Kimi Inch is a somatic therapist, Core Energetics practitioner, and founder of &More, an erotic leadership brand based in Austin. She is also on WeDeepen's faculty. In episode 108 of Christina Weber's podcast, recorded at Kimi's Austin home, the two walked through Something More, Kimi's four-day immersion in conscious kink, which Christina had just finished. This guide sums up what they said about safety, play, and learning desire in your body instead of from a book. Quotes are from the episode transcript, lightly edited for readability.
Kink is play, not a stereotype
Many people say "I'm not kinky." Christina's follow-up question: do you like to play? To her, kink is "novel, it's play, it's experimenting with what's possible and feeling into my emotions."
Kimi says it makes sense that people feel nervous, because the media mostly shows "this really cliche, dark, heavy, intense" picture. What she wants to bring forward is "imagination and creativity." Her playful rewrite of the stereotype: "Instead of blood, sweat, and tears, can't we just do grace and elegance instead?"
Kink names, like the one Christina took on this year, "Your Majesty," are part of the play. Kimi describes them as one instrument in an inner symphony: "Sometimes you want to give that violin a solo."
Safety starts in the nervous system
Christina asked what someone should do if they crave deeper intimacy but don't yet feel safe enough to explore it. Kimi's answer was about the body, not technique. "If we are struggling to keep a regulated nervous system, it's really hard for us to step into our pleasure and to be in deep connection and intimacy with another."
The fix is gradual exposure in a well-held setting, whether that's a therapist, a coach, or "a well-organized, conscious event where people can hold a container." Each time you're vulnerable and nothing bad happens, your nervous system learns, "I can be heard, and people can be present with me, and I won't be judged or rejected or shamed." That, she says, "opens you up to infinite possibility around pleasure and relational experiences."
Christina sees herself as proof. After years of practices like eye gazing in Tantra and connection workshops, what once felt edgy now feels easy, and each layer she goes deeper shows her a new one.
Everything is an invitation
Kimi opens every immersion with one agreement: "Everything is just a series of invitations. There's no expectation, there's no demand." You choose your own pace, and you can stop or change your mind at any time. She also asks the group to "celebrate everything," including trying an exercise for five seconds and deciding it isn't for you.
She pushes back on the idea that erotic spaces require you to be cool and polished: "We really want to encourage realness and rawness and vulnerability over this performance sort of sexy image." Christina noted that about half the group came as couples and half were currently single, and that the space honored both: "We're relationshipping in community."
Learning desire in the body
Day two of Something More centered on the Erotic Blueprints, a framework created by sex educator Jaiya that sorts arousal styles into five types: Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter. Blueprint coach Kayce Neill taught the framework, and Kimi built a hands-on exercise for each type.
Her reason is simple: "I can attribute every successful erotic encounter with the ability of how attuned me and my partner are to ourselves and to each other." Reading about attunement isn't the same as feeling it. "Most of the time people just don't know what's possible in their lives until they actually have an experience of it. It's all theory until then."
Christina's own results changed with experience. Her first quiz months earlier put her in one type, and she felt boxed in. After the immersion she retook it and came out a Shapeshifter, which felt right. She now sees a primary blueprint as "a gateway into all of the others." Day three moved into rope work (shibari) and impact play, taught by professionals and framed as ways to practice surrender, leading, and trust.
Why this matters for your love life
Christina's point running through the episode: sex education stops at age 13, and adults rarely get a second chance. "Relationship education is something that is never ending and unfolding." That's WeDeepen's premise too. Love is a trainable skill, all feelings are welcome, and you own your own experience at every step. Practice works best repeated over time, not crammed into one weekend. WeDeepen's membership gives you a weekly live session and a community to keep practicing in, and Love Immersion retreats in Austin offer an in-person reset. Join the membership. Come play with us.
FAQ
Who is Kimi Inch?
Kimi Inch is an Austin-based somatic therapist, Core Energetics practitioner, and founder of &More, who teaches conscious kink and erotic leadership. She is on WeDeepen's faculty.
What is conscious kink?
As Kimi Inch describes it, conscious kink is consensual erotic play built on attunement, care, and choice, where every activity is an invitation you can accept, decline, or stop at any time.
What are the five Erotic Blueprint types?
Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter. The framework was created by Jaiya. Most people are a mix of all five, with one or two leading.
Do you need a partner to explore this kind of work?
No. In the immersion Christina attended, about half the participants came as couples and half were currently single.
Where can I listen to the full episode?
Episode 108 is on the WeDeepen podcast page, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. For Kimi's background, listen to episode 99, Beyond the Whip.