where your love life actually is. ### The main relationship workshops in Austin #### Gottman: The Art and Science of Love The Center for Relationships in Austin runs the Gottman Institute's two-day couples retreat, The Art and Science of Love, led by Dr. Vagdevi Meunier, a Gottman Master Trainer. The format mixes presentations with exercises each couple does privately. It rests on John and Julie Gottman's research into what separates relationships that last from ones that don't: friendship, managing conflict, and building shared meaning. Dates are listed on the Gottman Institute's event page . Best for: committed couples who want a structured, research-based protocol and a shared vocabulary for conflict. #### Imago: Getting the Love You Want Imago Texas offers the Getting the Love You Want couples workshop, roughly 18 to 20 hours over two and a half days, with in-person dates in Austin and other Texas cities. It follows the Imago approach created by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, which centers on a structured dialogue that helps partners hear each other without defending. Best for: couples stuck in the same argument who want one clear technique to practice at home. #### Therapist-led couples retreats Several Austin practices run their own intensives and retreats, for example Krista J Miller's couples workshops and retreats . These usually sit closer to therapy: a licensed clinician, a small number of couples, and a focus on a specific problem. Check the credentials and the method before you book. Best for: couples who want clinical depth in a concentrated format. #### WeDeepen Love Immersion Love Immersion is WeDeepen's three-day, in-person retreat in Austin. It looks different from the clinical options: live "hot seat" coaching where people work on what they actually came with, connection exercises that land in the body rather than the head, and long stretches of unstructured time with the other participants. It isn't built on one method. The faculty are senior teachers from different traditions, chosen by founder Christina Weber. About half of every Love Immersion arrives solo, and participants have ranged from 18 to 87. It costs $2,995 per person, with a payment plan at checkout. Best for: anyone, partnered or not, who wants to study love with several teachers and practice it with real people. #### WeDeepen Membership (online, every week) If a weekend feels like too big a first step, the WeDeepen Membership runs a 90-minute live session every Tuesday at 6:00 PM Central, alternating Love Masterminds with guest experts and Integration Sessions where you practice what you learned. It includes a private community and a weekly Sunday Dare. It's $99 a month, and you can cancel anytime. ### How the options compare Option Format Partner needed? Approach Gottman Art and Science of Love 2-day couples workshop Yes One research-based method Imago Getting the Love You Want About 2.5 days, couples Yes Structured dialogue Therapist-led retreats Varies; small groups or private Usually Clinical WeDeepen Love Immersion 3-day in-person retreat in Austin No; about half come solo Multiple teachers, live coaching, practice WeDeepen Membership Weekly live online sessions plus community No Ongoing practice with rotating experts ### How to choose Start with three questions. - Are you coming as a couple? Gottman and Imago workshops are designed for two partners working together. If you're single, dating, or your partner isn't ready, choose a format that welcomes you on your own. - Do you want one method or many? A single method gives you a clean toolkit. Several teachers give you range, and you keep what works for you. - Do you want to learn about love or practice it? Some workshops mostly teach. Others put you in live exercises with other people. Both have value; know which one you're signing up for. ### Workshop or therapy? A relationship workshop is education. It teaches skills and gives you a place to practice them. It is not a substitute for therapy. If you're dealing with abuse, addiction, or a mental-health crisis, start with a licensed clinician. Many couples do both: therapy for the hard history, a workshop for new skills and fresh air. ### Where WeDeepen fits WeDeepen starts from a simple premise: love is a trainable skill. You don't need a crisis, a breakup, or a partner to get better at it. Every WeDeepen experience runs on the Four Pillars : growth comes first, with no attachment to outcome; you own your own experience; all feelings are welcome; and the relationship is a place to practice love. Read what past participants say , check the events calendar , or join the membership and start this Tuesday. Come play with us. ### FAQ #### Do I need a partner to attend a relationship workshop in Austin? For Gottman and Imago couples workshops, yes. WeDeepen's Love Immersion and Membership welcome individuals, and about half of every Love Immersion arrives solo. #### How long are relationship workshops? Most run two to three days. The Gottman Art and Science of Love is two days, Imago's Getting the Love You Want is about two and a half, and WeDeepen's Love Immersion is three full days in Austin. WeDeepen's Membership meets weekly online. #### Is a relationship workshop the same as couples therapy? No. A workshop teaches skills to a group; therapy treats a specific couple's situation with a licensed clinician. WeDeepen is relationship education and coaching, not therapy. #### What happens at a WeDeepen Love Immersion? Three days of live coaching, connection exercises, teaching from several faculty members, and unstructured time with the group, at a private venue in Austin. You can come alone, with a partner, a friend, or a family member. #### Is there something smaller to try first? Yes. The WeDeepen Membership is $99 a month for a live online session every Tuesday plus a private community, and you can cancel anytime. ### Sources - The Center for Relationships: Gottman Couples Retreats - The Gottman Institute: The Art and Science of Love, Austin - Imago Texas: Getting the Love You Want Workshop - Krista J Miller: Couples Workshops and Retreats ## The Best Ways to Meet People in Austin URL: https://wedeepen.com/answers/best-ways-to-meet-people-austin/ Published: 2026-10-03 Short answer: The best ways to meet people in Austin put you in the same room with the same people more than once: recreational leagues like Austin Sports & Social Club, run clubs, Meetup groups, volunteering, hosted dinners like Timeleft, and connection-focused communities like WeDeepen, which runs weekly sessions and in-person Austin events. Repetition and shared activity matter more than the venue. Austin is full of people who moved here recently, work from home, and still haven't found their people. The city has plenty to do. What's harder to find is the thing that actually builds connection: seeing the same faces again and again, doing something together, and having at least one real conversation. Here are the ways that work, and how to choose between them. ### Why repetition beats one-off events A single mixer rarely turns into a relationship of any kind. Research by University of Kansas professor Jeffrey Hall found it takes roughly 50 hours together to go from acquaintance to casual friend, and more than 200 hours to become close friends. So the best way to meet people isn't the most exciting event in town. It's the one you'll keep going back to. ### The best ways to meet people in Austin #### Recreational sports leagues Austin Sports & Social Club runs coed adult leagues across about ten sports, including volleyball, soccer, kickball, and pickleball, with a happy hour after games. A season gives you a built-in team and a weekly reason to show up. You don't need to be good, just willing. #### Run clubs Austin's run clubs are some of the most social in the country. Austin Runners Club lists weekly training and social runs, and Austin Fit Magazine's run club roundup covers the central-city groups where the post-run hang matters as much as the miles. #### Meetup groups Meetup's Austin social groups cover everything from board games to hiking to groups made for newcomers. Choose a small group that meets often over a large one that meets rarely. #### Volunteering United Way for Greater Austin's Hands On Central Texas program has long connected Austin volunteers with local projects. Volunteering gives you a shared purpose and a natural conversation starter, and recurring shifts put you next to the same people week after week. #### Dinners with strangers Timeleft matches you with a small group for a weekly dinner at a local restaurant, based on a personality questionnaire. Time Out tried it in Austin . It's a low-pressure way to practice talking to new people. #### City classes Austin Parks and Recreation community centers offer adult classes from arts and crafts to pickleball. A class has a built-in schedule and a shared beginner's awkwardness, which helps. #### Connection-focused communities: WeDeepen Most options above build connection as a side effect of an activity. WeDeepen makes connection the point. The Austin-based relationship education company runs a weekly live online session every Tuesday at 6:00 PM Central, a private member community, in-person events in Austin , and the three-day Love Immersion retreat. The conversations go past small talk on purpose: dating, partnership, desire, conflict, and what you actually want. Members are partnered, dating, between relationships, or just curious. About half of every Love Immersion arrives solo. ### How to make it stick - Commit to three visits. The first time is always awkward. By the third, people recognize you. - Pick one recurring thing, then add one. Two regular commitments beat ten one-off events. - Ask a real question. "What brought you to Austin?" opens more than "What do you do?" - Make the second plan yourself. Suggest coffee or the next event. Most people are waiting for someone else to ask. - Notice what you bring. If you hold back to avoid looking eager, you're shrinking. Connection rewards the person who shows up fully. ### Where WeDeepen fits WeDeepen treats connection the way a gym treats strength: love is a trainable skill, and you get better by practicing with other people. Sessions run on the Four Pillars , so all feelings are welcome and you own your own experience. WeDeepen's view is that community is your third place: not home, not work, somewhere you're known. Start with the $99 monthly membership , come to an in-person event, and see who you meet. Come play with us. ### FAQ #### What is the best way to meet people in Austin? Join something that repeats, like a sports league, run club, volunteer shift, or community such as WeDeepen, and keep going back. Seeing the same people over time builds connection faster than one-off events. #### Is Austin a hard city to meet people in? It can feel that way because so many residents are newcomers or work remotely. The upside is that a lot of people are looking, so recurring groups tend to welcome new faces. #### How can I meet people in Austin without drinking? Run clubs, volunteering, city classes, morning sports, and WeDeepen's weekly online sessions all work without a bar. #### Can I join WeDeepen if I'm not looking for a partner? Yes. WeDeepen is for anyone who wants to get better at love and connection, including friendships, family, and the relationship with yourself. #### Is WeDeepen therapy? No. WeDeepen is relationship education and coaching. It is not therapy or a substitute for mental-health treatment. ### Sources - University of Kansas: Study reveals number of hours it takes to make a friend - Austin Sports & Social Club - Austin Runners Club: Run Groups - Meetup: Social groups in Austin - Time Out: Dining with five strangers in Austin - Austin Parks and Recreation: Community Recreation Centers ## How to Make Friends in Austin as an Adult URL: https://wedeepen.com/answers/make-friends-austin-adult/ Published: 2026-10-03 Short answer: To make friends in Austin as an adult, pick one or two recurring activities and keep showing up, then turn familiar faces into specific plans: a league through Austin Sports & Social Club, a run club, a Meetup group, a Timeleft dinner, or Bumble For Friends. Research suggests casual friendship takes about 50 hours together. If you want deeper conversation from the start, WeDeepen's community is built around it. Making friends as an adult in Austin has a specific shape. Many people here are transplants, plenty work remotely, and the friends from school or your last city are a flight away. None of that means something is wrong with you. Adult friendship just doesn't happen by accident the way it did at school, so you have to build the conditions for it on purpose. ### Friendship takes time, so plan for it University of Kansas researcher Jeffrey Hall estimated the hours it takes : about 50 hours together to go from acquaintance to casual friend, about 90 to become friends, and more than 200 to become close friends. You won't get there through one happy hour. You get there by putting yourself somewhere you'll see the same people every week. ### Where adults in Austin make friends #### A recurring team or league Austin Sports & Social Club runs coed adult leagues in about ten sports, with games in neighborhoods across the city and a social hour afterward. You can sign up alone and get placed on a team. #### A run club Austin Runners Club offers weekly training and social runs, and the Austin Insider running guide covers the trails and groups at the heart of the city's running scene. Runs are easy to drop into, and coffee afterward is where friendships start. #### A Meetup group built for newcomers Meetup's Austin social category includes groups made specifically for people new to the city or looking for friends. Smaller groups that meet weekly are where you'll start recognizing people. #### A friendship app Bumble For Friends works like a dating app for platonic connection. It helps you find people; turning a match into a friend still takes repeated plans in person. #### A table of strangers Timeleft books you into a weekly dinner with a small group matched by personality. One dinner won't make a friend, but it's good practice, and some tables keep meeting. #### A community built around deeper conversation If small talk is what wears you out, WeDeepen is built for the conversations most groups avoid. The Austin-based relationship education company runs a live online session every Tuesday at 6:00 PM Central, a private community, in-person events in Austin , and the three-day Love Immersion retreat. People come to get better at love in all its forms: friendship, dating, partnership, and the relationship with themselves. Plenty come on their own. ### From acquaintance to friend - Be the one who invites. Most people want more friends and wait for someone else to make the plan. Make it. - Make specific plans. "Want to get tacos after Thursday's run?" works better than "We should hang out sometime." - Follow up within a week. Momentum matters more than polish. - Go a level deeper. Share something true about your week, not just the highlights. Closeness grows when both people risk a little. - Stop shrinking. If you mute yourself to seem easygoing, people meet a version of you that isn't real. Let them meet the real one. ### Friendship is a skill WeDeepen's premise is that love is a trainable skill, and friendship is one of its purest forms. Listening without fixing, asking for what you want, repairing after a misstep: you can practice all of these. Every WeDeepen session runs on the Four Pillars , including that you own your own experience and that all feelings are welcome. It's a room where you can practice being known, and then take that into the rest of your life. Start with the $99 monthly membership or meet people at an Austin event . Come play with us. ### FAQ #### How do I make friends in Austin as an adult? Join one or two recurring activities, like a league, run club, Meetup group, or community such as WeDeepen, then turn repeat faces into specific plans. Research suggests friendship takes dozens of hours together, so consistency matters most. #### Is it normal to struggle to make friends after moving to Austin? Yes. Many Austin residents moved here as adults or work remotely, so lots of people are in the same position, which makes newcomer groups easier to join. #### What are good friend-making activities in Austin for introverts? Small recurring groups work best: a book club, a volunteer shift, a class, or WeDeepen's online Tuesday session, where you can listen first and speak when you're ready. #### Can I join WeDeepen just to make friends? Yes. You don't need to be dating or partnered. WeDeepen is for anyone who wants deeper connection, including friendship. #### How much does WeDeepen cost? The WeDeepen Membership is $99 a month or $990 a year, and you can cancel anytime. Love Immersion, the three-day retreat in Austin, is $2,995 per person. ### Sources - University of Kansas: Study reveals number of hours it takes to make a friend - Austin Sports & Social Club - Austin Runners Club - Austin Insider: The Ultimate Guide to Running in Austin - Bumble: Bumble For Friends - Meetup: Social groups in Austin ## Alternatives to Dating Apps in Austin URL: https://wedeepen.com/answers/dating-app-alternatives-austin/ Published: 2026-10-03 Short answer: The best alternatives to dating apps in Austin get you meeting people face to face: speed dating events like CitySwoon and Cheeky Date, hosted dinners like Timeleft, social sports leagues, run clubs, Meetup groups, and matchmaking. WeDeepen, an Austin relationship education community, offers another route: practicing honest conversation and connection in weekly sessions and in-person events. Plenty of people in Austin are tired of swiping. Endless chats that go nowhere, matches who look nothing like their photos, first dates that feel like job interviews. The good news is that Austin is one of the easier cities to meet people in person, if you know where to look. Here are the main alternatives to dating apps, what each one does well, and how to choose. ### Why in-person beats the feed Apps are good at one thing: showing you a lot of people fast. They're bad at the information that actually predicts attraction and compatibility: how someone listens, how they laugh, how they treat the server, what it feels like to sit next to them. Meeting in person gives you all of that in the first five minutes. The alternatives below trade volume for that kind of signal. ### Alternatives to dating apps in Austin #### Speed dating events If you like the efficiency of apps but want to meet face to face, speed dating is the closest swap. CitySwoon runs matched speed dating nights at Austin venues, and Cheeky Date hosts age-bracketed events in East Austin, South Austin, and downtown. You meet several people in one evening and match afterward. #### Hosted dinners Timeleft seats you with a small group of strangers at a weekly dinner. It's billed as a way to make friends, not dates, and that lower pressure is part of the appeal. Conversation flows better when no one is auditioning. #### Social sports and run clubs Austin Sports & Social Club leagues and Austin Runners Club group runs give you something to do together every week. Attraction builds slowly here, which is often how the best relationships start. #### Interest groups Meetup's Austin social groups cover hiking, dancing, board games, and more. You meet people who already share at least one thing you care about. #### Matchmaking Matchmakers do the filtering for you. WeDeepen's Love Club , its $9,997-a-year inner circle, includes Collaborative Matchmaking with partner matchmakers, alongside coaching and community. #### Connection-focused community: WeDeepen WeDeepen isn't a dating service. It's an Austin-based relationship education company where people practice the skills that make dating work: honest conversation, reading attraction, asking for what you want, and handling rejection without shrinking. Members meet in a live online session every Tuesday at 6:00 PM Central, in a private community, at in-person events in Austin , and at the three-day Love Immersion retreat. You meet people who are working on themselves, which makes them more interesting to meet. ### How to choose - Want volume? Speed dating gives you the most new people per evening. - Want low pressure? Dinners, leagues, and interest groups let attraction show up on its own schedule. - Want help? Matchmaking filters for you. - Want to get better at dating itself? A community like WeDeepen builds the skills you take to every first date. Pair it with any of the options above. ### Make any first meeting count Whichever route you choose, the first conversation matters. Ask questions you actually want answered, share something real, and notice how you feel around the person, not just whether they check boxes. For prompts that go past small talk, see first date conversation ideas on the WeDeepen blog, and compatibility vs. chemistry for telling a spark from a fit. ### Where WeDeepen fits WeDeepen starts from the idea that love is a trainable skill, and dating is where most people get their first reps. The community runs on the Four Pillars : growth comes first, with no attachment to outcome; you own your own experience; all feelings are welcome; and every relationship is a place to practice love. That frame takes the pressure off any single date. If you're ready to expand your range beyond the apps, start with the $99 monthly membership . Come play with us. ### FAQ #### What are the best alternatives to dating apps in Austin? Speed dating events like CitySwoon and Cheeky Date, hosted dinners like Timeleft, social sports leagues, run clubs, Meetup groups, matchmaking, and connection-focused communities like WeDeepen. #### Is WeDeepen a dating app or matchmaking service? No. WeDeepen is relationship education and community. Its Love Club tier includes Collaborative Matchmaking with partner matchmakers, but WeDeepen itself is a place to learn and practice love. #### Can I meet someone at a WeDeepen event? People do meet at WeDeepen events, but that isn't the goal. The goal is to get better at connection; meeting people is a natural result of being in a room full of people doing the same. #### Where can I meet people in Austin without apps? Anywhere you'll see the same people repeatedly: leagues, run clubs, classes, volunteer shifts, and recurring communities like WeDeepen's weekly sessions and Austin events. #### How much does WeDeepen cost? The membership is $99 a month or $990 a year, and you can cancel anytime. Love Immersion is $2,995 per person. Love Club is $9,997 a year. ### Sources - CitySwoon: Speed Dating Austin - Cheeky Date: Speed Dating Austin - Timeleft - Austin Sports & Social Club - Meetup: Social groups in Austin ## Speed Dating Alternatives in Austin URL: https://wedeepen.com/answers/speed-dating-alternatives-austin/ Published: 2026-10-03 Short answer: If speed dating in Austin feels too rushed, try formats with longer conversations and repeat contact: hosted dinners like Timeleft, social sports leagues, run clubs, Meetup groups, and connection-focused communities like WeDeepen, where you practice real conversation instead of eight-minute interviews. If you like the speed format, CitySwoon and Cheeky Date run regular Austin events. Speed dating has a loyal following in Austin, and for good reason: you meet a lot of people in one evening without a single swipe. But eight minutes per person isn't for everyone. Some people freeze under the clock, and others leave with a list of names and no real sense of anyone. If that sounds familiar, here's what to try instead, and how to get more out of speed dating if you still like it. ### What speed dating does well, and where it falls short Speed dating works because it's in person and efficient. You get the read you can't get from a profile: voice, presence, chemistry. It falls short because the format rewards quick performance over real connection. Many interesting people warm up slowly, and a short timer cuts them off before they get going. The alternatives below keep the in-person signal and give conversations more room. ### If you like the format: speed dating in Austin CitySwoon runs matched "Speed Dating 2.0" nights at Austin venues, with phone check-in and live-selected mini-dates. Cheeky Date hosts host-led, age-bracketed events in East Austin, South Austin, and downtown. Aggregators like Event Flo list other upcoming events. ### Speed dating alternatives in Austin #### Hosted dinners with strangers Timeleft seats you with a small, personality-matched group for a weekly dinner. A whole meal gives conversation time to go somewhere. Time Out's Austin write-up describes how it works. #### Social sports leagues Austin Sports & Social Club runs coed leagues with a happy hour after games. A season gives you ten weeks of the same faces, which suits people who need a few meetings to show who they are. #### Interest groups and run clubs Meetup groups and Austin Runners Club social runs put you side by side doing something you enjoy. That takes the pressure off and lets attraction build. #### Connection workshops and community: WeDeepen WeDeepen is the opposite of an eight-minute interview. It's an Austin-based relationship education community where people practice connection on purpose, through guided exercises, honest sharing, and coaching from experienced faculty . It meets online every Tuesday at 6:00 PM Central, at in-person events in Austin , and at the three-day Love Immersion retreat. It's not a dating event, but it's a room full of open, curious people who want deeper connection, and about half of every Love Immersion arrives solo. ### How to get more from any dating event - Skip the résumé questions. Ask what someone is excited about this month, not what they do for work. - Notice your body. Do you feel relaxed or tense next to this person? That tells you more than their answers do. - Say something true. A little honesty about yourself invites honesty back. - Follow up fast. If someone interests you, suggest a specific second meeting within a few days. - Read up. WeDeepen's guides to first date conversation and compatibility vs. chemistry help you tell a spark from a fit. ### Where WeDeepen fits Speed dating tests you on the spot. WeDeepen trains the skill underneath. Love is a trainable skill, and the people who date well have practiced presence, curiosity, and asking for what they want. WeDeepen runs on the Four Pillars : growth comes first, you own your own experience, all feelings are welcome, and relationships are a place to practice love. Go to speed dating if you like it. Bring better skills with you. Start with the $99 monthly membership . Come play with us. ### FAQ #### What are good alternatives to speed dating in Austin? Hosted dinners like Timeleft, social sports leagues, run clubs, Meetup groups, and connection-focused communities like WeDeepen, which runs weekly online sessions and in-person events in Austin. #### Where can I go speed dating in Austin? CitySwoon and Cheeky Date run regular speed dating events at Austin venues, and event aggregators list others. Check each organizer's site for current dates and age ranges. #### Is WeDeepen a speed dating event or mixer? No. WeDeepen is relationship education and community. People who are partnered, dating, or between relationships all attend, and connection is the focus rather than matching. #### What if I'm shy or freeze up at dating events? Choose formats with more time and repeat contact, like leagues, dinners, or WeDeepen's weekly sessions, where you can warm up and practice in a supportive room. #### How much does WeDeepen cost? The membership is $99 a month or $990 a year, and you can cancel anytime. Love Immersion, the three-day Austin retreat, is $2,995 per person. ### Sources - CitySwoon: Speed Dating Austin - Cheeky Date: Speed Dating Austin - Event Flo: Speed Dating Events in Austin - Timeleft - Time Out: Dining with five strangers in Austin - Austin Sports & Social Club ## Dating Coach in Austin: What They Do and How to Choose URL: https://wedeepen.com/answers/austin-dating-coach/ Published: 2026-10-04 Short answer: A dating coach in Austin helps you get clear on what you want, see the patterns you repeat, and practice the conversations that matter. Coaching isn't therapy and isn't matchmaking. Look for real training, such as an International Coaching Federation credential. WeDeepen founder Christina Weber, an ICF-certified coach, offers private sessions on Zoom, plus a weekly membership and Austin retreats to practice in. A dating coach in Austin helps you get better at the part of love you can practice: how you meet people, what you notice on a first date, how you say what you want, and why the same pattern keeps showing up. This guide covers what dating coaches actually do, how they differ from therapists and matchmakers, which credentials mean something, and how WeDeepen fits if you want coaching plus a community to practice in. ### What a dating coach does Coaching works on where you are now and where you want to go. A good dating coach helps you get clear on what you want in a partner, look honestly at the patterns you repeat, practice conversations you've been avoiding, and make decisions faster. Some coaches focus on tactics like profiles and openers. Others go deeper into attachment, self-worth, and the parts of you that show up when someone good arrives. Christina Weber, WeDeepen's founder, works in the deeper lane. Her first question for every client is the same: how's your love life? In private sessions on Zoom , she maps how you love, decide, and connect, sometimes drawing on the Erotic Blueprints and WeDeepen's Four Pillars , and sends you off with something specific to practice. Love is a trainable skill, and coaching is the reps. ### Dating coach, therapist, or matchmaker These three get blurred, but they do different jobs: - A therapist is licensed to treat mental-health conditions and work through past hurt, trauma, and attachment wounds. If depression, anxiety, or trauma is driving your dating life, start there. - A dating coach works on you: your clarity, your habits, your choices, and the skills you bring into a room. Coaching isn't therapy and doesn't replace it. - A matchmaker runs the search for you, finding and vetting people outside your circle and setting up introductions. As one matchmaking firm puts it , a matchmaker is hired to run the search itself. Many people benefit from more than one. WeDeepen's Love Club , for example, pairs coaching and education with Collaborative Matchmaking through partner matchmakers. ### Credentials worth checking Anyone can call themselves a dating coach, so ask about training. The most widely recognized coaching credentials come from the International Coaching Federation . Its three levels are: - ACC: 60+ hours of coach education and 100+ hours of coaching experience. - PCC: 125+ hours of education and 500+ hours of experience. - MCC: 200+ hours of education and 2,500+ hours of experience. Christina Weber is an ICF-certified coach trained at iPEC. She has also been producing dating, relationship, and intimacy events since 2014, reaching more than 40,000 people. Credentials aren't everything. Ask how the coach works, what a typical session looks like, and whether they'll tell you the truth when you'd rather not hear it. ### Questions to ask before you hire one - Do you work with my situation: dating again after divorce, dating while partnered, or deciding whether to stay? - Will my partner be able to join sessions if we start dating seriously? - What will I practice between sessions? - How do you know when to refer me to a therapist? - Is there a way to keep practicing with other people, not just with you? That last question matters more than most people expect. Coaching gives you insight. Practice with real people turns it into skill. ### How WeDeepen fits WeDeepen is an Austin relationship education company, not a dating app. You can work with it at three depths: - Private coaching with Christina: one-on-one or couples sessions on Zoom. A first session is $295, credited toward her Love Accelerator mentorship if you continue. Book a session . - The WeDeepen Membership: $99/month or $990/year, with a 90-minute live session every Tuesday at 6 PM Central and a private community. It's a place to practice love every week with people who take it seriously. Join the membership . - Love Immersion: a three-day in-person retreat in Austin at $2,995, with live hot-seat coaching from several experts. About half the participants arrive solo. See the Love Immersion page . Coaching works best when growth comes first, with no attachment to outcome. You don't have to be in crisis, and you don't need a partner to start. Come play with us. ### FAQ #### Is a dating coach the same as a therapist? No. A therapist is licensed to treat mental-health conditions and past trauma. A dating coach focuses on your present choices, skills, and patterns in dating. Coaching isn't a substitute for therapy. #### Do dating coaches in Austin work in person or online? Both are common. Christina Weber coaches on Zoom, and WeDeepen runs in-person retreats in Austin. #### What credential should a dating coach have? There's no license for dating coaches. The most recognized credentials come from the International Coaching Federation (ACC, PCC, MCC), which require set hours of education and coaching experience. #### Can couples see a dating coach? Many coaches, including Christina Weber, work with couples as well as individuals. #### Does WeDeepen offer matchmaking? Love Club, WeDeepen's inner circle at $9,997/year, includes Collaborative Matchmaking with partner matchmakers. The membership itself is a place to learn and practice, not a matchmaking service. ### Sources - International Coaching Federation: ACC, PCC, and MCC credentials - ICF: compare coaching credentials - Master Matchmakers: where dating coaching ends and matchmaking begins - AASECT certification overview ## Intimacy Coach in Austin: What to Expect and How to Choose URL: https://wedeepen.com/answers/intimacy-coach-austin/ Published: 2026-10-04 Short answer: An intimacy coach helps you build emotional, physical, and sexual closeness through conversation, guided exercises, and practice. It's coaching, not therapy. For sexual pain, trauma, or mental-health concerns, see a licensed sex therapist; AASECT certifies them. In Austin, WeDeepen offers private coaching with Christina Weber, a weekly online membership taught by intimacy and somatic experts, and in-person Love Immersion retreats. An intimacy coach helps individuals and couples build closeness: emotional, physical, and sexual. Sessions are mostly conversation and practice, with exercises you take home. It's education and coaching, not therapy and not hands-on bodywork. In Austin, you'll find intimacy coaches working privately, licensed sex therapists in clinical practice, and group programs like WeDeepen's workshops and retreats. This guide explains the differences so you can choose. ### What an intimacy coach works on Common reasons people come to an intimacy coach: - Desire has faded in a long relationship, or you and your partner want different things. - You struggle to say what you want, in bed or out of it. - You feel armored, and keep people at a distance even when you want them close. - You want to explore something new, like Tantra, kink, or opening a relationship, with guidance. - You're dating again and want to understand your own patterns first. A lot of the work is about the nervous system. WeDeepen faculty member Kimi Inch, a somatic therapist, put it this way on Christina Weber's podcast: "If we are struggling to keep a regulated nervous system, it's really hard for us to step into our pleasure and to be in deep connection and intimacy with another." Our guide to that episode covers how safety is built step by step. ### Intimacy coach vs. sex therapist The difference is training and scope: - A sex therapist is a licensed mental-health clinician. The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) certifies sex therapists, who need at least a master's degree in a clinical field that includes psychotherapy training, plus supervised experience. See a sex therapist for sexual pain, trauma, compulsive behavior, or anything tied to a mental-health condition. - An intimacy coach isn't licensed to treat conditions. Coaches focus on skills, communication, and practice. Training varies widely, so ask. AASECT also certifies sexuality educators and counselors, and the International Coaching Federation credentials coaches in general. If you're unsure, start with a consultation and ask the coach directly when they'd refer you to a therapist. A good coach will have a clear answer. ### Frameworks you may hear about Intimacy coaches often draw on a few common maps: - The Erotic Blueprints, created by Jaiya : five arousal types (Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, Shapeshifter). Knowing your mix and your partner's makes it easier to meet each other. - Somatic and embodiment work: practices that bring attention into the body so you feel what you want, not just think it. - Tantra and conscious kink: structured, consent-based ways to explore energy, power, and play. - Attachment-focused approaches: such as Emotionally Focused Therapy, used in Hold Me Tight workshops in Austin run by therapists. ### One-on-one coaching or a group Private coaching gives you focus and privacy. Groups give you something private sessions can't: you learn by watching others work through what you're facing, and you practice with real people. At WeDeepen's Love Immersion retreats, participants take turns in live "hot seats" with two expert coaches, and everyone learns from each turn. All feelings are welcome, and you own your own experience: every exercise is an invitation, never a demand. Many people do both. A few private sessions help you get clear on what you want to work on. A group then gives you a place to practice it, with feedback from people who aren't your partner and have no stake in being polite. ### Intimacy coaching at WeDeepen WeDeepen is an Austin relationship education company built on one idea: love is a trainable skill. Options: - Private coaching with Christina Weber, an ICF-certified coach trained at iPEC, one-on-one or as a couple on Zoom. A first session is $295. Book a session . - The WeDeepen Membership, $99/month, with a live session every Tuesday at 6 PM Central, taught by a rotating faculty of intimacy, somatic, and relationship experts. Join the membership . - Love Immersion, three days in person in Austin, $2,995 per person, solo or with a partner. Meet the teachers on the faculty page . Come play with us. ### FAQ #### Is intimacy coaching physical? Generally no. Most intimacy coaching is conversation, guided exercises, and practices you do on your own or with a partner. Ask any coach to explain their boundaries before you book. #### Do I need a partner to see an intimacy coach? No. Many people work on intimacy while single, so they show up differently in their next relationship. #### What's the difference between an intimacy coach and a sex therapist? A sex therapist is a licensed clinician who can treat sexual and mental-health conditions. An intimacy coach focuses on skills, communication, and practice and doesn't provide therapy. #### How do I find a certified sex therapist in Austin? AASECT, the main certifying body in the US, certifies sex therapists, sexuality counselors, and sexuality educators. #### Is WeDeepen therapy? No. WeDeepen is relationship education and coaching, not a substitute for mental-health treatment. ### Sources - AASECT: certification overview - AASECT: sex therapist certification requirements - Jaiya: the five Erotic Blueprint types - A New Therapy: Hold Me Tight and couples intensives in Austin - International Coaching Federation credentials ## Couples Retreats in Texas: Workshops, Intensives, Retreats URL: https://wedeepen.com/answers/couples-retreat-texas/ Published: 2026-10-04 Short answer: Couples retreats in Texas come in three formats: method-based weekend workshops (Gottman, Imago, Hold Me Tight), private intensives with a licensed therapist, and experiential retreats like WeDeepen's Love Immersion in the Austin Hill Country. Choose a workshop for a shared method, an intensive for clinical depth on one problem, and Love Immersion to practice love with expert coaches, partnered or solo. Couples retreats in Texas come in three main formats: method-based weekend workshops (Gottman, Imago, and Hold Me Tight), private intensives with a single therapist, and experiential retreats like WeDeepen's Love Immersion in the Austin Hill Country. The right one depends on whether you want a structured method, clinical depth on one problem, or a broader place to practice love. This guide walks through each so you can pick. ### Start with what you want out of it Before comparing venues and dates, get honest about why you're going: - You keep having the same fight. A method-based workshop gives you one shared tool and vocabulary. - Something specific broke, like an affair, a loss, or a long freeze. A private intensive with a licensed therapist is usually the better fit. - Nothing is wrong, but you want more. More aliveness, more honesty, more play. An experiential retreat fits here. - Only one of you wants to go. Look for a retreat that welcomes solo participants, so the willing partner can start. ### Method-based couples workshops These follow a published approach and are taught by trained leaders, usually over a weekend. - Gottman, The Art and Science of Love. A two-day workshop. According to the Gottman Institute , day one covers the research and foundational skills, and day two focuses on managing conflict and communicating. It runs online and in person, including in Austin through the Center for Relationships . - Imago, Getting the Love You Want. Imago Texas runs this workshop, about 18 to 20 hours over two and a half days, in several Texas cities. It centers on a structured dialogue. - Hold Me Tight. Based on Dr. Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy. Therapists offer it in Austin, for example A New Therapy , and elsewhere in Texas, such as Lifegrowth . These are strong when both partners want to learn the same method. They're less suited to couples who want to explore beyond conflict, like desire, play, or who they each are becoming. ### Private couples intensives A private intensive puts one couple with one therapist for a concentrated block, from a few hours to several days. A New Therapy in Austin, for example, lists three-day Emotionally Focused Therapy intensives as well as shorter sessions. These sit closest to therapy. Choose one when the stakes are high and you want clinical care. Check the therapist's license and method before you book. ### Experiential retreats Experiential retreats are less about one method and more about practice. WeDeepen's Love Immersion is three days in person at HAVAN Estates, a private venue in the Texas Hill Country outside Austin. About 30 participants work with six coaches. The core is live hot-seat coaching: you bring what's most alive in your love life to two experts, then learn again by watching everyone else take their turn. The weekend also includes teachings, embodied practice, games, and shared meals. Love Immersion runs on WeDeepen's Four Pillars : growth comes first, with no attachment to outcome; you own your own experience; all feelings are welcome; and the relationship is a place to practice love. It's open to couples and to people who come solo, with a friend, or with a family member. About half arrive solo. Participants rate it 9.6 out of 10, and 70% come back for another. It's relationship education and coaching, not therapy. If you're in crisis, start with a therapist and add a retreat later. ### Questions to ask any retreat - Who leads it, and what is their training? - How much time is group teaching versus private work as a couple? - Can one partner come alone? - What happens after the weekend: is there follow-up or a community? - What is the refund or transfer policy? On the last point: Love Immersion tickets are $2,995 per person, with a payment plan at checkout. They're non-refundable but fully transferable. ### Keep practicing after the weekend Every retreat leader will tell you the same thing: the weekend is the start, not the finish. Love is a trainable skill, and skills fade without practice. The WeDeepen Membership gives you a 90-minute live session every Tuesday at 6 PM Central and a private community, for $99/month. Join the membership before or after your retreat. Come play with us. ### FAQ #### How long is a typical couples retreat in Texas? Most run two to three days. Gottman's Art and Science of Love is two days, Imago's Getting the Love You Want is about two and a half, and Love Immersion is three. #### Is a couples retreat the same as couples therapy? Not always. Private intensives with a licensed therapist are therapy. Method workshops and experiential retreats like Love Immersion are education and practice. #### Can I go to a couples retreat without my partner? Some retreats require couples. Love Immersion welcomes solo participants, and about half arrive solo. #### Where is Love Immersion held? At HAVAN Estates, a private venue in the Hill Country at 17301 Flint Rock Rd, Austin, TX 78738. Meals are included; lodging is booked separately. #### Are couples retreats in Texas held online too? Some are. The Gottman Institute runs The Art and Science of Love as a live virtual event as well as in person. ### Sources - The Gottman Institute: The Art and Science of Love - Center for Relationships, Austin: Gottman couples retreats - Imago Texas: Getting the Love You Want - A New Therapy: Hold Me Tight and couples intensives - Lifegrowth: Hold Me Tight workshop ## What Is a Love Immersion? WeDeepen’s Three-Day Retreat Explained URL: https://wedeepen.com/answers/what-is-love-immersion/ Published: 2026-10-04 Short answer: Love Immersion is WeDeepen's three-day, in-person relationship retreat in Austin, Texas. About 30 participants work with six coaches through live hot-seat coaching, teachings, embodied practice, play, and shared meals. It's open to couples and solo participants, about half of whom arrive alone. It costs $2,995 per person, and it's relationship education and coaching, not therapy. A Love Immersion is WeDeepen's three-day, in-person relationship retreat in Austin, Texas. The format is a "love mastermind": about 30 participants and six coaches, built around live hot-seat coaching, plus teachings, embodied practice, play, and shared meals. You can come solo or with a partner. This page covers what happens over the three days, who goes, what it costs, and how it differs from a workshop or therapy. ### Where the name comes from Most of us reach adulthood with years of education and almost none in love. We follow chemistry, learn through heartbreak, and hope experience eventually turns into wisdom. Christina Weber, who founded WeDeepen, designed Love Immersion to make that learning intentional. The idea is total immersion, the way you'd learn a language: three days in which love is the only subject. The tagline for the current edition is "Mastermind your love life." ### What happens over three days The center of the weekend is the Masterminding Love hot seat. You bring what's most alive in your love life, whether that's a decision, a pattern, a conversation you're dreading, or a desire you haven't named, to two expert coaches. They help you see what's really happening and how to move forward. Then you learn again by watching everyone else take their turn. Other people's questions, blind spots, and courage often show you things you couldn't see in your own life. Around the hot seats, the weekend includes: - Workshops and interactive exercises for clearer, more connected relationships. - Play and connection: Truth or Dare, games, and surprises. - Shared meals, all included. - Integration and a graduation ceremony on the last day, with community support after. The October 2026 edition, Love Immersion VIII, runs Saturday through Monday. The first day starts at 9 AM with breakfast and an opening circle, and the retreat closes around 2 PM on the third day. The full schedule is on the Love Immersion VIII page . ### Who teaches it There's no single guru or method. The faculty are senior coaches Christina chose because they're the people she calls for guidance in her own love life. Love Immersion VIII is led by Christina Weber with Annie Lalla, Ariana Hall, Yossef Sagi, Jordan Bowditch, Rachel Cuthbert, Yarixa Ferrao, and Scott Wild. Each brings a different lens, from relationship dynamics and polarity to nervous-system healing and the one hard conversation a relationship needs. Full bios are on the faculty page . ### Who goes - People who are dating, partnered, between relationships, or deciding whether to stay. - About half arrive solo. Others come with a partner, a friend, a sibling, or a parent. - Ages have ranged from 18 to 87, mostly people in their thirties through sixties. - Relationship coaches often attend as participants. You don't need a partner, a breakup, or a crisis to come. Participants rate it 9.6 out of 10, and 70% come back. One participant, Eva Mullen, said it this way: "I didn't think I belonged. But within a day, I felt flooded with love. I felt home." More accounts are on the reviews page . ### The rules of the room Every Love Immersion runs on WeDeepen's Four Pillars : growth comes first, with no attachment to outcome; you own your own experience; all feelings are welcome, and no inner process is condemned; and the relationship is a place to practice love. In practice, that means you choose how far to go in any exercise, and nothing you feel is off-limits to bring. ### Cost, venue, and logistics - Price: $2,995 per person, with a payment plan at checkout. - Refunds: tickets are non-refundable but fully transferable. - Venue: HAVAN Estates, a private space in the Texas Hill Country at 17301 Flint Rock Rd, Austin, TX 78738. - Meals: included. Lodging is booked separately, with some onsite options. - Travel: fly into Austin-Bergstrom (AUS). Love Club members, at $9,997/year, get one Love Immersion credit, transferable to a partner. ### Between retreats Three days can shift a lot, and love is a trainable skill, so the practice continues. The WeDeepen Membership , $99/month or $990/year, gives you a live session every Tuesday at 6 PM Central with the same faculty, and a private community. Join the membership . Come play with us. ### FAQ #### Is Love Immersion therapy? No. It's relationship education and coaching, not therapy or a substitute for mental-health treatment. #### Do I need to bring a partner? No. About half of participants come solo. #### How many people attend? About 30 participants, with six coaches, for Love Immersion VIII. #### When is the next Love Immersion? Love Immersion VIII is October 17 to 19, 2026, in Austin. Future dates are listed on the events page . #### How is it different from a Gottman or Imago workshop? Those teach one research-based method to couples. Love Immersion uses several coaches and live hot-seat work, and welcomes solo participants. ### Sources - HAVAN Estates on Google Maps - The Gottman Institute: The Art and Science of Love - Imago Texas: Getting the Love You Want - Austin-Bergstrom International Airport --- # Guides ## Ken Page on Discouragement Fatigue and the Wave of Distancing URL: https://wedeepen.com/guides/ken-page-deeper-dating-discouragement-fatigue/ Published: 2026-10-04 Short answer: On episode 106 of Christina Weber's podcast, psychotherapist Ken Page, author of Deeper Dating, names the two patterns that most derail people looking for love: discouragement fatigue and the wave of distancing. His fix is to measure progress by whether you're becoming more self-treasuring, vulnerable, and discriminating, and to keep asking one question: does my soul feel safe with this person? Ken Page, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, the author of Deeper Dating , host of the Deeper Dating Podcast , and a member of WeDeepen's faculty . Christina Weber calls him one of her mentors in love: "I go to him all the time when I need relationship advice." In episode 106 of her podcast , he named the two patterns he sees derail people looking for love most often, and what to do about each. This guide sums up that conversation. Quotes are from the episode transcript, lightly edited for readability. ### Discouragement fatigue Ken once asked everyone on his email list where they get most stuck in dating. More than a hundred people answered, and he sent each a personal voice message back. One woman named the problem in two words: discouragement fatigue. It's the slow wear of trying again and again. Dating relationships that don't work. Long-term relationships that end in heartbreak. What Ken calls "the culture of unkindness" in so much of the dating world, the swipe apps, and the disappointment of doing it all over again. It hits hardest after what he calls stepping-stone relationships: you've done the inner work, you meet someone who seems different, and it ends the same way, only worse, "because their hopes were higher." His answer isn't to try harder. It's to change what you measure. "The degree to which you uplevel the way you search for love is really the degree to which you're going to uplevel the kind of person you're going to meet." In place of "Did this one work out?", he offers three questions: - Am I becoming more self-treasuring? - Am I becoming more vulnerable? - Am I becoming more discriminating? "If the answers to those questions are yes, you are on the right path." That, he says, is how you find light in the middle of the tunnel, not just at the end of it. ### The wave of distancing The second pattern is the one Ken calls "the worst saboteur of healthy new love that exists." If you're used to people who are not quite available, then the moment you meet someone who is truly present, your attraction can suddenly drop. "All of a sudden you notice their nose hair. You notice that their laugh irritates you. You notice that your sexual desire diminishes." In his experience, between a third and a half of all people who date go through it, and "nobody's taught to deal with it." His guidance: expect it, and don't let it make the decision for you. He borrows a line from Marianne Williamson: "both feet in until both feet out." With someone truly available, he says, "you will be afraid, you will be nervous, you'll want to escape," but "it passes if you let the love deepen and it's the right person." ### The one question to date by Attraction matters, Ken says, but it shouldn't come first. His central question: "Does my soul feel safe with this person? Frame your entire search for love around that question and watch what changes." When your soul feels safe with someone who is present, available, and mutually attracted, "that's the happiness you could glide on almost forever." He's also direct about two things that stall progress no matter how much inner work you've done: active addiction, and serious psychiatric conditions that haven't been stabilized. Get help with those first, he says, or "you're going to tread the same ground again and again." ### Your scariest ask is your core gift Christina shared a story from her own love life. Ken had urged her to ask a partner a question she was afraid to ask. She resisted all evening, then asked. Whatever the answer, the relief was immediate, and the relationship got more honest. Ken's reading of that moment is the heart of his Deeper Dating approach, which centers on naming and honoring your core gifts: "The things we're most afraid to share and most afraid to ask for not only are often the most important things, they are our deepest core gifts." And: "The parts of ourselves we leave behind in order to get love or approval are the parts of ourselves we need to champion and reclaim in order to really find healthy love." Christina put the flip side plainly: "The true feeling of abandonment, I've found, is when I abandon myself." ### How this fits WeDeepen's approach Ken's work lines up closely with WeDeepen's premise that love is a trainable skill. The Four Pillars say the same thing in different words: growth comes first, with no attachment to outcome; you own your own experience; and all feelings are welcome, including the fear that shows up when someone good arrives. Both Ken and Christina stress support: nobody gets better at love alone. That's why WeDeepen runs a weekly live session and community and Love Immersion retreats in Austin. To practice with others, join the membership . Come play with us. ### FAQ #### Who is Ken Page? Ken Page, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, the author of Deeper Dating, host of the Deeper Dating Podcast, and a member of WeDeepen's faculty. #### What is discouragement fatigue? It's the exhaustion that builds from repeated dating disappointments, breakups, and unkindness, a term one of Ken Page's readers coined. He suggests measuring progress by whether you're becoming more self-treasuring, vulnerable, and discriminating, not by whether each relationship lasts. #### What is the wave of distancing? Ken Page's term for losing attraction or wanting to escape just as you meet someone truly available. He estimates it affects between a third and a half of people who date, and says it usually passes if you stay present and the person is right for you. #### What question does Ken Page recommend asking when dating? "Does my soul feel safe with this person?" He suggests framing your whole search for love around it, alongside attraction. #### Where can I listen to the full episode? Episode 106 is on the WeDeepen podcast page , Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. ### Sources - Apple Podcasts: DWC 106, Navigating the Waves of Dating with Ken Page - YouTube: DWC 106 full episode - Deeper Dating: the book - The Deeper Dating Podcast ## Kimi Inch on Conscious Kink: Safety, Play, and Desire URL: https://wedeepen.com/guides/kimi-inch-conscious-kink-safety-play/ Published: 2026-10-04 Short answer: On episode 108 of Christina Weber's podcast, Austin somatic therapist Kimi Inch, founder of &More, explains conscious kink as consensual, creative play built on attunement. Her keys: a regulated nervous system comes before pleasure, every exercise is an invitation you can decline, and desire is learned in the body, not from a book. Christina shares what she learned at Kimi's four-day immersion. Kimi Inch is a somatic therapist, Core Energetics practitioner, and founder of &More , an erotic leadership brand based in Austin. She is also on WeDeepen's faculty . In episode 108 of Christina Weber's podcast , recorded at Kimi's Austin home, the two walked through Something More, Kimi's four-day immersion in conscious kink, which Christina had just finished. This guide sums up what they said about safety, play, and learning desire in your body instead of from a book. Quotes are from the episode transcript, lightly edited for readability. ### Kink is play, not a stereotype Many people say "I'm not kinky." Christina's follow-up question: do you like to play? To her, kink is "novel, it's play, it's experimenting with what's possible and feeling into my emotions." Kimi says it makes sense that people feel nervous, because the media mostly shows "this really cliche, dark, heavy, intense" picture. What she wants to bring forward is "imagination and creativity." Her playful rewrite of the stereotype: "Instead of blood, sweat, and tears, can't we just do grace and elegance instead?" Kink names, like the one Christina took on this year, "Your Majesty," are part of the play. Kimi describes them as one instrument in an inner symphony: "Sometimes you want to give that violin a solo." ### Safety starts in the nervous system Christina asked what someone should do if they crave deeper intimacy but don't yet feel safe enough to explore it. Kimi's answer was about the body, not technique. "If we are struggling to keep a regulated nervous system, it's really hard for us to step into our pleasure and to be in deep connection and intimacy with another." The fix is gradual exposure in a well-held setting, whether that's a therapist, a coach, or "a well-organized, conscious event where people can hold a container." Each time you're vulnerable and nothing bad happens, your nervous system learns, "I can be heard, and people can be present with me, and I won't be judged or rejected or shamed." That, she says, "opens you up to infinite possibility around pleasure and relational experiences." Christina sees herself as proof. After years of practices like eye gazing in Tantra and connection workshops, what once felt edgy now feels easy, and each layer she goes deeper shows her a new one. ### Everything is an invitation Kimi opens every immersion with one agreement: "Everything is just a series of invitations. There's no expectation, there's no demand." You choose your own pace, and you can stop or change your mind at any time. She also asks the group to "celebrate everything," including trying an exercise for five seconds and deciding it isn't for you. She pushes back on the idea that erotic spaces require you to be cool and polished: "We really want to encourage realness and rawness and vulnerability over this performance sort of sexy image." Christina noted that about half the group came as couples and half were currently single, and that the space honored both: "We're relationshipping in community." ### Learning desire in the body Day two of Something More centered on the Erotic Blueprints, a framework created by sex educator Jaiya that sorts arousal styles into five types: Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter. Blueprint coach Kayce Neill taught the framework, and Kimi built a hands-on exercise for each type. Her reason is simple: "I can attribute every successful erotic encounter with the ability of how attuned me and my partner are to ourselves and to each other." Reading about attunement isn't the same as feeling it. "Most of the time people just don't know what's possible in their lives until they actually have an experience of it. It's all theory until then." Christina's own results changed with experience. Her first quiz months earlier put her in one type, and she felt boxed in. After the immersion she retook it and came out a Shapeshifter, which felt right. She now sees a primary blueprint as "a gateway into all of the others." Day three moved into rope work (shibari) and impact play, taught by professionals and framed as ways to practice surrender, leading, and trust. ### Why this matters for your love life Christina's point running through the episode: sex education stops at age 13, and adults rarely get a second chance. "Relationship education is something that is never ending and unfolding." That's WeDeepen's premise too. Love is a trainable skill, all feelings are welcome, and you own your own experience at every step. Practice works best repeated over time, not crammed into one weekend. WeDeepen's membership gives you a weekly live session and a community to keep practicing in, and Love Immersion retreats in Austin offer an in-person reset. Join the membership . Come play with us. ### FAQ #### Who is Kimi Inch? Kimi Inch is an Austin-based somatic therapist, Core Energetics practitioner, and founder of &More, who teaches conscious kink and erotic leadership. She is on WeDeepen's faculty. #### What is conscious kink? As Kimi Inch describes it, conscious kink is consensual erotic play built on attunement, care, and choice, where every activity is an invitation you can accept, decline, or stop at any time. #### What are the five Erotic Blueprint types? Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter. The framework was created by Jaiya. Most people are a mix of all five, with one or two leading. #### Do you need a partner to explore this kind of work? No. In the immersion Christina attended, about half the participants came as couples and half were currently single. #### Where can I listen to the full episode? Episode 108 is on the WeDeepen podcast page , Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. For Kimi's background, listen to episode 99, Beyond the Whip . ### Sources - Apple Podcasts: DWC 108, Desire's Classroom with Kimi Inch - YouTube: DWC 108 full episode - &More: Kimi Inch - Jaiya: the five Erotic Blueprint types --- # Mastering Love podcast (formerly Deepen with Christina): episode summaries ## ML 002: You Don't Find Your Soulmate...You Build One URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/ml-002-you-dont-find-your-soulmateyou-build-one/ Published: 2026-09-23 What if love is a skill you can practice, rather than something you’re supposed to stumble into? Christina welcomes The Great Love Debate host Brian Howie for a candid, playful conversation about what it takes to create a relationship that lasts. They explore why being single can be a gift, how 90 days of no contact can bring clarity after a breakup, and why laughter, curiosity, and play matter in a partnership. Christina also challenges the idea that a soulmate is simply “out there” waiting to be found. Her take: the deepest kind of love is something two people choose to build together! - Love is a skill you can practice. Christina encourages listeners to study relationships and put what th… ## ML 001: Sex, Pleasure, and Play with Melissa D. URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/ml-001-sex-pleasure-and-play-with-melissa-d/ Published: 2026-09-03 Welcome to Mastering Love with Christina Weber, where your intimacy journey is your life story and love is a trainable skill you can study, practice, and get even better at. Christina's first guest is Melissa D., owner and director of the BodyJoy Intimacy School in Austin, Texas, somatic educator, and faculty inside WeDeepen's Love Club. Together they explore how Melissa found love on Hinge after years off the apps, the five stages every relationship moves through, what conscious community gatherings actually look like, the art of flirtation and expressive communication, and the truth or dare round that gets both of them sharing their deepest desires. Playful, honest, and exactly the way Mas… ## DWC 143: The Final Episode URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-143-the-final-episode/ Published: 2026-08-18 Reminder to get your tickets! Next weekend in Austin is WeDeepen In-Person, August 22 to 23. What if your love life could be even better? The old way of doing relationships is breaking down, and something better is emerging. Come get a pulse check on how our community is navigating their love lives: dynamic conversations, workshopping, and live love coaching with top relationship experts Annie Lalla, Jordan Bowditch and more. It's two days, and I still suggest coming even if you can only make one. We're at the hip Stardust Garage. Tickets start at $99 and are buy one, get one free right now: https://wedeepen.com/inperson/ In the final episode of Deepen with Christina, host and WeDeepen found… ## DWC 142: Why Desire Fades with Roxy Ruse URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-142-why-desire-fades-with-roxy-ruse/ Published: 2026-08-10 In this behind-the-scenes episode of Deepen with Christina, host Christina Weber introduces WeDeepen's brand-new Community Manager and Events Coordinator, Roxy Ruse, on day three of the job. What unfolds is a vulnerable, playful look inside a growing organization: why WeDeepen treats new hires like new relationships (complete with a three-month "dating contract"), and why announcing a partnership this early feels as tender as telling your friends about someone new. Roxy opens up about her own extraordinary love life, including transitioning a 15-year marriage into a thriving co-parenting partnership, loving two partners, and building the Austin chapter of Skirt Club from 42 members to over 3… ## DWC 141: The Empathy Machine with René Besson URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-141-the-empathy-machine-with-ren%C3%A9-besson/ Published: 2026-08-03 In this milestone episode of Deepen with Christina, host Christina Weber introduces her new business partner and Managing Partner at WeDeepen: veteran Hollywood film producer René Besson. Bringing three decades of high-stakes entertainment production, storytelling, and ad industry expertise to the love movement, René shares the exact moment he realized WeDeepen was his ultimate "why." Inspired by a legendary Roger Ebert quote about empathy, this episode pulls back the curtain on the business, vision, and heart driving the expansion of WeDeepen, shifting culture from passive "Netflix and chill" consumption to living life as the empowered lead character in your own story. Main Topics Covered F… ## DWC 140: Somatic Healing, Acro Yoga, and The Body Party with Jason Nemer URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-140-somatic-healing-acro-yoga-and-the-body-party-with-jason-nemer/ Published: 2026-07-27 In this exclusive episode of Deepen with Christina, host Christina Weber sits down with global movement pioneer Jason Nemer, the co-founder of Acro Yoga and the visionary architect behind an ultra-exclusive, underground wellness movement known as The Body Party. Broadcasting live from Austin, Texas, Jason breaks his silence on the inner workings of his high-investment somatic experiences, where a 1:1 ratio of elite practitioners to guests unlocks deep childhood and ancestral traumas trapped within the physical form. Whether you are single, coupled, a high-performing entrepreneur, or a somatic seeker, this episode explores the profound integration of movement, connection, radical play, and ho… ## DWC 139: Social Courage, Reality Transsurfing, and Nervous System Leadership with Dina Maayan URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-139-social-courage-reality-transsurfing-and-nervous-system-leadership-with-dina-maayan/ Published: 2026-07-20 In this high-vibrational episode of Deepen with Christina, host Christina Weber is joined by body therapist, breathwork facilitator, and gene keys guide Dina Maayan. Fresh off the heels of the latest WeDeepen Love Immersion, the duo breaks down the serious mechanics of play and why infusing absolute silliness into modern connection is the ultimate medicine for shifting out of psychological heaviness. Dina pulls back the curtain on her cosmic origin story with her fiancé (Acro Yoga founder Jason Nemer), involving smuggled Hawaiian mangoes, a symbolic totem box, and a literal coconut tree climb, while mapping out how human beings can alchemize deep childhood panic attacks into modern nervous s… ## DWC 138: Unlock Full-Body Aliveness through Energy Orgasms with Natalya Krayeva URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-138-unlock-full-body-aliveness-through-energy-orgasms-with-natalya-krayeva/ Published: 2026-07-13 Are you curious about how to tap into your body's natural state of ecstasy without relying on physical stimulation or external gadgets? In this episode of Deepen with Christina, host Christina Weber sits down with intimacy coach and energy activation expert Natalya Krayeva to dive deep into the world of energy orgasms. Natalya shares her profound journey of hitting rock bottom, navigating divorce, miscarriage, and addiction, and how she reverse-engineered esoteric yoga, shamanic breathwork, and tantric practices to heal herself, activate her life force energy, and build a unique global career. This episode is for anyone looking to release stored trauma, break through emotional blocks, or exp… ## DWC 137: BDSM, Sovereignty, and the Mastery of Sexual Desire with Yossef Sagi URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-137-bdsm-sovereignty-and-the-mastery-of-sexual-desire-with-yossef-sagi/ Published: 2026-07-05 Fresh off facilitating at the seventh WeDeepen Love Immersion, host Christina Weber sits down with master coach, intimacy teacher, and professional dominant Yossef Sagi for his first video appearance on the podcast. Together, they unpack how sexuality operates as a primary crucible for confronting deep-seated shame and stepping into radical self-acceptance. From auditing your internal impulses across the "four chambers of desire" to navigating the hidden landmines of modern friendships, this episode is a tactical masterclass in mastering your sexual energy, setting ironclad boundaries, and transitioning from instant gratification to long-term relational fulfillment. Main Topics Covered Shame… ## DWC 136: Conquer the Fear of Judgment and Own the Stage with Colleen Schell URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-136-conquer-the-fear-of-judgment-and-own-the-stage-with-colleen-schell/ Published: 2026-06-29 Are you holding back your true story because you are terrified of failing or being judged on stage? In this episode of Deepen with Christina, host Christina Weber sits down with world-renowned speaker coach Colleen Schell to explore how stepping onto the stage is the ultimate act of self-love. Together, they break down how to conquer performance anxiety, reframe the fear of losing your train of thought, and navigate the necessary tension that precedes true personal transformation. This episode is a must-listen for heart-centered leaders, coaches, and creators who feel a calling to speak but find themselves paralyzed by perfectionism. Tune in to discover why the world doesn't need your perfec… ## DWC 135: Reincarnation, Devotional Tantra, and the Psychic Cleanse with Dana Arielle URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-135-reincarnation-devotional-tantra-and-the-psychic-cleanse-with-dana-arielle/ Published: 2026-06-22 In this captivating episode of Deepen with Christina, host Christina Weber is joined by scholar of love, author, and coach Dana Arielle for an uninhibited, soul-stirring dive into the world of Devotional Tantra. Following a near-death experience at age 25, Dana transformed her lifelong romantic obsession into a 17-year scholarly exploration of intimacy, sacred polarity, and high-value relating. Broadcasted live from the booming wellness mecca of Austin, Texas, this episode serves as a powerful reminder that your desire for big, mythic love is a divine bat-signal, and that true, soul-level safety is always worth the wait. Main Topics Covered: - The Creative Romantic: Dana's journey from a chi… ## DWC 134: The Art of Nonviolent Communication with Micah Salaberrios URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-134-the-art-of-nonviolent-communication-with-micah-salaberrios/ Published: 2026-06-18 In this episode of Deepen with Christina, host Christina Weber explores the transformative power of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) with NVC teacher and author Micah Salaberrios. Broadcasting from the wellness and podcasting mecca of Austin, Texas, Micah shares how a high-stakes conflict on a documentary set introduced him to "emergency empathy", and how it completely changed his life. This conversation acts as a practical masterclass for anyone looking to eliminate verbal volatility, own their emotional triggers, and use communication to build unbreakable relational bonds. Main Topics Covered: - From Volatility to Mastery: How Micah transformed his childhood exposure to verbal volatility int… ## DWC 133: The Soulmate Architecture with Annie Lalla URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-133-the-soulmate-architecture-with-annie-lalla/ Published: 2026-05-11 In the second-ever video episode of Deepen with Christina, host Christina Weber sits down with legendary relationship cartographer Annie Lalla. With 17 years of partnership and a wealth of "love codes," Annie explores why she fell for "Mount Everest" (famous dating coach Eban Pagan), how she moved him from a "no" on marriage to a "hell yes," and why your partnership is the ultimate gym for emotional musculature. This episode is for those who refuse to settle for "good enough" and are ready to treat love as their highest life accomplishment. Main Topics Covered: - The Path of the Love Coach: Annie's journey from IT consulting to becoming a "pain detective" for the heart. - Climbing Mount Ever… ## DWC 132: Evolution of Modern Marriage with Jordan Bowditch URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-132-evolution-of-modern-marriage-with-jordan-bowditch/ Published: 2026-05-04 In the debut video episode of Deepen with Christina, host Christina Weber sits down with life coach and provocateur Jordan Bowditch to explore the raw edges of intimacy, commitment, and personal evolution. From the "freestyle rap" DM that started his 10-year relationship to the creation of a home "sex dungeon" designed for marital healing, this episode is for anyone curious about how to maintain fire and integrity in long-term partnership. Bowditch pulls back the curtain on "monogamish" seasons, the pain of pregnancy loss, and why he believes a man's true capacity for commitment often unlocks at age 30. Main Topics Covered: The Origin Story: How Jordan used a voice note and a freestyle rap t… ## DWC 131: Sacred Geometry of Relationships and De-Armoring with Dr. Robert J. Gilbert URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-131-sacred-geometry-of-relationships-and-de-armoring-with-dr-robert-j-gilbert/ Published: 2025-06-01 In this rare and unreleased conversation, recorded shortly before his passing, Christina sits down with the late Dr. Robert J. Gilbert, renowned spiritual scientist and founder of the Vesica Institute, for a deeply moving dialogue on the geometry of love, healing, and human potential. What began as a serendipitous connection over a Gaia episode on The Sacred Geometry of Relationships unfolded into one of the most profound conversations of Christina's life. Dr. Gilbert, once a U.S. Marine Corps instructor in nuclear defense, became a global authority in Sacred Geometry, BioGeometry, and vibrational healing. His life's work bridges ancient wisdom and modern science to reveal the unseen pattern… ## DWC 130: Erotic Wellness with Jamie Elizabeth Thompson URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-130-erotic-wellness-with-jamie-elizabeth-thompson/ Published: 2024-09-16 Explore the transformative power of erotic energy and how awakening the feminine can profoundly impact every aspect of life, from relationships to personal empowerment, with guest Jamie Elizabeth Thompson, a feminine embodiment and erotic awakening coach. Jamie shares her journey from a repressed Christian upbringing to becoming a stripper in Las Vegas, and eventually a teacher of sacred sexuality and orgasmic awakening. She discusses the integration of sacred sexuality, orgasmic awakening, the profound impacts of erotic energy, and how these experiences can serve as a portal to personal growth and deeper connections. Topics Discussed: The role of erotic energy in personal and relational gro… ## DWC 129: Love, Romance, and Longevity with Dr. John Gray URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-129-love-romance-and-longevity-with-dr-john-gray/ Published: 2024-08-19 Explore the ever-evolving landscape of love and relationships with Dr. John Gray, author of the book, "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus." From monogamy to polyamory, and the biochemical differences between men and women, John offers insights into how our brains and hormones shape our romantic lives. John also shares his personal journey, from being a celibate monk to becoming a leading relationship expert, and delves into the importance of understanding gender differences in maintaining a healthy, loving relationship. Topics Discussed: The biochemical differences between men and women and their impact on relationships. The importance of commitment and monogamy for long-term relationsh… ## DWC 128: Sexual Healing Power with Rahi Chun URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-128-sexual-healing-power-with-rahi-chun/ Published: 2024-08-11 Delve into the profound effects of sexual energy with Rahi Chun, an expert in conscious intimacy and energy work. In this episode, Rahi sheds light on how intimate experiences influence our energy fields, from the Kundalini belief of carrying a partner's energy to the importance of energy clearing and cord cutting. Topics Discussed: One-way touch and sexual healing with a skilled practitioner. Absorbing a partner's energy from lovemaking and simultaneous orgasms. Clearing sexual energy, including techniques for cord cutting and self-care practices. Energy exchange in various forms of intimacy and the role of boundaries in maintaining personal balance. Creating conscious agreements in relatio… ## DWC 127: Unleashing Erotic Potential with Shibari and BDSM with Rina Trevi URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-127-unleashing-erotic-potential-with-shibari-and-bdsm-with-rina-trevi/ Published: 2024-06-23 In this captivating episode, host Christina Weber dives into the erotic and transformative world of Shibari and BDSM with expert Rina Trevi, a certified professional coach and a leader in awakening erotic potential through Shibari and BDSM practices. Christina and Rina explore the profound impacts of these practices on personal and relational dynamics. Rina shares her journey from growing up in Russia to becoming a professional dominatrix in New York City, highlighting the freedom and authenticity she discovered through this path. They discuss the psychological and emotional depths of BDSM, emphasizing the importance of safety, vulnerability, and the exploration of desires beyond societal no… ## DWC 126: Beyond Monogamy with Marco Hansell and Anaya Joy URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-126-beyond-monogamy-with-marco-hansell-and-anaya-joy/ Published: 2024-06-16 Explore the possibilities of love without limits in this intriguing episode with Marco Hansell and Anaya Joy, a couple pioneering new ways to combine commitment with open relationships. They share how they maintain a secure bond and raise a child while navigating what they call a 'free relationship.' Learn about their origin story, their challenges, and the joy of expanding love through honesty, communication, and self-awareness. Discover the disciplines and creative strategies they use to keep their relationship vibrant. For tools and insights to enhance your own relationships, visit their website at thefreelationship.com and follow them on Instagram @thefreelationship. Join the Love Club c… ## DWC 125: Managing Hormones for Better Relationships with Dr. Anna Cabeca URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-125-managing-hormones-for-better-relationships-with-dr-anna-cabeca/ Published: 2024-04-30 How are your hormones impacting your intimate relationships? Explore the significant role of hormones in shaping our interactions, from initial attraction to long-term bonding, with Dr. Anna Cabeca, a triple-board certified OB-GYN and expert in women's health. In this episode, Dr. Anna offers practical advice on managing hormonal imbalances and adrenal dysfunction. She focuses on perimenopause and menopause for women, and maintaining healthy testosterone levels for men, essential for sustaining desire and vitality. With over 20 years of experience, serving more than 10,000 women and millions more through her books and videos, Dr. Anna is a featured speaker at the Biohacking Conference in Dal… ## DWC 124: Unpacking Modern Love with Daniel Mackenzie URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-124-unpacking-modern-love-with-daniel-mackenzie/ Published: 2024-04-22 Embrace the complexities and joys of modern love with philosopher, musician, and host of the OMEGA MALE podcast, Daniel Mackenzie. Christina and Daniel discuss the intricate dance of relationships, self-development, and the evolving landscape of dating. Daniel shares his insights on the delicate balance between retaining the magic of romantic ideals and embracing the real-world dynamics of love. They tackle topics from the pitfalls of online dating etiquette to the transformative power of vulnerability and the cultivation of unconditional love, especially as a parent. This episode also delves into the controversial realm of psychedelics and their role in spiritual growth, challenging listene… ## DWC 123: Alchemizing Desire: Deepen Intimacy with Erotic Blueprints with Kayce Neill URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-123-alchemizing-desire-deepen-intimacy-with-erotic-blueprints-with-kayce-neill/ Published: 2024-03-25 Deepen intimacy and erotic intelligence with Christina Weber and Kayce Neill. Learn about the Erotic Blueprints, a framework for understanding your unique sexual desires and the pathway to profound pleasure. Kayce, a trauma-informed therapist and expert in the Erotic Blueprints, shares her wisdom on navigating the nuanced terrains of our erotic selves. Discover the superpowers and shadows of each blueprint, from the transcendent touch of the Energetic to the boundless creativity of the Kinky, and learn how these insights can lead to better communication, deeper connection, and a more fulfilling sex life. Whether you're single and curious about the Love Club or in a relationship seeking to re… ## DWC 122: Embracing the Twin Flame Journey: Unveiling Soul Connections with Shaman Aurora Destiny Raven URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-122-embracing-the-twin-flame-journey-unveiling-soul-connections-with-shaman-aurora-destiny-raven/ Published: 2024-03-19 Dive into the nuanced world of male-female friendships and the magnetic pull of twin flames. Christina Weber, engages in a soul-stirring dialogue with Shaman Aurora Destiny Raven, unraveling the societal layers that often cloud the pure potential of platonic connections between men and women. Destiny's journey from her near-death experience in Jamaica to her profound spiritual awakening as a shaman offers a unique perspective on how ancestral ties and soul encounters shape our relational dynamics. Together, they explore the art of nurturing friendships with the opposite sex, the transformative power of these bonds, and how they can lead to personal growth and greater relational awareness. Ch… ## DWC 121: Family Constellations with Amerly Centeno URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-121-family-constellations-with-amerly-centeno/ Published: 2024-03-11 What if uncovering the secrets of your ancestors could unlock the door to a more fulfilling life? Join us for a compelling conversation with Christina Weber and Amerly Centeno, a Miami-based expert in Family Constellations. Amerly not only shares insights into how your family history impacts your relationships but also guides you through a transformative experiential exercise. With her extensive background, including an MBA and certifications in NLP, Family Constellations, and more, Amerly uncovers how ancestral entanglements are shaping our current connections. Amerly's approach, grounded in empathy, respect, and non-judgment, offers listeners a path to healing their family's past, thereby … ## DWC 120: Evolution of Love: Navigating Modern Relationships with Dolphin Kasper URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-120-evolution-of-love-navigating-modern-relationships-with-dolphin-kasper/ Published: 2024-03-04 Unravel the complexities of love, commitment, and personal growth with Dolphin Kasper, a luminary in the fields of relationship coaching and personal development. Dolphin, a philosopher, author, relationship breakthrough coach, and dedicated father shares his profound insights on the evolving landscape of dating, the essence of marriage, and whether the institution still holds its value in the contemporary world. Drawing from over two decades of experience, Dolphin delves into the discipline required for a healthy relationship, the transformative power of confronting and healing from past traumas, and the proactive steps one can take to ensure their relationship not only survives but thrives… ## DWC 119: Energetic Connections: Decoding Compatibility with Larry Michel of Genetic Energetics URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-119-energetic-connections-decoding-compatibility-with-larry-michel-of-genetic-energetics/ Published: 2024-02-26 What if unlocking the pathways to compatibility could transform your relationships? Discover your energetic blueprint through an engaging conversation with Christina and Larry Michel, founder of the Institute of Genetic Energetics, also known as "The Love Shepherd." Start your journey towards a deeper and more personal understanding of self and how you better relate to partners by pulling your chart here. Christina and Larry explore insightful methodologies like Genetic Energetics and Human Design, illustrating how these approaches can foster deeper, more meaningful connections. Larry shares his expertise in interpreting energetic charts and their impact on relationships, enriched by persona… ## DWC 118: Unlocking Libido: A Personal and Professional Journey with Dr. Diane Mueller URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-118-unlocking-libido-a-personal-and-professional-journey-with-dr-diane-mueller/ Published: 2024-02-18 What if the key to unlocking your fullest sexual potential lies within your own narrative? In this enlightening episode, we are joined by Dr. Diane Mueller, a distinguished naturopath and acupuncturist, who shares her profound journey and expertise on the complex topic of libido. Through her personal battles with desire amid health challenges and her pursuit of sensual empowerment, Dr. Mueller offers a uniquely authentic perspective on understanding sexual drive. This conversation not only underscores the individuality of libido but also highlights the importance of self-discovery and personal pleasure in cultivating intimate relationships. Whether navigating low libido or seeking to deepen … ## DWC 117: Dating, Aging, and Authenticity - A Candid Conversation with Oz Garcia URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-117-dating-aging-and-authenticity-a-candid-conversation-with-oz-garcia/ Published: 2024-02-12 In this eye-opening episode, we delve into the often taboo topics of dating, aging, and the quest for authenticity with none other than Oz Garcia, a luminary in the realms of healthy aging and longevity. Listen for a profound exploration of the dynamics of attraction and the complexities of dating as we age. Oz Garcia, aged 73, shares his controversial perspective on dating, admitting a preference for not dating women over 50, which sets the stage for a deeper and sometimes uncomfortable dialogue. Christina, taken aback by Oz's stance, invites him back for a candid discussion aimed at unpacking these sentiments further. This episode offers listeners a front-row seat to an authentic dialogue … ## DWC 116: Tantric Wisdom with Dawn Cartwright URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-116-tantric-wisdom-with-dawn-cartwright/ Published: 2024-01-29 Explore love, intimacy, and the human connection with the renowned sex and intimacy expert, Dawn Cartwright. With over three decades of experience, Dawn has guided countless individuals and couples through their transformative journeys, unlocking the secrets to deeper connection, heightened sexuality, and harmonious relationships. Expand your perspectives on modern dating, the challenges of dating fatigue, and the complexities of aging and romance. Dawn sheds light on the mystical practices of Tantra and Neo-Tantra, offering insights into how these ancient teachings can revitalize our intimate lives today. From understanding the balance of giving and receiving to openly communicating desires… ## DWC 115: Psychics and Higher Love with Terrie Huberman URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-115-psychics-and-higher-love-with-terrie-huberman/ Published: 2024-01-22 Delve into the mystical and often debated experience of psychic readings, exploring their role in our quest to discover love and foster healthy relationships. Christina converses with the incredibly gifted Terrie Huberman, a renowned intuitive healer and psychic medium, for a conversation that's both revealing and transformational. Terrie and Christina explore the intricacies of psychic readings, particularly focusing on how to interrupt a reading for clarity or further insight. They delve into the unique challenges and advantages of being an empath and dealing with anxiety, and how these traits can significantly impact your dating life and relationships. Terrie conducts a live relationship … ## DWC 114: Enlightenment in the Bedroom with Elizabeth Willis, PhD. URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-114-enlightenment-in-the-bedroom-with-elizabeth-willis-phd/ Published: 2024-01-09 Elizabeth Willis, PhD, an educator with over twenty years of experience and now the owner of the Institute of New Paradigm Intimacy, collaborates with Christina to dissect the intricacies of dating and open relationships. Elizabeth shares her personal experiences with open relating, providing a unique perspective on this unconventional approach to intimacy. Christina, drawing an intriguing comparison, likens it to the risk of stepping in front of a moving car, pondering the potential impacts on existing relationships. Elizabeth Willis brings a unique blend of expertise to the table. As an educator and speaker to hundreds, she owns a private coaching business and the Institute New Paradigm In… ## DWC 113: Expanding Consciousness with Iván Chocrón URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-113-expanding-consciousness-with-iv%C3%A1n-chocr%C3%B3n/ Published: 2024-01-08 Explore the complex interplay of consciousness and money with Iván Chocrón, the facilitator of a transformative Ayahuasca-Iboga-Ayahuasca ceremony Christina participated in months ago. Iván, having led hundreds of medicine ceremonies over the past decade, possesses deep insights into the human psyche and our societal journey towards healing and evolution. The episode delves into Iván's vast experience, discussing the psychological impact of money, and the financial aspects of ceremonial practices. This intriguing conversation covers seldom-discussed topics, offering listeners a chance to consider new ideas or expand upon their current perspectives. A renowned public speaker and thought leade… ## DWC 112: Real Connections: How 'The Feels' Is Redefining Singles Events with Allie Hoffman URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-112-real-connections-how-the-feels-is-redefining-singles-events-with-allie-hoffman/ Published: 2023-12-22 Christina connects with her peer in the dating scene, Allie Hoffman, the creative mind behind "The Feels" dating experience. They reflect on Christina's journey starting in 2014 as the host of "Underground Unattached" in New York City, an endeavor that paved the way for the creation of WeDeepen.com, a premier platform for top-tier dating and relationship experiences. In the wake of the pandemic, there has been a notable rise in creative, thoughtful, and meticulously planned in-person dating experiences, transforming the landscape of how we build connections. NEW & UPCOMING: 'The Feels' events in Los Angeles, New York City, Philadelphia, and Washington DC are now listed on the calendar at WeD… ## DWC 111: Addiction to Enlightenment: Plant and Animal Medicines with Whitney Lasseter URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-111-addiction-to-enlightenment-plant-and-animal-medicines-with-whitney-lasseter/ Published: 2023-12-19 Whitney Lasseter shares her transformative journey from battling drug addiction to becoming a revered medicine woman. Her path, marked by a life-changing near-death experience, led her from feeling out of place to embracing spirituality, and the healing powers of plant and animal medicines. As the guiding force behind ATMA, a spiritual community in Austin, Whitney orchestrates remarkable events at a beautiful ranch, fostering a sense of belonging and connection. Christina delves into Whitney's personal story, discussing the role of spiritual medicines in finding one's place in the world and aiding others in their quests for intimacy and self-discovery. Toward the end of the episode, Whitney … ## DWC 110: WITNESS & Erotic Transformation with The Emilys URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-110-witness-erotic-transformation-with-the-emilys/ Published: 2023-12-08 Warning: This episode contains explicit content and is intended for mature audiences only. Listener discretion is advised. Dive into an erotic storytelling adventure with The Emilys, celebrated party hosts in Austin's vibrant cultural scene, known for their innovative and pioneering work in the realm of erotic art and self-expression. In this episode, we take you behind the scenes of their groundbreaking, immersive XXX experiences. Discover the allure and transformative power of The Emilys' events, including their renowned joint birthday celebration, UNHOLY, held in March 2023. In this episode, listen firsthand as The Emilys share exclusive, captivating moments from their gatherings and delv… ## DWC 109: Mastering Intimate Relationships with Susan Bratton URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-109-mastering-intimate-relationships-with-susan-bratton/ Published: 2023-11-27 Tune in for a stimulating and insightful discussion with Susan Bratton, renowned 'Intimacy Expert to Millions' and a trailblazer in the field of sexual biohacking. This episode delves into the art of syncing with a partner for intimate moments, from the initial spark of connection. Susan shares enriching tales from her personal ventures with candor and zest, offering priceless guidance for new partners and adeptly managing conversations about STIs. Her approach is both reflective and empowering, arming listeners with the knowledge to gracefully navigate the intricacies of intimacy. She enacts scenarios for disclosing Sexual Infection Diseases (SIDs) and establishing boundaries with prospecti… ## DWC 108: Desire's Classroom: Adult Sex-Ed with Kimi Inch URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-108-desires-classroom-adult-sex-ed-with-kimi-inch/ Published: 2023-11-05 Welcome to "Desire's Classroom," a foray into adult sex education with Kimi Inch's "Something More." Christina recounts her transformative experience with the program, where she embraced her vulnerability, and dominant nature, conquering shame linked to assertiveness and a tender heart. This episode spotlights "Something More's" role in adult sex education, offering singles and couples a chance to connect their desires with reality and expand their imagination in a secure, classroom-style environment in Austin, TX. The program champions the art of attunement, harmonizing energies to express and respect individual fears, desires, and boundaries. "Something More" is a 4-day immersive journey i… ## DWC 107: The Other Side of Ecstasy: Embracing the Forbidden with Stell, aka 'Daddy' URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-107-the-other-side-of-ecstasy-embracing-the-forbidden-with-stell-aka-daddy/ Published: 2023-11-05 Join Christina and Stell, aka 'Daddy', for a riveting conversation as they delve into the enigmatic realms of kink and pleasure. Together, they courageously peel back the layers of what society has long kept hidden. Stell, a respected kink educator, performer, and co-founder of Unbound Collective, is set to join Christina on the 'Mind-Blowing Intimacy' panel at the upcoming Wonderland Conference in Miami, FL In this episode, as they gear up for their conference appearance, Christina and Stell dive into a prelude of what's to come. Listen in as they candidly prep, with the conversation naturally veering into the kinky corridors of Stell's world. Stell recounts the intertwining of her love for… ## DWC 106: Navigating the Waves of Dating with Ken Page URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-106-navigating-the-waves-of-dating-with-ken-page/ Published: 2023-10-23 Christina is joined by Ken Page, LCSW, psychotherapist, and host of the Deeper Dating Podcast. The two dive into the complexities of modern dating, unraveling the challenges and providing invaluable insights to cultivate meaningful relationships. Together, Ken and Christina will be leading The Dating Dojo at the upcoming Wonderland Conference, the premier event for psychedelic medicine, mental health, and longevity. Set in the vibrant heart of Miami from November 9-11, The Dating Dojo will give conference attendees, thought leaders, innovators, and trailblazers, the ability to connect more deeply with each other and learn the skills of deeper dating. In this episode, Ken sheds light on the t… ## DWC 105: Psychedelics, Love & Dating with Daniela Pauli URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-105-psychedelics-love-dating-with-daniela-pauli/ Published: 2023-10-23 Join Christina for a vibrant conversation with Daniela Pauli, a key figure in the psychedelic, mental health, and longevity movement. Focused on Business Development for Microdose Psychedelic and the Wonderland Conference, Daniela provides listeners with a behind-the-scenes glance into the breakthroughs and innovations taking center stage at the upcoming Wonderland Conference. Listen as they share about the highly-anticipated Wonderland Conference, set to take place in Miami, November 9-11, 2023. Discover what attendees can expect and learn about the immersive activations Christina is curating, including The Playful Portal, Dating Dojo, and the riveting Mind-Blowing Intimacy Panel. Currently… ## DWC 104: Creating 'The Love Club' with Sarah Mac URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-104-creating-the-love-club-with-sarah-mac/ Published: 2023-10-19 In this passion-packed episode, Christina engages in an enriching dialogue with the brilliant Sarah Mac, the mastermind coach who played a pivotal role in the birth of 'The Love Club'. Fresh from Burning Man, Christina found herself at Sarah's home, a meeting that would lead to Christina hiring Sarah as her coach. On the podcast, they delve into discussions about living out one's dharma, the heartfelt story of how Sarah met her husband, and their synergistic collaboration in designing The Love Club. 'The Love Club' is a transformative 6-month experience curated to ignite your intimacy journey. Combining one-to-many matchmaking, relationship education, and unwavering dedication to your love g… ## DWC 103: Dating, Ratings and Reality TV with Lauren Clark URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-103-dating-ratings-and-reality-tv-with-lauren-clark/ Published: 2023-10-09 Join Christina and stand-up comedian Lauren Clark as they share their experience on the reality TV show "Ex-Rated". Hosted by Andy Cohen and sexologist Shan Boodram, this Peacock show intends to help singles confront relationship issues by enduring ratings from their exes. Along with Christina's friend and reality TV enthusiast, Angel Velarde, they break down the show, discuss modern dating, and share updates on their love lives since the airing of "Ex-Rated" in 2021. Follow Lauren's dating adventures on Instagram at @laurenscomedystuff and join Christina's journey on Instagram @christinaweber and @wedeepen. Don't miss out on the upcoming experiences on WeDeepen, including the Unleash! Trans… ## DWC 102: From Envy to Empowerment with Aimee Batuski & Ellie Montgomerie URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-102-from-envy-to-empowerment-with-aimee-batuski-ellie-montgomerie/ Published: 2023-10-02 Dive into this riveting episode of Deepen with Christina as we sit down with the dynamic duo, Aimee Batuski and Ellie Montgomerie, co-founders of Desire on Fire. With a community that stretches across the globe, these trailblazing visionaries have transformed the lives of over 15,000 women, guiding them toward deeper intimacy, profound connections, and a rediscovery of pleasure. From navigating the bustling streets of NYC to building multi-million dollar businesses, both Aimee and Ellie seemed to have it all. Yet, beneath the surface, they battled with self-worth, body image, and complex relationships. It was their unyielding spirit and shared vision that brought them together, cementing a p… ## DWC 101: Conflicting Desires & Wisdom of Kabbalah with David Ghiyam URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-101-conflicting-desires-wisdom-of-kabbalah-with-david-ghiyam/ Published: 2023-09-21 In a candid conversation with Kabbalah teacher David Ghiyam, Christina dives into the intricacies of love, the paradox of desire, and the soul's true calling. They challenge traditional concepts of soulmates, confront conflicting desires, and highlight the transformative power of spiritual awareness. Whether you're seeking insights on love or the deeper purpose of life's journey, this episode delivers sharp, soul-stirring revelations. Follow David @davidghiyam and dive deeper into Kabbalah at kabbalahone.com. Join Christina's journey on Instagram @christinaweber and @wedeepen. Discover more about the events Christina highlighted: SolarPunk Summit (Oct 12-15) in Kingsbury, TX, Desire on Fire … ## DWC 100: Love Isn't Blind with Allison Goldberg URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-100-love-isnt-blind-with-allison-goldberg/ Published: 2023-09-16 Join us for the momentous 100th episode of Christina's podcast! For this landmark episode, Christina hosts the exceptionally talented Allison Goldberg, performer, creator, and named as one of Time Out NY's "top 10 funniest women." Together, they embark on a heartfelt exploration of love, dating, and the comedic misadventures that come with them. Christina and Allison share candid tales from their own love journeys, inviting listeners into their world of relatable romance escapades and vulnerable moments. Allison unveils exclusive insights into her renowned interactive show, "Love Isn't Blind," where silence speaks louder than words, and love is put through delightfully unpredictable challeng… ## DWC 099: Beyond the Whip: Conscious Kink with Kimi Inch URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-099-beyond-the-whip-conscious-kink-with-kimi-inch/ Published: 2023-09-11 Curious about conscious kink and BDSM? Journey with Christina and special guest Kimi Inch, The Creatrix of Erotic Leadership™. In this enlightening episode, Kimi Inch recounts her path from her initial exploration into the world of eroticism to establishing herself as a respected professional dominatrix and kink educator. Through stories from her intimate 1:1 sessions, she reveals how conscious intimacy can serve as a profound source of healing and access to erotic wellness. From delving into the intricacies of fetishes to the challenges and joys of rekindling passion in relationships, Christina and Kimi Inch illuminate the depth and nuances of conscious kink. They highlight its potential to… ## DWC 098: Burning Man 2023 - Adversity and Awakening with Natalie Nava Vie URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-098-burning-man-2023-adversity-and-awakening-with-natalie-nava-vie/ Published: 2023-09-04 "Thousands stranded at Burning Man due to unexpected downpours," is a headline making the rounds from CNN to local news channels. Christina, alongside her playa best friend and World Champion Fencer, Natalie Nava Vie, give an insider's perspective live from Burning Man 2023. Beyond the challenges of the rain, they discuss the deeper transformative power of Burning Man, its role in expanding neural pathways, and the complexities of choice, where sometimes the hardest answer is almost a "yes." Dive into their tales of adversity, enlightenment, and the spirit of unity. Connect with Natalie on Instagram @supersonicnava and with Christina @christinaweber and @wedeepen. Did you enjoy this episode?… ## DWC 097: Ink Your Legacy - Write a Bestselling Book with MeiMei Fox URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-097-ink-your-legacy-write-a-bestselling-book-with-meimei-fox/ Published: 2023-08-28 Ever dreamt of becoming a published author? Join this captivating conversation with Christina and 2x New York Times Bestselling Author and Stanford-trained psychologist, MeiMei Fox. With an extensive portfolio spanning over a dozen non-fiction books and nearly 1,000 articles for prestigious platforms like Forbes and Huffington Post, MeiMei's 25-year dedication to literature is evident. Since 2009, she's empowered high-performers, and her invaluable expertise illuminates the "Your Bestselling Book" accelerator program, debuting on September 18, 2023. Blending her profound love for writing with high-performance coaching, MeiMei unveils a six-week program tailored for the next wave of successfu… ## DWC 096: Christina Weber's Intimate Reflections URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-096-christina-webers-intimate-reflections/ Published: 2023-08-22 In this intimate solo episode, Christina bares her soul, providing listeners with a candid glimpse into her current emotions and experiences. As she navigates pivotal transitions, from personal relationships to evolving business directions, she offers a rare view into her inner world. Dive deeper with Christina and explore more of her initiatives with WeDeepen. Check out wedeepen.com and stay updated by following @christinaweber and @wedeepen on Instagram. Embark on a transformative journey of self-awareness and personal evolution with insights on relationships and the innovative 'Love Club.' Continue tuning into 'Deepen with Christina' and join us in person for meaningful, real-life connect… ## DWC 095: Delving Deep into Love, Loss, and Self-Connection with Anna Bliss URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-095-delving-deep-into-love-loss-and-self-connection-with-anna-bliss/ Published: 2023-08-10 In this heartfelt episode, Christina sits down with Anna Bliss, a holistic healing and transformation coach, to unravel the complexities of breakups, love, and the journey to self-healing. The two dive deep into the experiences that scar us, the patterns that bind us, and the avenues to healing our broken hearts. Show Highlights: Introduction: Christina introduces Anna Bliss and her impressive credentials in holistic healing, manifestation techniques, hypnotherapy, chakra balancing, and more. Wounding Patterns: Anna explains how past relationships, traumas, and experiences can lead to repeated wounding patterns and how recognizing them is the first step to healing. Diving Deeper into Self-Lo… ## DWC 094: Currency of Love: Navigating Money & Relationships with Amanda Young URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-094-currency-of-love-navigating-money-relationships-with-amanda-young/ Published: 2023-08-07 In a digital era where personal stories and vulnerabilities are shared with a click, a compelling query emerged in the Esther Perel Discussion Group on Facebook: "How do you handle vulnerable discussions about finances while dating?" Diving deep into the intricacies of money, success, and relationships, Christina teams up with Amanda Young, a tantra and goddess archetype teacher, to vulnerably explore and discuss the intertwined worlds of wealth and romance. In this episode: Explore the age-old archetypes: Women as receivers and men as penetrators. Discover the story of Oshun and her honeypot, symbolizing divinity, femininity, and love. Dive into the challenges and rewards of being a female … ## DWC 093: Cosmic Love Languages: Navigating Zodiac Compatibility with Rebecca Gordon URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-093-cosmic-love-languages-navigating-zodiac-compatibility-with-rebecca-gordon/ Published: 2023-07-31 Journey into the astral realms of love and connection with renowned astrologer Rebecca Gordon. Known for her unique ability to translate cosmic symbols into practical wisdom, Rebecca has made a name for herself as the founder of a 20-year running Astrology School, author of 'Your Body and the Stars', and resident astrologer for Harper's Bazaar. Together with Amanda Young, a tantra and goddess archetype teacher, Rebecca will be co-hosting the upcoming workshops, "Tantra & The Stars" and "Embody Your Inner Goddess" offered through the WeDeepen Network. To learn more about these empowering workshops, subscribe at wedeepen.com. In this episode, Rebecca and Christina delve into the astrology of l… ## DWC 092: Love-God Connection with Ssanyu Birigwa, M.S. URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-092-love-god-connection-with-ssanyu-birigwa-ms/ Published: 2023-07-24 Dive into an enlightening discussion with Ssanyu Birigwa, M.S., a proud descendant of Ugandan bone healers and a globally renowned authority on health and spirituality. Explore the art of intuitive listening – to our bodies and to the divine. Engage in an authentic dialogue about navigating the path of love, discerning fear, and understanding the nuanced difference between God and Love. It's a candid and insightful discourse guaranteed to enhance your grasp of healing, the power of narrative, and the richness of ancestral wisdom. Plus, don't miss the brainstorming session on hosting silent intimate gatherings! Ssanyu, a Narrative Medicine Clinician, Indigenous Bone Healer, and Adjunct Profes… ## DWC 091: Kinky Rabbit Club with Alina & Eyal URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-091-kinky-rabbit-club-with-alina-eyal/ Published: 2023-07-17 The landscape of adult social events in the U.S. is evolving, with the rise of "Conscious Play Parties" in places like LA and Austin. These gatherings stand apart from typical swinger parties, characterized by their meticulously chosen guest lists, a strong emphasis on consent, and an assortment of performances, holistic activities, creativity, and education focused on intimacy. In this episode, Christina delves into a compelling discussion with Alina & Eyal, the founders of LA's renowned Kinky Rabbit Club. Together for 11 years and parents to a young child, their relationship serves as an example of positive relational dynamics. Both were independently interested in kink and sexual explorat… ## DWC 90: Unconventional Perspectives on Love with Steve Makohin URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-90-unconventional-perspectives-on-love-with-steve-makohin/ Published: 2023-07-10 In this insightful episode, we welcome a special guest, Steve Makohin, a significant contributor to the thriving Esther Perel Discussion Group on Facebook, which boasts over 15,000 members. Steve, a two-time divorcee and once-participant in a swingers lifestyle, now finds himself in a non-traditional relationship and identifies as single. His intriguing relationship journey has been a wellspring of unique perspectives on love, commitment, and the elements of a successful relationship. At 63, Steve's personal experiences combined with his ongoing journey of inner work and healing, which commenced in 2008, offer listeners a remarkable blend of wisdom and honesty. He opens up about his use of t… ## DWC 089: Simplifying Love with Eva Clay URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-089-simplifying-love-with-eva-clay/ Published: 2023-07-03 Dive into the realm of simplicity in this conversation between Christina and Eva Clay, a renowned somatic psychotherapist, sexologist, and co-founder of the widely celebrated Deep Dance event held weekly in Los Angeles. Experience the intricate journey of Eva, who embraced polyamory following a decade-long monogamous relationship, only to find her way back to monogamy. She candidly explores the ensuing chaos, her resistance to love, and the ultimate shift to subtlety that allowed love to permeate her life again. As WeDeepen's momentum amplifies and with the company's ambition to grow, Christina explores her quest for simplicity across all facets of her existence. Echoing the wisdom of the 23… ## DWC 088: Mastering Uncertainty with Indy Rishi Singh URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-088-mastering-uncertainty-with-indy-rishi-singh/ Published: 2023-06-26 Join Christina for a captivating conversation with Indy Rishi Singh, a fellow host on the WeDeepen Network and presenter of the acclaimed Political Hope podcast. The duo delve into the intricacies of detachment and release, discussing the pursuit of solidity amidst life's unpredictable waves. They contrast the Western penchant for absolute knowledge with Eastern acceptance of the unknown. Indy, an adherent of Sikhism, imparts his insights on the Dharmic religion's philosophies pertaining to existence and love, his personal experiences working in the United States government, and the historical background of Sikhism. Amidst their spirited exchange, Christina reveals her personal journey since… ## DWC 087: Living with Friends with Jen Esteban URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-087-living-with-friends-with-jen-esteban/ Published: 2023-06-19 In this enriching episode, Christina talks with Jen Esteban, the vibrant and insightful founder of FriendsMates.com. Known for her candidness and progressive perspective, Jen guides us through the ins and outs of co-living with friends. Jen, along with her significant other, lives in a shared community with friends. This unconventional yet harmonious setup provides a powerful platform for personal growth and relational skill-building. She offers a deep-dive into the practicalities of organizing households, sharing bills, and acknowledging the value of the work done by those running the household. Throughout the candid conversation, Jen emphasizes the transformative power of living with frien… ## DWC 086: Conscious Threesoming with Sydney Rousseau URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-086-conscious-threesoming-with-sydney-rousseau/ Published: 2023-06-12 Have you ever fantasized about watching your partner engage in sex with someone else? What emotions and thoughts did it invoke? Driven by curiosity to understand this taboo experience, Christina posed the question in the Esther Perel Discussion Group on Facebook. Among all the responses, one by Sydney Rousseau caught her attention, "Ooh! Yes please! I am highly visual when it comes to sex. Watching my partner with another woman was so erotic for me. I got to see (and admire) him from a different perspective. His facial expressions, his touch, all of it, was such a turn on. I don't know if I can even put it into words. His confidence with another woman was empowering and intoxicating. My trus… ## DWC 085: Jewish Matchmaking with Harmonie Krieger URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-085-jewish-matchmaking-with-harmonie-krieger/ Published: 2023-06-04 In this candid and engaging episode, Christina and Harmonie Krieger, recently featured on Netflix's 'Jewish Matchmaking,' take you on their personal journeys towards motherhood. Both women, in their 40s, navigate the complexities and challenges of dating with refreshing honesty and wit. They reveal their rollercoaster of highs and lows from dating experiences and share valuable lessons learned. Christina offers an exclusive look into WeDeepen's new matchmaking experience, The Playful Portal, sharing a successful match she made recently. Plus, she candidly updates listeners on the latest happenings in her love life. In exciting news, Harmonie is launching her new podcast, Life with Harmonie. … ## DWC 084: Erotic Exploration with Elle Eminense URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-084-erotic-exploration-with-elle-eminense/ Published: 2023-05-29 Driven by her curiosity and erotic desires, Elle found herself in perilous situations at an early age. At just 21, she was trafficked in San Francisco, lured by a pimp she met on the internet. Now, Elle is an impassioned activist advocating for a positive perspective on eroticism. With courage and vulnerability, she shares her story, from her traumatic childhood to her journey toward embracing sexuality. Elle offers a framework for fostering enriching sexual experiences, emphasizing self-knowledge, communication, community support, and intentionality. In conversation with Christina, Elle delves into the complexities and occasional discord that can occur during sexual interactions, providing … ## DWC 083: Love Bombing with Mark Shapiro URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-083-love-bombing-with-mark-shapiro/ Published: 2023-05-22 How far will you go to show your love? Join us as we dive into an extraordinary journey with Mark Shapiro, who has been faithfully sending personalized video birthday messages to each of his Facebook friends for over seven years. Christina, intrigued by Mark's commitment, probes into the how and why of this unique ritual. Mark provides an inside look into the complex social dynamics he navigates, and reveals magical moments that have sprung from this birthday practice. Driven by a fervor for staying connected and spreading affection, Mark developed Love Bomb, an app designed to remind you of important dates for your loved ones and to prompt you to reach out and express words of affirmation. … ## DWC 082: Rites of Passage and Storytelling with Leah Lamb URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-082-rites-of-passage-and-storytelling-with-leah-lamb/ Published: 2023-05-08 In this captivating episode, Christina candidly sits down with Leah Lamb, an award-winning storyteller and founder of The School for Sacred Storytelling, to explore the transformative potential of storytelling as a tool for personal growth. As they delve deep into the art of sacred storytelling, Leah shares her unique approach to unlocking the power of our personal narratives, offering insights and inspiration that will help you tap into your own true potential and what you desire in love. They also discuss rights of passages and life initiation as necessary steps towards earning what you desire most. But that's not all - in this intimate conversation, Christina and Leah also vulnerably spea… ## DWC 081: Kink Fantasies & Amrita with Francesca Gentille URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-081-kink-fantasies-amrita-with-francesca-gentille/ Published: 2023-05-01 Christina discusses rape fantasies and kink with renowned sexuality expert, Francesca Gentille. Francesca, who first appeared on episode 030, brings her wealth of knowledge to the conversation as they delve into the topic of kinky sexual desires. They also explore the power of Amrita, a sexual fluid secreted during adult play, the importance of owning your desires, and the role of hormones in shaping one's sexual preferences. This candid and insightful conversation was inspired by episode 074, "Hedoné Adult Sensual Retreat: Exploring Conscious Sexuality," in which it was revealed that more than 50% of women have had a rape fantasy. It is an important discussion that sheds light on a topic th… ## DWC 080: Ayahuasca-Iboga with Nicole Derseweh URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-080-ayahuasca-iboga-with-nicole-derseweh/ Published: 2023-04-24 In the last few decades, there has been a growing interest in the potential benefits of various plants and substances, including LSD, psilocybin, "magic" mushrooms, ayahuasca, and iboga. In this episode, Christina shares her first-hand experience with iboga, which she tried during a 5-day ceremonial retreat that also involved ayahuasca. Joined by her friend, Nicole Derseweh, a well-known chef, author, and healer, Christina reflects on her journey and newfound perspective. The conversation is candid and insightful, offering listeners a glimpse into the transformative power of plant medicine. If you'd like to learn more about Nicole's work, please visit linktr.ee/Nicolederseweh, and follow her… ## DWC 079: Conscious Love with Naweïa Wilder URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-079-conscious-love-with-nawe%C3%AFa-wilder/ Published: 2023-04-17 Introducing Naweïa Wilder, a young and adept healer who has dedicated her life to the art of healing. Despite her traumatic childhood experiences, Naweïa has channeled her pain into a powerful drive to assist others in healing and transforming their lives to attain the love they know is possible. In this episode, Christina and Naweïa delve deeply into the realm of conscious love, sharing their personal experiences candidly on topics such as love, ego dissolution, jealousy, and kink, and how these factors can affect our relationships. Drawing from their unique perspectives, Naweïa and Christina offer insightful perspectives and practical advice on overcoming limiting beliefs that obstruct our… ## DWC 078: Surviving Unimaginable Trauma with Aziza Kibibi URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-078-surviving-unimaginable-trauma-with-aziza-kibibi/ Published: 2023-04-10 In this powerful podcast episode, Christina talks with Aziza Kibibi, sister of Christina's late friend Om Bomani Ayinde, who tragically took his own life in 2016. As they delve into Om's past, Christina uncovers a history of trauma rooted in the siblings' childhood. Aziza, an author, podcaster, activist, and survivor, bravely shares her experiences of abuse at the hands of her father, Aswad Ayinde, including incest, sexual assault, pedophilia, rape, sodomy, and physical violence. Aswad, the director of The Fugees' award-winning video for "Killing Me Softly," is currently serving a 90-year prison sentence for his crimes. Glamour magazine has described the facts of this story as "dark and deep… ## DWC 077: Touching Matters with Aviva Mohilner URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-077-touching-matters-with-aviva-mohilner/ Published: 2023-04-03 In this episode, Christina sits down with Aviva Mohilner, founder of HELD, a platonic touch group experience, to explore the power of touch as a means of communicating distinct emotions. They delve into the topic of touch deprivation, a widespread issue in American society, and discuss potential ways to overcome it. Along the way, the two friends share personal stories about their love lives, bisexuality, and cuddle events. Join them for a candid and thought-provoking conversation about the importance of touch in our lives. To learn more about Aviva's offerings, visit HELD's website at weareheld.com and follow her and HELD on Instagram @avivamo and @weareheld. To connect with Christina and e… ## DWC 076: Investor Insights: Aspen's Approach to Investing in WeDeepen URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-076-investor-insights-aspens-approach-to-investing-in-wedeepen/ Published: 2023-03-27 Live from Aboutly training in Texas, join Christina as she chats with entrepreneur, investor, and advisor Aspen about WeDeepen's journey. Aspen shares her experience as an investor, including how she sold her first business, and discusses how and why she came to invest in WeDeepen. The episode also covers the appropriate personal information to share with an investor and features plenty of vulnerable moments. Despite being primarily focused on in-person events, WeDeepen raised $100,000 in seed funding months before the pandemic, with half of the funding coming from Christina's father and the other half from entrepreneur advisor Aspen. To learn more about Aspen, you can connect with her on Li… ## DWC 075: Love and Politics with Christopher Life URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-075-love-and-politics-with-christopher-life/ Published: 2023-03-20 In this captivating podcast episode, Christopher Life, the founder of the Independent National Union, joins Christina to explore the intersection of love and politics. In today's political climate, the "us vs. them" mentality has resulted in increased fear and division. But could love be the solution? Christopher and Christina discuss the upcoming Independent National Convention, taking place in Austin, TX from April 3-5. They share the convention's purpose and significance, including the "Love and Politics" panel and roundtable with renowned figures such as Charles Eisenstein, Del Bigtree, Avrum Weiss, Stefanos Sifandos, Zach Bush, and Dpak Future, which will be presented by WeDeepen and Ch… ## DWC 074: Hedoné Adult Sensual Retreat: Exploring Conscious Sexuality with Lola Toscano URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-074-hedon%C3%A9-adult-sensual-retreat-exploring-conscious-sexuality-with-lola-toscano/ Published: 2023-03-13 In this episode, Christina interviews Lola Toscano, the founder of Hedoné, a European-style adult sensual retreat that promotes ethical hedonism and supports victims of female genital mutilation through its NGO project, LOVE THE FLOWER. Lola shares her childhood story, which inspired her to create containers for sexuality to be explored through the feminine. She also talks about the origins of Hedoné and its mission to provide a safe and conscious space for individuals to discover sexuality. Hedoné is coming to Austin, TX on March 22-27, 2023, and listeners can use the promo code WEDEEPEN to join. Tune in to learn more about the importance of conscious sexuality education and the benefits of… ## DWC 073: Owning Your Sexual Desires with Yossef Sagi URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-073-owning-your-sexual-desires-with-yossef-sagi/ Published: 2023-03-06 Christina is joined by Master Coach Yossef Sagi to discuss how to communicate about sex from the beginning of a connection to avoid miscommunications and move beyond sexual shame. The two explore frameworks like "Fears, Desires, Boundaries" and R.D.B.S.M (Relationship, Desires, Boundaries, Sexual Health, and Meaning/Aftercare), which empower people to explore intimacy with consent and clarity. They delve into taboo topics like herpes, kink, and non-traditional relationships, moving beyond identity traps including labels like "monogamy" and "polyamory." Christina and Yossef agree on a desire for sexual sovereignty, and share their experiences with "play parties." Listeners can learn about Yos… ## DWC 072: Dating in the Mythic Dimension with Alorah Inanna URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-072-dating-in-the-mythic-dimension-with-alorah-inanna/ Published: 2023-02-27 In this episode, Christina sits down with Alorah Inanna, an intimacy guide and coach with over 40 years of experience in helping couples and singles navigate spiritually-guided relationships. As Christina expands her offerings to include private matchmaking, she enlists Alorah's expertise in this area, and they explore introducing couples in the Mythic Dimension, creating never-before-experienced experiences, moving people beyond the judgmental mind and into seeing "the one" within all ones. Alorah shares insights on reframing boundaries and remaining sovereign in a relationship, emphasizing the importance of choosing partners based on trust in their being. She also speaks about eradicating … ## DWC 071: Meet a Party Coach with Evan Cudworth URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-071-meet-a-party-coach-with-evan-cudworth/ Published: 2023-02-20 Join Christina in a dynamic and authentic conversation with Evan Cudworth, the "Party Coach," as they explore what it means to truly enjoy oneself. With a recent feature in the LA Times, Evan's business is booming, and he shares his insights on exiting the corporate grind to live a fulfilling life. Despite the sadness of losing a friend, Christina and Evan explore the state of wonder beyond human suffering. Evan's expertise lies in helping people create balanced lives and authentic connections. He shares his experiences navigating sobriety, while still enjoying the social scene. Tune in to discover how to have fun at parties while staying sober and how to connect with people on a deeper leve… ## DWC 070: How to Love Men with Dr. Avrum Weiss URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-070-how-to-love-men-with-dr-avrum-weiss/ Published: 2023-02-06 Join Christina as she sits down with award-winning author, speaker, and psychotherapy expert, Dr. Avrum Weiss, to dive into the intricacies of relationships in a special episode of "Deepen with Christina." In this enlightening episode, Dr. Weiss shares his extensive knowledge of the difference between how men and women operate, and how to access compatibility to establish healthy, thriving relationships. With a focus on helping women understand men and their inner lives, Dr. Weiss delves into the subject matter of his latest book, "Hidden in Plain Sight: How Men's Fears of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships." Don't miss this chance to deepen your understanding of relationships and gain… ## DWC 069: Shop & Shag with Yarixa Ferrao URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-069-shop-shag-with-yarixa-ferrao/ Published: 2023-01-30 Uncover the Hottest Hook-Up Spot in L.A.! Shop & Shag takes over Aisle 6 at Erewhon Supermarket - Join us as we delve into the story behind this buzz-worthy singles gathering. Christina, the creator of Shop & Shag, sits down with a friend and frequent guest Yarixa Ferrao of Unleash! to spill the tea on the media frenzy and how it's impacting WeDeepen's private matchmaking initiatives. Get ready for a juicy discussion on love, relationships, and personal growth. Don't miss this entertaining episode! Join the WeDeepen Matchmaking Database to inquire about becoming a private client or be matched with our current clients here. View and register for experiences here. Follow Yarixa at @coachyari a… ## DWC 068: Why Become Famous with Ramon Hervey II URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-068-why-become-famous-with-ramon-hervey-ii/ Published: 2023-01-23 Get ready for a fascinating journey into the entertainment industry with legendary Hollywood entertainment manager and publicist, Ramon Hervey II. In this special episode, Ramon shares stories from his 40-year career, which includes his work with Little Richard, Bette Midler, Bee Gees, Aaliyah, Rick James, and Vanessa Williams. Discover how fame has evolved over the decades and how social media is changing the game. Good friends, Ramon and Christina, reminisce about the past and share a few laughs. Hear Ramon's concerns about Christina's film project about pursuing a date with Jim Carrey that she passed up years ago. Don't miss his juicy and addictive retrospective, follow Ramon on Instagram… ## DWC 067: Befriending the Ku Klux Klan with Daryl Davis URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-067-befriending-the-ku-klux-klan-with-daryl-davis/ Published: 2023-01-16 Are you ready to revolutionize the way you approach conflict resolution? Look no further! Join Christina as she shares the story of Daryl Davis, a black musician who has made it his life's mission to understand and dismantle hate and bigotry. Fueled by his own experiences with prejudice, Daryl has taken a unique and courageous approach, forming unlikely friendships with members of the Ku Klux Klan and attending their rallies. Through this powerful and eye-opening interview, Christina will delve into Daryl's incredible story, uncovering the valuable lessons he has learned and the powerful methods he has discovered for promoting harmony on our planet. Don't miss this chance to learn from one o… ## DWC 066: Unlock Your Brain's Neuroplasticity with Dr. Patrick Porter URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-066-unlock-your-brains-neuroplasticity-with-dr-patrick-porter/ Published: 2023-01-09 Are you seeking greater satisfaction and contentment in your life? Mass programming may try to hold you back, but with the proper knowledge and tools, you can take control. In this podcast, Christina interviews Dr. Patrick K. Porter, PhD, the founder and CEO of BrainTap, about the concept of brain wave synchronization using both light and sound, and how BrainTap and WeDeepen can collaborate. Dr. Porter also shares his personal story and expert insights on the three pillars of biohacking: nutrition, physicality, and brain health. With 32 years of experience in brainwave entrainment technology, Dr. Porter has developed a system and device that uses Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and light … ## DWC 065: Being Unoffendable & Clowning Around with Jet Eveleth URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-065-being-unoffendable-clowning-around-with-jet-eveleth/ Published: 2023-01-02 Join us for an inspiring conversation with Jet Eveleth, a performer, trained clown, and the creator of the popular interactive experience, Clown Church. Based in Los Angeles, Jet shares her unique insights on spirituality, kindness, and the art of turning tragedy into comedy, as well as her personal practice of being unoffendable. Discover the transformative power of Clown Church, an interactive experience that has received rave reviews, described as an opportunity to find your natural humor through improv and interactive play, without judgment. Participants have shared their incredible experiences in Clown Church, like "open-soul surgery" (ZAY WEAVER), "I can honestly say that I've never ex… ## DWC 064: Why Live with "What Ifs?" with David Seth Cohen URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-064-why-live-with-what-ifs-with-david-seth-cohen/ Published: 2022-12-26 Are you curious about the lengths one would go to meet their hero? Join David Seth Cohen, a multi-talented filmmaker, as he shares the 20-year journey of creating his film, Finding Sandler, which details his quest to have a drink with the one and only Adam Sandler. David and Christina engage in lively banter about their time working together, resiliency, and Christina's own missed opportunity with Jim Carrey. This podcast offers not only a captivating story but also unique insight into the film industry and the determination it takes to turn a dream into a reality. Discover more about David at davidsethcohen.com and follow him on IG at @davidsethcohen. Connect with Christina on IG at @christ… ## DWC 063: Beyond Headlines: A Quest to Understand Mental Health and Media Propaganda with Derek Lewis Gray URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-063-beyond-headlines-a-quest-to-understand-mental-health-and-media-propaganda-with-derek-lewis-gray/ Published: 2022-12-19 Christina and her childhood friend, Derek Lewis Gray, explore sensitive and important topics that will challenge your perspectives and inspire you to deepen your thinking. In this episode, Christina and Derek dive into the unexpected and suspicious death of beloved star Stephen "tWitch" Boss, and how it led them to connect with each other and have a profound conversation about mental health, stigmas, and media representation. This episode stems from a Facebook post where the two initially saw disagreement, but instead of typing back and forth, they stopped the text thread and scheduled a Zoom call. This is an intimate and vulnerable discussion that touches on sensitive material, where both C… ## DWC 062: Loving After Divorce with Dilia Jelen URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-062-loving-after-divorce-with-dilia-jelen/ Published: 2022-12-12 Are you ready to be inspired and moved by a powerful story of transformation and resilience? Then listen to this must-hear podcast featuring Dilia Jelen, a trailblazer in the world of providing education, healing, and love to children in need. Dilia, once the Director of Marketing and a full-time volunteer alongside her former husband, was at the forefront of changing the lives of over 13,000 kids in 29 countries through her work with organizations ARTEAMOR and The Orphaned Starfish Foundation. But when her marriage ended, she found herself without money and in a dark place. But Dilia didn't let that defeat her. Through her own healing journey, Dilia has now returned to her passion project, … ## DWC 061: Exploring Belonging & Scarcity with Charles Eisenstein & Aspen Veronica URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-061-exploring-belonging-scarcity-with-charles-eisenstein-aspen-veronica/ Published: 2022-12-05 Are you ready to dive into a thought-provoking conversation about some of the most pressing issues of our time? In this episode, host Christina Weber sits down with renowned philosopher Charles Eisenstein, author of acclaimed books such as "The More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know is Possible" and "Sacred Economics," and brilliant entrepreneur Aspen Veronica. Together, they explore topics such as belonging, scarcity, and the subtle nuances of receiving and sharing. Listen in as they delve into Charles' take on polyamory vs. monogamy and the role of entrepreneurship in empowering those around us. They also discuss the "Crisis of Belonging" as a root issue in our era, and touch on public figur… ## DWC 060: Unleashing Transformation: The Power of Asking for Help with Yarixa Ferrao URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-060-unleashing-transformation-the-power-of-asking-for-help-with-yarixa-ferrao/ Published: 2022-11-28 Unlock the power of asking for help with Christina and Yarixa Ferrao of the Unleash! Transformational Festival. Discover their top 13 go-to modalities for achieving personal growth and transformation, including coaching, therapy, EFT, EMDR, self-discovery tools, healthy relationships and community, psychedelics, body talk, NLP, theta healing, somatic healing, movement, and more. Join the conversation as Christina and Yarixa open up about their own struggles with asking for help, and share where they need help in their lives today. Plus, learn how you can access exclusive matchmaking and relationship coaching with Christina, and discover a calendar of life-changing social and transformational… ## DWC 059: The Power of Gratitude: How to Overcome Adversity and Thrive with Napoleon Gratitude URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-059-the-power-of-gratitude-how-to-overcome-adversity-and-thrive-with-napoleon-gratitude/ Published: 2022-11-21 Unlock the secrets to a more fulfilling love life and transform your relationships with a renowned expert in the field. Join Christina Weber, founder of WeDeepen, as she visits Los Angeles to host "The Dating Dojo" and sits down for an intimate and inspiring conversation with Napoleon Gratitude, a successful entrepreneur who has overcome bankruptcy and suicidal thoughts through the power of gratitude. In this powerful episode, Christina and Napoleon will delve into the transformative power of gratitude and how it can change your life. Napoleon will share his personal story and the daily messages of inspiration he sends through his popular Gratitude circle, offering a unique perspective on ho… ## DWC 058: Breaking the Cycle: Understanding and Overcoming Relationship Patterns with Maya Diamond URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-058-breaking-the-cycle-understanding-and-overcoming-relationship-patterns-with-maya-diamond/ Published: 2022-11-14 Are you tired of constantly navigating the ups and downs of relationships? Look no further! In this episode, Relationship Expert Maya Diamond of 'Empower Love' joins Christina to uncover the underlying reasons why couples in the United States break up every 13 seconds. Through their personal experiences producing dating events and diving deep into topics such as ghosting, attachment theory, and the pressure for men to make women happy, Maya and Christina will equip you with the tools to ask bold questions, understand your needs, and confidently express your truth in any relationship. Don't miss out! Visit EmpowerLove.us to learn more about Maya's coaching programs, and mention WeDeepen for 1… ## DWC 057: Harnessing the Power of the Menstrual Cycle for Productivity with Layla El Khadri URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-057-harnessing-the-power-of-the-menstrual-cycle-for-productivity-with-layla-el-khadri/ Published: 2022-11-07 Unlock the power of potential and elevate your life with Layla El Khadri, a renowned expert in human potential and personal development. Layla has dedicated her life to uncovering the secrets of living a fulfilling, happy life. She shares her wisdom and guidance with both men and women on this episode, as she dives into the topic of masculine and feminine energy in the workplace and how it can be harnessed to improve productivity and balance. Join Layla and Christina as they explore the power of the menstrual cycle, and how it can be used to unlock new levels of creativity and success. Learn to build a more integrated and balanced future for yourself, in your career and in your life. For tho… ## DWC 056: Love in the Digital Age: An Inspiring Story with Rachele Brooke Smith & Emilio Palafox URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-056-love-in-the-digital-age-an-inspiring-story-with-rachele-brooke-smith-emilio-palafox/ Published: 2022-10-31 Are you ready to unlock the secrets to a thriving and meaningful relationship? Join host Christina Weber as she sits down with Rachele Brooke Smith and Emilio Palafox, a dynamic duo who have found true love and success in partnership. As they share their heartwarming origin story, discover the unique insights and concepts they have used to cultivate their connection. Listen in as Rachele and Emilio share how they first connected on Instagram, the bold questions that drew them closer, and how they aligned in partnership. Christina also delves into deeper topics like the role of self-work, divine timing, and the soul's journey in relationships. As founders of @relationship.renegades, a movemen… ## DWC 055: Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus: An In-depth Look at Gender Roles with Dr. John Gray URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-055-men-are-from-mars-women-are-from-venus-an-in-depth-look-at-gender-roles-with-dr-john-gray/ Published: 2022-10-24 Are you tired of the same old arguments and misunderstandings with your significant other? Want to understand the unique emotional needs of men and women, and improve your relationships? Look no further! Join Coach Imari Tuakli and Christina as they sit down with renowned expert Dr. John Gray, author of the bestselling book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and several other books on the topic. With over 40 years of experience studying and teaching about gender dynamics, Dr. Gray is a world-renowned authority on relationships. In this episode of WeDeepen's Yes, And..., Dr. Gray delves into the topic of gender roles, communication, intimacy, and how understanding the differences betwee… ## DWC 054: From First Conversations to Lifelong Love with Gay & Katie Hendricks URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-054-from-first-conversations-to-lifelong-love-with-gay-katie-hendricks/ Published: 2022-10-17 Want to know how to start a powerful and epic relationship? Look no further than Gay and Katie Hendricks. These relationship role models have over 40 years of experience in conscious loving, and it all began with an honest and bold invitation from Gay. In this episode, we explore the origin story of their relationship and how it set the foundation for a lifetime of growth and success. Imari Tuakli, a speaker and coach, joins us as we delve into the Hendricks's story, and discover how they began their relationship with a powerful and epic conversation. Listen and learn how they set clear boundaries and committed to honesty and creativity from the very start. Don't miss out on this opportunity… ## DWC 053: Navigating Conflict in Community: A Restorative Justice Approach with Meleza Morris URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-053-navigating-conflict-in-community-a-restorative-justice-approach-with-meleza-morris/ Published: 2022-10-10 Are you tired of feeling stuck in relational conflict? Want to learn how to navigate difficult situations with the support of your community? Look no further than this episode of the We Deepen podcast, where we sit down with Meleza Morris, a renowned intimacy coach and coordinator. Meleza has extensive experience in film, television, and diversity and inclusion, and was a member of the healing support team at the recent Unleash! Transformational Festival. In this episode, Meleza shares her personal experience of being assaulted at the festival one year ago and her call for the creation of a 'Restorative Justice' process. Alongside host Christina, Meleza delves into the concept of Restorative… ## DWC 052: The Intimate Journey of a Start-up Founder URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-052-the-intimate-journey-of-a-start-up-founder/ Published: 2022-10-03 In this solo episode of our podcast, Christina Weber, the founder of The Dating Dojo and WeDeepen, shares her personal journey as a start-up founder. She vulnerably opens up about the financial risks and intimacy lessons she's learned along the way. Christina takes listeners behind the scenes of her 2-month work marathon, as she launched The Dating Dojo - Connection Experiment for People Excited to Love - at Dave Asprey's 8th Annual Biohacking Conference. She also expanded WeDeepen's service offering to include Private Matchmaking & Relationship Coaching. This is a unique opportunity to hear from a successful entrepreneur about the challenges and rewards of building a business and delving in… ## DWC 051: Understanding Female Hormones with Dr. Erin Kinney URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-051-understanding-female-hormones-with-dr-erin-kinney/ Published: 2022-09-26 Are you curious about the secret world of female hormones and how they influence your dating and mating experiences? Tune in to this must-listen episode of our podcast, recorded live at the Unleash! Transformational Festival in Austin, TX. Join Christina and renowned Naturopathic Doctor, coach, and speaker Dr. Erin Kinney as they delve into the latest research and share their own insights on the topic. Dr. Kinney, also known as the Stress Reset Expert and founder of the Stress Reset Formula™, specializes in helping stressed and burnt out women with adrenal fatigue improve their mood, balance their hormones and increase their energy. Don't miss out on this fascinating conversation and follow … ## DWC 050: Burning Man Waking Dreams with Tanya Khani URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-050-burning-man-waking-dreams-with-tanya-khani/ Published: 2022-09-19 Are you curious about the transformative power of Burning Man? Over 80,000 people have returned from the desert, leaving behind unforgettable memories and profound experiences. Join Tanya Khani, the Soulful Publicist, as she joins Deepen with Christina for the second time to recap her 4th burn, and shares her personal journey of self-discovery and connection. Don't miss this chance to hear Tanya vulnerably share how she navigates disconnection from the playa and new bonds created. Tune in now and be inspired for your own journey in 2023. ## DWC 049: The Business of Birth Control: A Controversial Look with Holly Grigg-Spall & Anna Kolber URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-049-the-business-of-birth-control-a-controversial-look-with-holly-grigg-spall-anna-kolber/ Published: 2022-09-11 Uncover the hidden truth behind hormonal birth control in our latest podcast episode. Join host Christina as she delves into the controversial world of birth control with documentary filmmakers Anna Kolber and Holly Grigg-Spall, producers of "The Business of Birth Control" film (Executive Produced by Ricki Lake) which was inspired by the book "Sweetening the Pill: Or How We Got Hooked On Hormonal Birth Control" written by Holly Grigg-Spall. Together, they explore the complex relationship between birth control and women's health and liberation, and reveal the shocking side effects that have been kept under wraps for decades. These side effects include the potential impact on attraction in the… ## DWC: 048 Bhakti Love Reunion Fest with Johanna Beekman URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-048-bhakti-love-reunion-fest-with-johanna-beekman/ Published: 2022-09-04 Unlock the secrets of Bhakti, the path of loving devotion, and discover the power of Spirit with Johanna Beekman, co-producer of the highly-anticipated Bhakti Love Reunion Fest. With her captivating singing and teachings, Johanna has inspired countless individuals to connect with The Divine in a profound way. Join us as we sit down with Johanna to uncover her journey, her personal connection to a higher power through music, and the exciting lineup of events in store for festival-goers. Don't miss your chance to experience the magic of Bhakti Love Reunion Fest. Get your tickets now at WeDeepen.com and receive an exclusive WeDeepen promo code when you RSVP. See you there! ## DWC: 047 Conquering Stage Fright with Shaun Derik URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-047-conquering-stage-fright-with-shaun-derik/ Published: 2022-08-28 Are you ready to take the stage and make a lasting impression? Public speaking is the number one fear among people, but with the right preparation and guidance, you can overcome your nerves and deliver a captivating presentation. Join professional speaker and performer, Shaun Derik, as he shares his expert techniques for conquering stage fright and engaging your audience. In this episode, Shaun joins host Christina as they reminisce about their time producing the 'Underground Unattached' Curated Dating Experience in New York City. You'll learn from Shaun's advice on how to prepare to public speak and talk like you're talking to one person, view your engagements as experiments and use storyte… ## DWC: 046 Reframing Polarities & Revolutionary Tools for Dating with Ken Page URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-046-reframing-polarities-revolutionary-tools-for-dating-with-ken-page/ Published: 2022-08-22 Are you tired of feeling limited by traditional gender roles in dating? In this episode, Christina sits down with renowned psychotherapist Ken Page to discuss how to break free from these limiting beliefs and discover true intimacy in relationships. Ken, the host of The Deeper Dating Podcast and author of the bestselling book "Deeper Dating," shares his wisdom on how to assess compatibility with one simple question: "Does my soul feel safe with this person?" Don't miss this chance to learn from a leading voice in the field of love and relationships. Ken has been featured in top publications such as O, The Oprah Magazine, The New York Times, and Cosmopolitan, and is dedicated to helping indiv… ## DWC: 045 Breaking Free: Transforming Your Relationships through Self-Expression with Yarixa Ferrao URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-045-breaking-free-transforming-your-relationships-through-self-expression-with-yarixa-ferrao/ Published: 2022-08-15 What holds you back from going deeper with friends and family? Join Yarixa Ferrao, founder of Unleash!, and Christina as they share their personal journey of overcoming their fears of public speaking and how they've learned to express themselves authentically with loved ones. Unleash! is a 3-day, substance-free festival that offers a transformative experience through a variety of activities such as dancing, tantra, live music, somatic movement, emotional freedom technique, transformational workshops, rage workshops, The Dating Dojo, sound healing, camping and nature. Don't miss out on the next Unleash! experience. Make sure to sign up for a WeDeepen membership to be notified of future specia… ## DWC: 044 Sex, Love & Dating with Dave Asprey URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-044-sex-love-dating-with-dave-asprey/ Published: 2022-08-08 Upgrade your love life with the "Father of Biohacking," Dave Asprey, and Christina Weber in this illuminating episode. Discover Dave's philosophies on love, sex, and intimacy, and learn about research-based tools for optimizing the human experience of connection. Dave also shares his experiment on semen retention as a biohack for men. Don't miss out on "The Dating Dojo," a special event for single attendees at the Biohacking Conference happening June 22-24, 2023, at the Hyatt Regency in Orlando, FL. Facilitated by Christina and professional clown Jet Eveleth, this unique opportunity offers a fun and interactive way to ignite playfulness in dating. Follow Dave on Instagram at @dave.asprey and… ## DWC: 043 Navigating the Dating World with Matthew Burgess URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-043-navigating-the-dating-world-with-matthew-burgess/ Published: 2022-08-01 Dating can be a tender and sensitive journey, and you don't have to do it alone. WeDeepen is here to guide you on an adventure of self-discovery and finding belonging in love. With over a decade of experience in producing and promoting America's greatest dating experiences, WeDeepen's founder Christina and COO Matthew Burgess have all the tools you need to take control of your love life. From The Dating Dojo to Tantra Speed Date, Humhum Dating Salon, and many more, WeDeepen offers a wide range of dating experiences to suit everyone's needs. Not only that, but their private matchmaking and relationship coaching services provide personalized support as you navigate the dating world and work to… ## DWC: 042b How Water Fasting Improves Relationships with Maesyn URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-042b-how-water-fasting-improves-relationships-with-maesyn/ Published: 2022-07-25 What does it feel like to complete a 5-Day Water Fast? The results are in! Christina recaps her experience with Maesyn, who guided her through a protocol designed to press a reset button on her health and overall wellbeing. Christina shares details about the journey, the challenges she encountered, and the many ways she feels more like herself than she did prior to embarking on this experiment. Fasting Experts mentioned by Maesyn include: David Sinclair Rhonda Patrick Andrew Huberman Robert Cassar Robert Morse Dr. Eric Berg ## DWC: 042a Cord Cutting, Water Fasting & Breakups with Maesyn URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-042a-cord-cutting-water-fasting-breakups-with-maesyn/ Published: 2022-07-18 How do you most effectively process the end of a relationship? Christina and her friend, Maesyn, discuss methods for gracefully navigating the pivotal transitions in our lives, using tools such as intentional cord-cutting and water fasting. Maesyn, a renowned musician and writer, has been studying and practicing fasting for over 15 years. One of her lifestyle passions has been the exploration of the most effective, accessible methods to optimize the body's self-regenerative capacities. Using herself as a science experiment, she has developed a 50-point fasting protocol, much of which she will be sharing over the span of this podcast and the following one. This includes many simple techniques… ## DWC 041: Breaking Up, Moving to Austin & Relationship Rampage URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-041-breaking-up-moving-to-austin-relationship-rampage/ Published: 2022-07-11 Transform your relationships with Christina's powerful insights. As the founder of WeDeepen, Christina shares her personal journey of self-discovery following a recent breakup and how it led to her recent move to the vibrant city of Austin, TX and her new home at the Alpaca Playhouse. Join us for an intimate and empowering conversation on how the WeDeepen ecosystem can help you achieve the love life you desire. Don't miss out on this must-listen episode! ## DWC: 040 Conscious Coupling: The Four Pillars URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-040-conscious-coupling-the-four-pillars/ Published: 2022-07-04 Discover the key principles of a conscious relationship with Christina's latest episode of WeDeepen. Join her as she explores the four pillars of a conscious relationship, as outlined by expert Shelly Ballard. Learn how to prioritize growth over attachment, take ownership of your emotions, and create a safe space for open and honest communication. Make your relationship a place to deepen your understanding and practice of love. Tune in now for valuable insights and tips for enhancing your relationship. ## DWC 039: The Witness Circle with Jack Hunter Cohen URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-039-the-witness-circle-with-jack-hunter-cohen/ Published: 2022-06-20 Join Christina as she sits down with Jack Hunter Cohen, creator of 'The Witness Circle' interactive experience. Discover the powerful impact of sharing personal experiences and the universal truths that connect us all. Jack will guide you through the art of listening and the gift of seeing and being seen in every story shared. Take a journey of self-discovery and learn how to transform your perspective and deepen connections with others. Don't miss this enlightening episode, tune in now and visit jackhuntercohen.net for more information. ## DWC: 038 The Magic of Human Connection with Jessica Encell Coleman URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-038-the-magic-of-human-connection-with-jessica-encell-coleman/ Published: 2022-06-12 Discover the secrets to deeper human connection and overcome social anxieties with Jessica Encell Coleman's "The Magic of Human Connection" workshop. Join the thousands of participants who have raved about this transformational experience, described as a wellness modality, heart-opening ceremony, and even the best party you'll ever attend. With over 30,000 participants at events such as Summit Series, Wanderlust, SXSX, Worldz, and more, Jessica is a true expert in human connection. Don't miss this opportunity to learn from Jessica and improve your love life, find your zone of genius and understand why she does what she does, all while having fun and laughing with friends. Visit wedeepen.com … ## DWC: 037 Why Men Fear Women with Dr. Avrum Weiss URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-037-why-men-fear-women-with-dr-avrum-weiss/ Published: 2022-06-06 Dr. Weiss is a psychotherapist, an award-winning author, and a teacher. His decade-long work on understanding the internal lives of men culminated with his recently published bestseller "Hidden in Plain Sight: How Men's Fears of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships". Dr. Weiss is a regular contributor to Psychology Today and offers workshops nationally about psychotherapy with men and helping men and women understand each other. Listen in as he shares about: 7 ways men are afraid of women, The "Still Face Experiment" by Dr. Edward Tronick, Some fundamental differences between men and women, And his own love life. You can discover more about Dr. Avrum Weiss and his work at avrumweissphd.c… ## DWC: 036 WeDeepen + Biohacking, My Love & Afterlife with Christina Weber URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-036-wedeepen-biohacking-my-love-afterlife-with-christina-weber/ Published: 2022-05-30 Christina dishes about her love life, shares tips she learned from renowned psychologist Esther Perel and invites you to join a "Dating Event" during the 8th Annual Biobacking Conference happening in September in Beverly Hills. She ends by speaking about the recent school killing tragedy in Texas and how it relates to the afterlife. *Verbal Correction: Christina relocated from Los Angeles to Maryland, not NYC. She lived in NYC from 2003 to 2015 and in LA from 2016 to 2020. Christina grew up in Maryland and moved back to live with her family during COVID. Book a private session with Christina here: wedeepen.com/privates ## DWC: 035 Zendo Stereo & Psychedelics with Leonardo Canneto URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-035-zendo-stereo-psychedelics-with-leonardo-canneto/ Published: 2022-05-23 Leonardo Canneto is an Argentinian musician, composer, music producer, and meditation guide. Leo began his musical career at age 18, after moving to New York City from Buenos Aires. He made 5 records over a period of 7 years and did extensive touring as a singer and multi-instrumentalist. Leo was taught Vedic Meditation by renowned teacher Thom Knowles, and he has maintained his meditation practice since then. His lifelong passions are eastern philosophy, the healing powers of psychedelic medicine ritual, community, music, and meditation. Leo launched Zendo Stereo in 2018. He has performed for over 4000 people in person and via livestreams, with performances in public and private venues acro… ## DWC: 034 What is a Dark Retreat? with Nicole Nyima Costerus URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-034-what-is-a-dark-retreat-with-nicole-nyima-costerus/ Published: 2022-05-15 Dark Retreats have been trending in spiritual communities ever since Audrey Marcus spoke of his Dark Retreat experience in a podcast. Deeply curious and not satisfied with only hearing about Audrey's experiences, Christina googled "Do women do Dark Retreats?" There she discovered Nicole Nyima Costerus who spent 26 days in complete darkness through four solo Dark Retreat Experiences: 12 days, 7 days, 5 days, and 2 days. In this episode, Nicole Nyima reveals why Dark Retreats, where to go, what to bring, and how to prepare your mind. She shares about moving through the shadow of feminine independence and into deeper states of surrender, plus how DMT is released in the body and where it comes f… ## DWC: 033 How to Not Use Social Media with Roman Wyden URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-033-how-to-not-use-social-media-with-roman-wyden/ Published: 2022-05-02 The host of the "ADHD is Over!" podcast, Roman Wyden disappeared from social media in 2020. Christina talks with him to learn how he made the transition and to see how not using social media has changed his life. ## DWC: 032 WeDeepen + Navigating the Burden of Social Media URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-032-wedeepen-navigating-the-burden-of-social-media/ Published: 2022-04-24 Listen as Christina overcomes her nerves while recording a solo episode. Journey through her psyche as she works out her relationship with social media, gives an update on WeDeepen and shares a little about her new relationship. Topics include Social Media, WeDeepen Festival, Finding Sandler, Instagram Reels, NFT Marketplace, and more. ## DWC: 031 1001 Nights & Healing Trauma from War with Sona Tatoyan URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-031-1001-nights-healing-trauma-from-war-with-sona-tatoyan/ Published: 2022-04-18 Sona Tatoyan is a first-generation Syrian-Armenian-American actor/writer/producer with bases in Los Angeles, Berlin, Syria, and Armenia. Bridging cultures and having experienced numerous wars, her wisdom runs deep and her stories are captivating. In 2019 she traveled to her family's home in Syria which had been abandoned following the 2011 Syrian civil war. There she discovered her great-great grandfather's shadow puppets in a trunk in the attic while missiles continued to shoot overhead. The shadow puppets spoke to her, inspiring healing, reflection, and progression. Intending to share what transpired during her recent visit to Syria, Sona has written an Immersive Multimedia Theatrical Expe… ## DWC: 030 The Power of BDSM with Francesca Gentille URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-030-the-power-of-bdsm-with-francesca-gentille/ Published: 2022-03-21 Live from the Unleash! Transformational Festival, Christina and Jorge explore BDSM and sexuality with Francesca Gentille. Francesca Gentille is a Certified Clinical Sexologist and Initiated Shaman. Her work inspires transformation by combining the science and soul of sexuality. For over 20 years, Francesca has empowered thousands around the world to reclaim spark, bridge sexual differences, heal from trauma, and deepen self-love. She's an expert in the field of integrating sexuality, consciousness, healing, Tantra, Conscious Non-Monogamy, and the use of BDSM as a therapeutic modality. Francesca is a professor at the International Institute of Clinical Sexology, where she is studying to recei… ## DWC: 029 How to Repair Your Relationship with Derek Hart URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-029-how-to-repair-your-relationship-with-derek-hart/ Published: 2022-03-16 Where did you learn marriage? Derek Hart has been helping couples on the brink of divorce repair their relationships for 31 years. At the inaugural RelateFest in Miami, a room full of people who intend to thrive in love were blown away by the teachings of Derek Hart. Listen to this podcast to find out why. ## DWC: 028 Bonding Over the Loss of a Friend with Christopher Leyva URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-028-bonding-over-the-loss-of-a-friend-with-christopher-leyva/ Published: 2022-02-28 How do you connect with angels? Vanessa Esterwold's passing shook loved ones and the "LA-Conscious Community" at large. She lost her life in what appears to be a tragic love story. Christina and Vanessa shared kinship through WeDeepen and Feminine Weapon. They supported each other through their dating journeys. Vanessa was a regular at WeDeepen's Dating & Meditating. The two loved talking about love. Vanessa volunteered for Feminine Weapon Day, a fundraiser for children in underserved communities to receive art & healing programs. Listen as Christina and one of Vanessa's best guy friends rockstar, Christopher Leyva, reflect on Vanessa's life and how she now guides them as an angel above. By … ## DWC: 027 Helping Kids in Underserved Communities with Dr. Thyonne Gordon URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-027-helping-kids-in-underserved-communities-with-dr-thyonne-gordon/ Published: 2022-02-21 Dr. Thyonne Gordon is an accomplished social managing expert, writer and producer. Her work with 501c3 organizations, including Tiffany Haddish's She Ready Foundation, has created growth-oriented businesses, strong board governance, productive teams and sustainable fundraising strategies. She has empowered hundreds of organizations and humans nationwide. With a passion for youth development, Dr. Gordon worked with South Central youth organization A Place Called Home implementing a music collaboration with Berklee College of Music in Boston and the first of its kind, David and Linda Shaheen Scholarship, encouraging unlikely youth to consider higher education. Her work with CoachArt Organizati… ## DWC: 026 MindTravel with Murray Hidary URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-026-mindtravel-with-murray-hidary/ Published: 2022-02-14 Murray Hidary is a multi-disciplinary artist and tech pioneer. His stories are fascinating and his work is inspiring. Always pushing boundaries and guided by a strong desire to help people find their purpose, Murray is touring the acclaimed immersive musical experience MindTravel across the globe. Over the past five years, he's created over 500 MindTravel experiences for over 100,000 people in cities from Los Angeles to London, Paris to Pittsburgh, Berlin to Boulder; in venues such as Lincoln Center, The Theater at the Ace Hotel, The Metropolitan Museum of Art, The Grace Cathedral, and The National Arts Club. Listen to learn more about MindTravel and hear Murray's fascinating life stories. ## DWC: 025 Feminine Weapon Day & Sacred Sexuality with Amber J URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-025-feminine-weapon-day-sacred-sexuality-with-amber-j/ Published: 2022-02-07 EXPLICIT: The 9th Annual Feminine Weapon Day benefit took place at a mystical home in downtown Los Angeles. Since 2014, people have been gathering on January 30th to honor the power of femininity and co-creation, in benefit of children who are in need of care. Limited to just 50 people, the sold-out event was a one-night-only interactive theater, "The Space Between Stories." The raved-about evening began with the group watching the sunset on a rooftop overlooking the city while two World Cup Winning fencers spared to music playing from a rare instrument called, the Ambox. If that wasn't enough to inspire chatter, magician Chad Nelson made his rounds for an extra later of wow. At dusk, partic… ## DWC: 024 9th Annual Feminine Weapon Day with Jorge Torres URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-024-9th-annual-feminine-weapon-day-with-jorge-torres/ Published: 2022-01-28 Do you know about Feminine Weapon Day? It's January 30th. Since 2014, communities in New York City and Los Angeles have been gathering on Feminine Weapon Day to celebrate the power of femininity and co-creation. The event benefits children who are in need of guidance and care. Meet the associate producer of Deepen with Christina, Jorge Torres. Jorge and Christina discuss the origins of Feminine Weapon, the power of the day, and how the 9th annual event will be celebrated on January 30th, 2022. ## DWC: 023 Chakra Healing with Maya McClean & Michael Easterling Inbox URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-023-chakra-healing-with-maya-mcclean-michael-easterling-inbox/ Published: 2022-01-19 Maya McClean and Michael Easterling are guiding Chakra Healing Jungle Retreats in Tulum, Mexico. The two met while swimming with sharks. Both have led expansive lives, Maya once a singer & dancer with Prince, and Michael, having studied religion & spirituality in childhood, discovered purpose in their union. Working together, they provide focus on healing and activating your Chakras through music, nature, indigenous healing modalities, play and connection. Listen to hear their unique perspectives on the world at large and why their work is important to pay attention to. Use referral code WEDEEPEN to register for Chakra Healing Jungle Retreats at wedeepen.com/calendar. ## DWC: 022 Esther Perel Discussion Group with Leah Marshall URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-022-esther-perel-discussion-group-with-leah-marshall/ Published: 2022-01-09 Relationship enthusiasts are actively engaging in the Esther Perel Discussion Group on Facebook. The group was started by Leah Marshall five years ago after attending a talk given by Esther Perel. Wanting to discuss what she had learned, the group invites people to share their relational stories, challenges, questions, and advice. Now having reached 14,000 members, Leah has invited the group to gather in person for the first time at RelateFest happening the weekend of March 4-6 in the Miami, FL area. Find out more at wedeepen.com/relatefest. ## DWC: 021 WeDeepen + Welcoming 2022 URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-021-wedeepen-welcoming-2022/ Published: 2022-01-04 Listen to Christina's first solo podcast. Learn more about the vision of WeDeepen. Hear about her commitment to transparency, why she's best for the job, her experience on Reality TV with Andy Cohen, and what events WeDeepen has curated for you to attend in 2022. Experiences scheduled include HUMHUM Dating Salon, Eden World Sanctuary Weekend for committed couples, UN.DONE Tulum, RelateFest Miami, Unleash! Miami, Chakra Healing Tulum Retreat, Thailand Retreat, One Love Fest, and Bhakti One Love. ## DWC: 020 Decentralizing Social Media with Chi Huynh URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-020-decentralizing-social-media-with-chi-huynh/ Published: 2021-12-27 Research has shown that the use of social media may detract from face-to-face relationships, reduce investment in meaningful activities, increase sedentary behavior by encouraging more screen time, lead to internet addiction, and erode self-esteem through unfavorable social comparison. It doesn't have to be this way. Chi Huynh is launching a new decentralized social media platform, Liberson. You own your data. You can't be censored or canceled. And with partners like WeDeepen, you'll be encouraged to redesign your relationship with social media. This podcast will inspire you to stop hoping and start doing things differently. Hear Chi Huynh's fascinating story of transformation and what inspi… ## DWC: 019 How to Stay Married with Sierra Sullivan & Rono Smith URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-019-how-to-stay-married-with-sierra-sullivan-rono-smith/ Published: 2021-12-20 Keeping two people together can seem like a miracle. The divorce rate is no joke. Yet people still want to get married. Where do you go for support in holding your relationship together? Self-care has been all the rage for years. What about having a relational-care practice? Meet Sierra Sullivan & Rono Smith, founders of Eden World, a vibrant support group for couples who want to stay together. Hear the couple's origin story, including how Sierra & Rono moved from childhood friends to colleagues, best friends, and now romantically together in a thriving union for over two decades. Sierra & Rono are Relationship Role Models. This episode may help you save your marriage... or at least make the… ## DWC: 018 Finding Tribe at Unleash! with Keli Marie URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-018-finding-tribe-at-unleash-with-keli-marie/ Published: 2021-12-08 Keli Marie found her tribe at Unleash! After discovering the 3-day transformational experience on the popular Sky Life's YouTube channel, episode, "I Went To A Secret Hippie Gathering In The Desert," Keli knew she had to make it to Unleash! Keli shares her experiences of transformation and how she found a sense of belonging at Unleash! Listen to hear what it's like growing up bullied for being "too much", too big, too loud, and not accepted. She had a feeling that there was more to life. Punished as a child she'd escape to the library and read for hours, exploring spiritual concepts and alternative realities. Now at age 33 and having endured the passing of her father, Keli has come more into… ## DWC: 017 Father/Daughter Duke It Out with Robert Weber URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-017-fatherdaughter-duke-it-out-with-robert-weber/ Published: 2021-12-06 Christina's father, Robert Weber, first invested in WeDeepen in 2019. He did it because he could and also because he believes in his daughter. The father/daughter duo dialogue about him being newly retired, relationships, sex, love, and how Christina may have been affected by her parent's divorce. The episode is a practice of familiar love, as well as discernment. Once the recording stopped, her dad said, "you didn't bring up the dark stuff." Hmm... part two? ## DWC: 016 History of Sex Ed & Talking to Kids About Sex with Ariel Saint White URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-016-history-of-sex-ed-talking-to-kids-about-sex-with-ariel-saint-white/ Published: 2021-11-29 Who taught you about sex? Discover the origins of sex education and how parents can talk to their children about sex. Ariel Saint White is the founder of the sexual wellness company, My Little Yoni. Her organization partners with top OBGYNs to break down taboos and give parents and kids quality, body-positive education through a 10-book early sex-education series. Ariel and Christina get personal, chatting about how they learned of sex and what's possible to discover when discussing masturbation, circumcision, and erotic wellness. Multi-talented, Ariel shares about Love Saints, a by-invitation-only experimental offering she and her photographer husband facilitate by guiding couples through a… ## DWC: 015 Reimagining Nightlife with Imari Tuakli & Miles Alix URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-015-reimagining-nightlife-with-imari-tuakli-miles-alix/ Published: 2021-11-22 Imari Tuakli & Miles Alix are on a mission to recreate nightlife. Gone are the days when loud clubs, high heels, and hangovers were the only option. At the intersection of personal development and partying, you'll discover sexy gatherings where the people are sober, getting high off the innate experience of being human, connecting through movement, breath, curiosity, and love. Imari & Miles open up about why SPACE is important to them, how they're receiving feedback from participants and get vulnerable about their relationship, what does it mean for two straight men to love each other? Next SPACE is Friday, December 3 in Los Angeles. If you've listened to this podcast, use promo code WEDEEPE… ## DWC: 014 Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) with Yarixa Ferrao URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-014-emotional-freedom-technique-eft-with-yarixa-ferrao/ Published: 2021-11-17 Coach Yari of Unleash! has just returned from Sonya Sophia's "Advanced EFT Practitioner Training." Similar to acupuncture, EFT focuses on the meridian points, tapping them to restore the balance of your body's energy. It's believed that restoring this energy balance reduces anxiety, stress, PTSD, and depression. Yari shares about the technique and how the training has impacted her life. Not only has she further developed her ability to guide EFT group and 1:1 sessions, but during the 10-day in-person training she also discovered deep love with a woman and has since come out as gay to her mother before her 40th birthday. Now a regular on Deepen with Christina, deepen your relationship with Ya… ## DWC: 013 Transform Your Love Life with Tantra Speed Date with Guy Shahar URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-013-transform-your-love-life-with-tantra-speed-date-with-guy-shahar/ Published: 2021-11-08 Are you ready to revolutionize your love life with the power of Tantra? Join Christina on this episode as we sit down with Guy Shahar, co-founder of the Tantra Institute and creator of Tantra Speed Date. Through this unique and transformative experience, singles can participate in playful and positive exercises infused with relationship skills, guided connection and have the chance to meet up to 20 potential matches in a Puja circle. With a 95% match rate and over 15,000 participants in 30+ cities worldwide, this isn't your typical speed dating event. Listen in as we discuss the feedback from attendees, what Tantra truly is and what happens during a Tantra Speed Date event. You'll learn abou… ## DWC: 012 Communal Living with Alexander Brandrup URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-012-communal-living-with-alexander-brandrup/ Published: 2021-11-01 It's been said that Denmark is home to the happiest people. To discover why you must meet Alexander Brandrup. Alexander is a young Scandinavian who moved to the states in his early twenties. A career entrepreneur and eCommerce expert who was once burned by Amazon, Alexander is now focused on developing "The Portal," a portfolio of Co-Living Spaces for creators to commune, collaborate, and incubate projects that benefit humanity. While he acts as the founder of the organization, Alexander believes women should lead. When recording this podcast, Christina lived at The Portal's first location in the Pacific Palisades (Los Angeles) for a month. Listen to hear how and why Alexander promotes femin… ## DWC: 011 Meet The Pussy Priestess with Josefina Bashout URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-011-meet-the-pussy-priestess-with-josefina-bashout/ Published: 2021-10-25 There is no one in the world like Josefina Bashout. Her childhood was not like yours. Combined with her intellect and a divine journey to healing her vagina, Josefina activated a deeper awareness of her sexuality, including her pussy early in life. Listen as Christina's curiosity drives her to deepen with Josefina, discovering what it's like to be known and have a career as "The Pussy Priestess." This episode will guide you to expand your thoughts and feelings on the word, pussy. Listen now! Connect with Josefina Bashout, Website: https://www.josefinabashout.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pusssypriestess Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/josefinabashout/ Connect with Christina… ## DWC: 010 Raw & Real Talk: Dating & Dating Events with Alexandra Ballensweig URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-010-raw-real-talk-dating-dating-events-with-alexandra-ballensweig/ Published: 2021-10-12 Alexandra Ballensweig is the founder of the Humhum Conscious Dating Salon. Humhum hosts virtual dating experiences, plus connects community members 1:1 for guided blind date experiences. Similar to Christina, the two entered the Dating Industry in hopes of solving their own problem. Listen as they recap how they got into the business, lessons learned, and Alexandra's goals for fundraising. This episode is raw and vulnerable, like most. Check out wedeepen.com for upcoming Humhum experiences, including promo codes and special offers. Connect with Alexandra Ballensweig, Event: https://wedeepen.com/humhum Website: https://www.humhum.space/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/humhumspace Linkedi… ## DWC: 009 Spiritual Sovereignty with Yossef Sagi URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-009-spiritual-sovereignty-with-yossef-sagi/ Published: 2021-10-10 Yossef Sagi's life was intertwined with the Kabbalah center for 25 years. He grew up thinking it was the only or best way to live. At age 35 Yossef felt stifled by the limits the center imposes. Curious about his own sexuality, Tantra, and other ways to grow, Yossef exited the system of Kabbalah to become spirituality sovereign. Yossef and Christina have just returned from Unleash!, the 3-day transformational journey. Before the event, the two admired each other from afar, never having gotten the opportunity to deepen until now. Listen as they recap the event, Yossef's interesting life experiences, Kabbalah, and the consent exercise RDBSM, an acronym for Relationship, Desire, Boundaries, Sex… ## DWC: 008 Heaven on Earth with Yarixa Ferrao URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-008-heaven-on-earth-with-yarixa-ferrao/ Published: 2021-09-28 Attended by 200+ people, Unleash! just wrapped its 3-Day Transformational Festival. Top Experience Designer and Master Coach, Yarixa Ferrao and a team of 50 people created a sober-free experience at Heartland Collective Campground just north of Sacramento that blew people open. The theme 'Heaven on Earth' intended to ignite participants into their fullest expression did just that, by way of performance, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), Tantra, dance, breathwork, and two main rules: 1. No Substances and 2. Practice Consent. The event's WhatsApp chat has not stopped pinging with stories of transformation since the event. Think rolling epiphanies. Movie-worthy. Early in the episode you'll he… ## DWC: 007 Virtues & Values with Imari Tuakli URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-007-virtues-values-with-imari-tuakli/ Published: 2021-09-24 Master Coach Imari Tuakli has quit social media and Christina wants to know why. Listen as they unpack Imari's departure from Instagram, the idea that 'Growth Comes First', and The Guild's Seven Virtues for Creating the Life You Dream of Living, 1. Self-awareness, 2. Purpose, 3. Commitment, 4. Experiment, 5. Courage, 6. Community and 7. Faith. This is a good podcast! Connect with Imari Tuakli | Website: http://imarituakli.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freeimari Connect with Christina Weber | Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinaweber Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/christinalweber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christinalweber/ Discover WeDeepen | YouTube: https… ## DWC: 006 Renegade Burn with Tanya Khani URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-006-renegade-burn-with-tanya-khani/ Published: 2021-09-15 Burning Man is a breeding grounds of love stories. Year after year many craving connection flock to "the playa," where it's easy to find love. Sustaining that love outside of the Burn is a whole other story. Tanya, known as the Soulful Publicist, has just returned from "Renegade Burn." This is the second unofficial burn since 2019. Listen as Tanya shares her heart, raw and vulnerable, detailing how she's navigating love with a man she's been dancing with on the Playa since 2017. Her authenticity is relatable and makes you feel ok. Connect with Tanya Khani | Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanyakhani/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/soulful_publicist Connect with Christina | Instag… ## DWC: 005 Authentic Relating with Jason Digges URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-005-authentic-relating-with-jason-digges/ Published: 2021-09-07 Authentic Relating, also understood as a social movement, began in San Francisco in the 1990s. Jason Digges was there at the onset. The author of "Conflict = Energy: The Transformative Practice of Authentic Relating," Jason geeks out with Christina on the development of the Human Connection Industry and how to incorporate authentic relating practices into the real world. In this high-energy episode, the two explain the term "partner," what to do when you can't find the words to express yourself, and the importance of practicing human connection... like you do fitness! Connect with Jason Digges | Website: https://www.jasondigges.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaydigges/ Connect with… ## DWC: 004 Akashic Records with Daniela Gil URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-004-akashic-records-with-daniela-gil/ Published: 2021-08-31 Daniela Gil is a well-respected intuitive and member of the "conscious community" in Los Angeles. She's Guide of KASH CODES, a group akashic experience where guests ask for clarity on career, love, relationship, and worldly affairs. Daniela uses the power of Akashic Records to channel answers that bring you to the highest perspectives possible. In this episode you'll meet Daniela and also get to tap into the records, experiencing the Akashic for yourself. Connect with Daniela Gil | Guide Profile: https://wedeepen.com/guide/daniela-gil Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danielagillove/ Discover KASH CODES Experience | https://wedeepen.com/kash-codes Connect with Christina | Instagram: https… ## DWC: 003 Unleash! with Yarixa Ferrao URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-003-unleash-with-yarixa-ferrao/ Published: 2021-08-24 The Unleash! Guided Dance Journey and WeDeepen are divinely primed for partnership. Founders Yarixa and Christina became fast friends in 2017. Months after meeting they started working together. At the time, both WeDeepen and Unleash! were new. Now Unleash!, described as a Guided Transformational Dance Journey, has been attended by over 4000 change-makers and received tons of emails, videos, and text messages of personal stories of growth, breakthroughs, epiphanies, and meaningful connections. Expanding from a 4-hour experience once only in Los Angeles, Unleash! now also offers a three-day transformational retreat in nature, group coaching programs, and bookings for private events. Hear Chri… ## DWC: 002 Making Love with Brian Howie URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-002-making-love-with-brian-howie/ Published: 2021-08-14 Brian Howie is most known for podcasting, second for love, and third for politics. He's a producer of the WeDeepen Podcast Network, creator of "The Great Love Debate" and founder of Podpopuli, a growing chain of podcasting studios. He hosts five shows himself. Brian has been advising since 2017 when he helped launch Christina's first podcast, "Your Love Accomplice." The two banter about the 36 Questions, being an investigator in relationships, the meaning of love, and Christina's appearance on Andy Cohen's new show "Ex-Rated." Christina shares her disappointment that WeDeepen's application for the Shuttered Venue Operators (SVO) Grant was denied by the government. The company was anticipatin… ## DWC: 001 Getting Started with Frank Donner URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/dwc-001-getting-started-with-frank-donner/ Published: 2021-08-06 DEEPEN WITH CHRISTINA begins here! Frank Donner and Christina met at the CSQ Founders Dinner in February of 2020, right before COVID eroded WeDeepen's progress in the Los Angeles market. Frank, who co-founded the award-winning BLKBX Creative Group, was impressed with Christina, her team, and her vision. Soon after meeting, he became a key advisor. In this episode, the two reflect on what's transpired since their first sit-down meeting in WeDeepen's office at Cross Campus Beverly Hills, formerly known as Death Row Records. Recorded from a steamy car in Santa Monica, WeDeepen begins again. Connect with Christina Weber, Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinaweber/ Facebook: https://www.… ## YLA: 037 Erotic Wellness with Alorah Inanna URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-037-erotic-wellness-with-alorah-inanna/ Published: 2018-09-18 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Sex is the most powerful energy on the planet. Yet our educational curriculums neglect it, and sometimes we feel uncomfortable publicly speaking our truth about it. Alorah Inanna's teachings on intimacy have transformed the lives of thousands. Today Alorah is a Deepen Guide and host of Midnights With 'Mary' happening most Fridays in the Los Angeles area. Listen as she and I get super personal and discuss her work as a pioneer in sexual and sensual healing. This conversation is worthy of your time. Our transparency, and the stories shared, may stretch your heart/mind beyond your current reality. ## YLA: 036 Dating & Meditating with Andrew Barrett URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-036-dating-meditating-with-andrew-barrett/ Published: 2018-08-06 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Dating & Meditating is an in-person gathering happening weekly in Venice, CA. Guided by meditation teacher Andrew Barrett, the group meditates for 20-minutes and then hashes out a relationship-oriented topic like "Sending Mixed Signals," "Dating Multiple People" or "Romance vs. Life Partnership." The experience is packed each week with highly conscious, interesting beings. Most are single and all desire to achieve healthy, meaningful relationships. Listen as Andrew and Christina recap what they've learned about dating over the past four months since the experience began. You'll hear thoughts on money as it relates to dating, monogamy vs. matriarchy, and why you must dir… ## YLA: 035 Psychedelic Love with Anthony David Adams URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-035-psychedelic-love-with-anthony-david-adams/ Published: 2018-07-30 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Shame, Jim Carrey, and a vulnerability hangover flushed through my consciousness before entering this conversation with Anthony David Adams. Anthony, a Relationship Coach and part owner of Majagual (an island in Panama), and I are seekers, explorers of life and the human psyche. Relational love may be our greatest fascination. Because love, when in action, has the ability to break-down barriers, open new mental/emotional portals, and evolve civilization. Curiosity has me wondering how our thoughts may shift your perspectives. Hmm. ## YLA: 034 Single Mother By Choice with Gina Patel URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-034-single-mother-by-choice-with-gina-patel/ Published: 2018-07-16 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Do you feel your biological clock ticking? Gina Patel, age 38, desired to be a mother. Rather than wait for the "right man" to arrive and potentially miss her child-birthing years, she chooses insemination. And while the road has been filled with unforeseen challenges, Gina now has a beautiful 4-month old baby girl and absolutely no regrets. Listen to her inspiring story as she vulnerably shares her process to becoming a Choice Mother and how she's learning to navigate the question, "Who's her Daddy?" ## YLA: 033 Wounded Warrior with Danielle URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-033-wounded-warrior-with-danielle/ Published: 2018-07-09 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: My long-time friend and former flatmate, Danielle, of New York City, and I connect for a conversation about love. The morning of this recording, I suggested relationship coaching as a therapeutic form of reflection and catalyst for growth. In this intimate portrayal, Danielle struggles with identity, self-love, and direction, days after the end of a 5-year relationship. This episode is relatable to all women out there who question their self-worth immediately after a man has left physically but his emotional and spiritual presence still resides within. ## YLA: 032 Relationship Role Models with Greta Hassel Grace & Dennis Cohen URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-032-relationship-role-models-with-greta-hassel-grace-dennis-cohen/ Published: 2018-06-30 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Greta Hassel Grace, a Marriage and Family Therapist + "Calling in 'The One" Coach and Dennis Cohen, a Divorce Mediator + Conscious Uncoupling Coach, met while at an ecstatic dance. Both in their 50s and dating other people, Greta and Dennis developed a friendship first. Without pressure, the connection eventually turned romantic and led to marriage. As a couple, they glow. Seeing the pair at parties and events on the West Side of Los Angeles, you can't help but notice them. They have the type of relationship pasted on vision boards. Sitting in a Red Tent at their home in Mar Vista, we talk about their love story, the challenges of dating, and the types of experiences th… ## YLA: 031 Psychic Powers with Terrie Huberman URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-031-psychic-powers-with-terrie-huberman/ Published: 2018-06-12 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Can a psychic really help you navigate your love life? I get into it with Professional Intuitive, Terrie Huberman, who's also the guide of an Intuitive Matchmaking Experience in Los Angeles. I find psychics have the ability to get us unstuck from the past and into flow with the possibility and potential of the future. Love is found in mystery. Yet, giving too much power to someone else's word may also be dangerous. Can another really perfectly predict your future? Isn't energy always shifting and changing? Listen as Terrie and I share our own hang-ups and how intuition acts as your guide to love. ## YLA: 030 Lightning In A Bottle with Alorah Inanna & Craig Ruble URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-030-lightning-in-a-bottle-with-alorah-inanna-craig-ruble/ Published: 2018-05-30 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Venturing through my first festival with Alorah Inanna, Intimacy Expert & Lightning In A Bottle speaker, and Craig Ruble, a student of Alorah's teachings, fostered a fascinating observation of human dynamics. Recorded in an SUV surrounded by 30,000 campers inspired a conversation about east coast vs. west coast dating, sexual vs. sensational touch, and how many are searching & sorting for "The One." All around us people participated in yoga, educational seminars, spiritual ceremonies, live music, DJs, dance parties - many high on life or a variety of drugs. As upload this episode I'm left thinking, what if all of us - thousands - were stuck by that lake for six months? … ## YLA: 029 Flow + Boundaries with Rachel Maskell URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-029-flow-boundaries-with-rachel-maskell/ Published: 2018-05-08 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Author Stephen Covey says that human's greatest achievement is interdependence. On the journey to discover a best-suited life partner, willing to dance within the container of a relationship, thoughts are formed, shifted, created, and expanded. Boundaries become established in the exploration of the connection. For this episode I invite Rachel Maskell, Story Alchemist and founder of The Story Circle, married for ten years, to converse with me about how boundaries develop in a relationship. We flow through the topic which may sound relatable or even trigger you. Take note of how it pulls at you. ## YLA: 028 Art Of Cuddling with Christina Hepburn URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-028-art-of-cuddling-with-christina-hepburn/ Published: 2018-04-23 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: I've heard that many Americans and Western Europeans are starved for touch. To shift us into connection, Certified and Professional Cuddlers, even studios designed for cuddle sessions, are popping up in California. Christina Hepburn, a Professional Cuddler, and host of "T&A Sex Talk", have a fun conversation about touch, the benefits of cuddling and how to incorporate it while dating or when getting to know another before liquid contact. My new motto: Keep your arms open and don't be afraid to touch (only when consensual, please). ## YLA :027 Meeting IRL with Yarixa Ferrao & Nick Onken URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-027-meeting-irl-with-yarixa-ferrao-nick-onken/ Published: 2018-04-15 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Friends Yarixa Ferrao and Nick Onken have a spontaneous Saturday conversation with me about dating, connecting, and unleashing fears. Movement, be it dancing or just going out into the world, opens you up to newness, nearly freeing you, and allowing for magic moments of creation and connection, like this one to happen. Yarixa and Nick meet just moments before I hit record, surrendering by saying YES! to share this podcast. Whether in New York City, Los Angeles, or anywhere else in the world, meeting in real life always feels better than through an app... or at least it does for me. ## YLA: 026 The Energy Muse with Heather Askinosie & Timmi Jandro URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-026-the-energy-muse-with-heather-askinosie-timmi-jandro/ Published: 2018-04-08 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Energy is moving through us. I'm constantly shifting, changing, and learning. Every podcast guest becomes a messenger. Heather Askinosie and Timmi Jandro, co-founders of The Energy Muse, uncomfortably pushed me forward - literally becoming my energy muse. Anxiety ran through my body as we recorded. As my own worst critic I needed time to shake and move beyond it. Months later, while Mercury is in Retrograde, I'm ready to share this episode with you. We talk crystals, opening your heart, and preparing for love. Can you sense the change or shift in my being since episode one? I imagine you to have changed as well. Evolution is inevitable. Thanks for sharing this wild jour… ## YLA: 025 Create/Destroy with Lauren Wallet URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-025-createdestroy-with-lauren-wallet/ Published: 2018-03-26 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Lauren Wallet of Rebella destroyed an identity she was once known for in South Africa. Author of Love Lauren, a blog that detailed life as a Professional Dater, no longer fed her soul. After fleeing to Los Angeles Lauren learns the difference between "dating" and "seeing each other" as she more deeply meets herself 90-days sober. Lauren and I talk about self-evolution and the anxiety that can take over when a new love seems to disconnect. Is time really an illusion in matters of the heart? Or should we accept the cycle of creating and destroying? ## YLA: 024 Having Fun with Men with Brian Howie URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-024-having-fun-with-men-with-brian-howie/ Published: 2018-03-12 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Is he an Alpha or Beta Man? A "Player" or there for you to have fun with (until you're done)? Brian Howie, Host of The Great Love Debate, and I bring you a double podcast. While the two of us may be at the center of the Dating Industry, each having spoken to thousands about dating + relating, we're still in our process of "figuring it all out." Join us for a fun conversation as we talk about unique male archetypes and a dragon penis tattoo. I imagine the conversation to further your thoughts. ## YLA: 023 Wisdom From An Ageless Goddess with Alorah Inanna URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-023-wisdom-from-an-ageless-goddess-with-alorah-inanna/ Published: 2018-02-25 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Whether home in New York or Los Angeles, I find myself gravitating towards those with more life experience who appear enlightened. Driven by curiosity, I want access to their knowledge. Alorah Inanna, age 69, radiates Goddess energy. Her long gray hair, glowing skin, and white sheer wrapped gown make heads turn. I first noticed her at events and in pictures on social media. I wanted to know her. Alorah began working with the plant medicine, Ayashausa, in the 1980s. Guided by the Divine, she and her now-deceased husband guided thousands of people towards more fulfilling relationships for over a decade. Now, at her sacred space, a Temple in Marina Del Rey, CA, where we re… ## YLA: 022 Breakup & Breakthrough with Amy Chan URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-022-breakup-breakthrough-with-amy-chan/ Published: 2018-02-19 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Most people aren't meant to be together for forever. Within a breakup, you may find life lessons that prepare you for the love your soul truly desires. While challenging, breakups can also be cathartic, liberating and transformative if you're willing to make a conscious decision to move through the pain and heal. Amy Chan, known as the scientific Carrie Bradshaw, is the founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp. Finally, a destination that accelerates recovery! Amy and I chat about how we've personally overcome heartache and the knowledge she's accrued from years of studying breakups. Our conversation flows in and out of dating and relationships, emphasizing how important it is… ## YLA: 021 The Soulmate Dance with Ezequiel Leal URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-021-the-soulmate-dance-with-ezequiel-leal/ Published: 2018-02-13 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Are we half-souls seeking, searching for our other half? Or should we just look for a companion - someone to be our life partner? My gay best friend, Ezequiel Leal, and I journey through a conversation about soul connections. Over time we've learned to practice the discovery of self and to follow the heart. Having faith in life and love, while aligning with your own soul, maybe what calls your soulmate into your vortex, instantly connecting you. Listen in and don't get tricked by time. Time is an illusion. Karma, cause, and effect are always at play, especially in love. ## YLA: 020 Arriving At Ready with Bryan Reeves URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-020-arriving-at-ready-with-bryan-reeves/ Published: 2018-01-29 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Two years ago I ended a relationship after reading Bryan Reeves' article, "Choose Her Everyday (or Leave Her)." The article was read by millions. In this episode, I finally get to pick the brain (and heart) of the man known as the "Relationship Insight Ninja" - Bryan Reeves - on the difference between man and woman OR masculine and feminine energies. We flow in conversation about the journey of self-discovery that one must ride through to arrive in a state of readiness for deeply connected love. Are you ready? ## YLA: 019 Sex! with Dr. Cat Meyer URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-019-sex-with-dr-cat-meyer/ Published: 2018-01-21 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: We all come from sex. Its ecstasy makes me tingle. However, I advise, never sleep with someone you wouldn't want to be. Dr. Cat Meyer, a renowned Sex Therapist, and I have a deep conversation about the journey to sexual freedom and pleasure. Our intention for sharing our conversation with you is to spark self-query. We don't own the truth. We hope to guide you further to yours though. Listen. Then go into you. Own your unique sexuality as an adventure. This is your story. ## YLA: 018 Inner Work with Yarixa Ferrao URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-018-inner-work-with-yarixa-ferrao/ Published: 2018-01-15 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Life is a progression. Our experiences create a reality that is designed by how we respond to each moment. Why am I this way? Because of deep introspection. Yarixa Ferrao, of The Human Garage and creator of the SoulBody Method, and I reflect on our previous relationships, the guides we learned from, and how new trains of thoughts were formed. We also discuss what we love about men...like their bodies and how they're designed to please us! ## YLA: 017 So Purkh URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-017-so-purkh/ Published: 2018-01-07 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: The mantra So Purkh is known as the chant for men. Mara, a certified Kundalini Yoga Teacher, first told me about the prayer. Shortly after, I began a 40-day practice of reciting the prayer 11x daily. The Sikh mantra is said to uplift men, clear up karma around men, and bring out "The Man of God" in men. Some even call it "the love mantra" as it's also said to call in your one true (male) love. In this episode, Mara shares the heritage of So Purkh and the power of chanting it. Recorded on Day 17 of my practice, hear how it's shifting my relationship with the masculine. Both men and women are invited to chant So Purkh. I imagine it to leave you buzzing and vibrating highe… ## YLA:0 16 No Filter with Robert Schwenkler URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla0-16-no-filter-with-robert-schwenkler/ Published: 2017-12-25 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Trying to predict how to share what's on your mind so that others receive it well can be exhausting. My guest, Robert Schwenkler, Founder of The Brotherhood Men's Leadership Community, lovingly speaks his truth even if you don't like it. Robert, who first said no to being on this podcast, draws people towards him with his honesty and desire to do/be better. Listen as we chat about male/female friendship, transformational work, and $$$ from his home in Santa Monica, CA ## YLA: 015 Removing The Mucky-Mucky with Ssanyu Birigwa URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-015-removing-the-mucky-mucky-with-ssanyu-birigwa/ Published: 2017-12-21 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Lightworkers help us remove blind spots. Prior to recording this episode, I experienced a Bone and Reiki Healing session with Ssanyu Birigwa, also a Practitioner of Narrative Medicine. Listen as we recap the session. Through deep inner work, guided by the anxiety in my chest, my mindset around money and my value shifted, allowing me to step further into my power as a healer and lover. From a closet in West Hollywood, Ssanyu and I share our personal transformations and how they help us uplevel in life. ## YLA: 014 Meet A King with Nick Spano URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-014-meet-a-king-with-nick-spano/ Published: 2017-12-11 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: I have a theory that a man's life purpose is to make women happy. Nick Spano, founder of Re/Creation Cafe, doesn't exactly agree. He believes the purpose of his life is to love so greatly, with such devotion to love itself, that his love impacts the world around him. The byproduct of which makes women *very* happy. Listen as Nick opens up about how heartbreak is a catalyst, why community is vital to partnership, and how living a life in service to something bigger than yourself is the truest expression of love. ## YLA: 013 Aged Toddlers with Ross Everett URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-013-aged-toddlers-with-ross-everett/ Published: 2017-12-04 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: A conversation with Comedian Ross Everett feels like recess. We each throw out thoughts and catch epiphanies like children in a sandbox. While it appears that we may have it all "figured out," I can imagine sitting back down with him in 10 years and laughing about how far we've come. Ghosting, the power of pray, fantasy relationships, and attachment - we talk about it all in my longest but greatest mind journey podcast yet. You'll want to see Ross's show, Stop Stopping The Unstoppable, after hearing about it here! ## YLA:012 Good Health Is Magnetizing URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla012-good-health-is-magnetizing/ Published: 2017-11-27 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Self-love leads to self-healing. Let's face it, we cannot rely on doctors to cure us. Get curious. Hopefully, no one knows you better than you. Neil Cannon, the best-selling author of The Vitality Secret, gets real about attraction and the energetic pull of good health. Unfortunately, many Americans are popping pills which suppress emotions and numb desires. Who's really in that body? I find out what makes this single man aged 37 tick. With you as our witness, Neil may have even shifted his perspective from workaholic to open to love. . ## YLA: 011 Dear Lord with Kesha Nichols URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-011-dear-lord-with-kesha-nichols/ Published: 2017-11-20 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Kesha Nichols, former NBA Dancer & VH1 Reality Star, left New York City to re-enter life in her hometown of Morganton, NC. Leaving behind private jets and a penthouse apt, she found herself and regained her faith. Two years later, her soulmate walked through the Bible Study doors. Kesha and I talk about aging proudly, conversational narcissism, and how loving yourself may be the key to finding love with another. ## YLA: 010 How To Love Your Life Sober with Sasha Stone URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-010-how-to-love-your-life-sober-with-sasha-stone/ Published: 2017-11-14 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: As children, we're first domesticated by our parents and then by society. At sixteen, my friends began drinking. I followed suit. I wanted to fit in. It took me twenty years to realize that I don't really like the effects alcohol has on my brain, body, and spirit. At thirty-six, I recently embarked on a 365-day challenge to live life without booze. My guest, Sasha Stone, one of my life coaches, eliminated alcohol from her life years ago. We talk sobriety, social hacking, and how to love your relationship now. We're all unique beings. What's right for me or Sasha may not be right for you. However, our conversation may evoke envy or inspiration to think about dating, your… ## YLA: 009 Young Male Psyche with Alex Weber & Kyle Kazanjian-Amory URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-009-young-male-psyche-with-alex-weber-kyle-kazanjian-amory/ Published: 2017-11-07 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: What is it like growing up in the age of dating apps? How does it impact our social skills? I talk with Alex Weber and Kyle Kazanjian-Amory of Don't Tell Comedy about what it's like to be single at age 25 and 30 living in Los Angeles. This podcast journeys through the definition of love, soulmates, overcoming shyness and how being in flow with your life purpose may help you attract a partner who helps you achieve it. We even imagine a dating app that matches you with someone who has similar childhood wounds to help you self-correct. No matter the age, love is on the mind. ## YLA: 008 Perspective with Shaun Derik URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-008-perspective-with-shaun-derik/ Published: 2017-10-29 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Listen in as Shaun Derik, Creator of The Hard Part Show, and I explore "perspective" as it relates to dating and relationships. It's like we're all merely making up our own stories; casting people into our lives without a complete understanding of who they really are. How do we change this? Perfecting our communication skills? New social contracts? Expressed deep curiosity of another? Or could it be that we all just need to start being more honest with ourselves? ## YLA: 007 Faith In The Pursuit with Medicine Woman URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-007-faith-in-the-pursuit-with-medicine-woman/ Published: 2017-10-23 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: We've all heard, "you'll meet your mate when you stop looking and accept being single." The chatter heard is hard not to catch and latch onto, mistaking it as our truth. I call bullsh*t on it all. What's right for me may not be right for you. I speak with a best friend and leader in the psychedelic movement about faith in the pursuit of love from an undisclosed location. We explore procreation, age, fertility, genetics, and timing. Listen in. Could it be that we just need to trust life a bit more? ## YLA: 006 Male/Female Friendship with James Micheal Sama URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-006-malefemale-friendship-with-james-micheal-sama/ Published: 2017-10-03 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: The ever-expanding expectation we place on our significant other to be our everything may be caused by the lack of authentic male and female friendships. America's Top Relationships blogger, James Micheal Sama, and I debate the subject referencing The Ladder Theory, Esther Perel's research, and our personal relationships. Can men and women be just friends? I believe it's a must. Listen and decide for yourself! ## YLA: 005 The Power of Plants with Alexander & Aychele Hill URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-005-the-power-of-plants-with-alexander-aychele-hill/ Published: 2017-09-24 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Plant medicines, like ayahuasca, heal, inspire creativity and open us up to deeper, greater love. People who use them often report a sense of reconnection with themselves, others, and the natural world. I talk shamanistic love with friends Alexander & Aychele Hill who met during a plant ceremony in the jungle and married just months later. Should you run into the jungle to find love too?! Maybe! ## YLA: 004 Aware of Myself with Andrew Barrett URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-004-aware-of-myself-with-andrew-barrett/ Published: 2017-09-17 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: It's reported that 40 million people experience anxiety. For me, it's circumstantial. Andrew Barrett, a Vedic Meditation Guide, and I discuss tools to calm your nerves when stepping outside of your comfort zone. Excitement and anxiety may feel similar as we expand to take in a new partner to arrive in love, in union with each other. Stay with it. Awareness creates the opening. ## YLA: 002 One Person Changes Everything with Sarah Anne Stewart URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-002-one-person-changes-everything-with-sarah-anne-stewart/ Published: 2017-08-28 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Life shifts, changes, and molds as new relationships enter. Sarah Anne Stewart seeded what ultimately became Underground Unattached (UU). A former model, Sarah, guides humans toward greater fulfillment. After hosting numerous wellness retreats she received many requests - from men and women - to make romantic introductions. Sarah and I talk about the "singles event" which ultimately became UU and led her to meet her partner, Craig Clemens. Together, as a couple, the two experience powerful relationship coaching. ## YLA: 001 Owning Your Purpose with Amanda Young & Brian Howie URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla-001-owning-your-purpose-with-amanda-young-brian-howie/ Published: 2017-08-20 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: Imagine life if men realized their life purpose to make women happy. And if all women were lovers of men. Christina talks about Feminine versus Masculine energy with Brian Howie of "The Great Love Debate" and Amanda Young of "Urban Goddess Retreats." Are we all just spiritually malnutritioned? Brian and Amanda share how men and women may better connect - and the possibilities that can be revealed! ## YLA:000 Get Ready To Wake Up To Love! URL: https://wedeepen.com/deepen-with-christina/yla000-get-ready-to-wake-up-to-love/ Published: 2017-08-03 YOUR LOVE ACCOMPLICE: We kick off Your Love Accomplice journey - and give a sneak peek at the path ahead!