My heart was filled with hope and love in 2015. Every Underground Unattached questionnaire response received informed me of another human's desire for romantic partnership. The words read sent me on a quest to learn more about them, their feelings and their desires. I researched relationships, human connection, and love. I often sent inquiries to Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh and spoke to spiritual advisors to ask how we program our experiences to take everyone's unique personality into consideration. Our intention is to seed lasting relationships.  

But the truth is: love and relationships are complicated. Formal matchmaking is difficult. We're all complex-beings. We have stories. We've felt heart break. Yet, we yearn for partnership and connection. 

Recently I was inspired to take note of my lessons; to distill them to share with you. Accessing my resources, I reached out to trusted psychologists, dating coaches and matchmakers to include the wisdom they felt most called to share too. The list includes quotes, stats, theories and more. Please add any other concepts or ideas that you think are worth sharing in the comments below. Enjoy!

x, Christina

1. "We live in a time where everyone expects instant results. If people would give themselves more permission for patience we would have a better relationship with each other. Let it develop in your mind." ~ Ilona Royce Smithkin

2. Dating is a part of the human mating process whereby two people meet socially for companionship, beyond the level of friendship, or with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or marriage. ~ Wikipedia

3. "Would the person you are looking for choose you? If no, why not? Within the no is a reality check; rethinking and self growth that needs to happen. If yes, then what are the chances the two of you will meet? Are you in circles that your potential partner is? Have a strategy to increase your chances to see/be seen by your potential partner. I am surprised how many people neglect this important logistical piece!"  ~ Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh

4. 71% of people believe in love at first sight. ~ Statistic Brain

5. Building intimacy in a relationship involves emotional vulnerability.  There’s just no way to get around it. The two go hand in hand. You can allow yourself to be vulnerable once you believe at your core that you are strong enough to handle any outcomes. ~ Jasbina Ahluwalia, Matchmaker and Dating Coach

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